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Ilyrium -> Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 10:35:02 AM)

EDIT:
Apologies for what turned out to be a long initial description - I'm trying to get ideas from you to distinguish the differences and analogies between a blowjob (i.e., fellatio, which seems perfectly natural) and face sitting (i.e., cunnilingus).
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It's really hard to pose the delicacy of what I'm wondering - so - assume the context is that I, as a vanilla guy all my life, have been getting blowjobs since day one - which seems as natural as breathing.

Likewise, I've been, on top, providing cunnilingus to a mostly passive lady (until the wiggling starts in earnest), where she is basically lying on her back as I lap at the buds tucked in, almost hidden amongst the furry flower petals.

But, I've never been exposed to, until recently, face sitting.
Nobody has ever asked.

Face sitting - to me - of which I am still a virgin - seems more of a "female dominated" version of a ponytail blowjob (where you grab her hair and you do the pushing for her from the back of her head).


This push-her-head-from-the-back approach to fellatio seems, to me, the equivalent of face sitting (where in face sitting, the man is prostrate on the floor, and the lady essentially gyrates above his face to her satisfaction).

This seems, today, so natural a position - I wonder why nobody ever asked me to allow them to face sit me before.

Thinking all the way back to puberty, I admit that cunnilingus was at first unwilling and, initially at my (first) girlfriend's (multiple) request. In fact, it took me a month or two of persuasion - as a young teen - to get used to the (dirty) idea (we didn't have the Internet in those days to help us understand such things prior to actually trying them out in the flesh).

Roughly all through high school, it was on request only - but - by college days, spending time at the Y became as natural as a connoisseur learns how to heartily experience an earthy red wine, each with their own bouquet, legs, color, and taste that is unmatched by another.

But, I've never been faced sat. Nor had I ever been asked.

At least I'd never been asked to perform cunnilingus as how I now envision face sitting to be, which is more of a D/s position (to me), than what I would consider (from my experience with the ladies that I knew) to be a typical vanilla sexual experience.

Fast forward to today (and add the Internet), and, I have (rather erotic) visions of face sitting, starting from those highly erotic Namio-style drawings and leading up to the full-bound golden nectar versions of D/s play.

Being of a logical mind and body, I start to wonder why I've missed out on face sitting all my life - and - the answer - seems to be - that, naturally, it hadn't occurred to me - and - culturally - nobody asked before.

Which gets me wondering.
Why don't women ask for face sitting more often?
Isn't it as natural as the equivalent of a blowjob?




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 10:51:36 AM)

I can only speak for myself. I don't ask for it because I don't like it.

In the interest of full disclosure, I don't like oral sex anyway, but facesitting is even less appealing. If someone's giving me oral sex, I WANT to be passive and just enjoy it. My legs go wobbly when I orgasm. Not an issue if I'm on top during good old P-i-V, because I can just relax my weight against his pelvis. I wouldn't just rest my weight on his face because I'd worry about hurting/suffocating him, and because the stimulation I was enjoying would change or stop. Personally it also feels a bit awkward to have someone pressed against my crotch.

But another reason I think is that a lot of women have early experiences with folks like you, who had to be persuaded to put their face in a 'dirty' place. Logically we know that oral sex is not a bad thing, but when your early sexual experiences make you feel that way, it stays with you for a long time. When a guy is down there giving you oral, he can always move away and change position - it doesn't require quite the same level of confidence as climbing on top and forcing yourself onto him.

Maybe I would feel different if I were more dominantly inclined. In truth I never enjoyed being the face in facesitting all that much either. It's harder to do a good job in that position, so unless you fetishise the pussy itself .... meh.




ResidentSadist -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 11:43:55 AM)

It must be your exposure is contrary to mine. I been exposed to it since I was teen and Lords of Acid been singing about since 1988 "I Sit on Acid" Now I know your point is that you feel the vanilla word doesn't do this and I guess my life and the Lords of Acid aren't truly a good measure of vanilla. But to have a chic blowing you crawl up, grab the headboard and put her pussy in your mouth just wasn't a rare thing in my vanilla youth. However, I was very liberal from a very, very young age and didn't date straight girls, even in my pre-teens. So maybe it is a hetro thing, not a leather or vanilla thing. Vanilla bi girls like to sit on your face by my experience.




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 11:50:09 AM)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CxVKtNkQAtw just for you Ilyrium




ResidentSadist -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 11:54:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CxVKtNkQAtw just for you Ilyrium

I love that skit.


Sit on my face and tell me that you love me
I'll sit on your face and tell you I love you too
I love to hear you oralize
When I'm between your thighs
You blow me away

Sit on my face and let my lips embrace you
I'll sit on your face and then I'll love you truly
Life can be fine if we both sixty nine
If we sit on our faces in all sorts of places
And play till we're blown away




eulero83 -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 12:11:37 PM)

FR

I licked her pussy before getting a blowjob, I've done without being asked and felt perfectly natural as kissing and licking was a tool that worked for all the other body parts. I have to admit that the movie "american pie" had been in theaters some years before so I had kind of an idea.




MissToYouRedux -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 12:17:58 PM)

FR:

Faces aren't all that comfortable...[:D]





MsMJAY -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 12:23:42 PM)

I find it extremely hard to climax while facesitting. I do enjoy it for humiliation.




Ilyrium -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 1:12:27 PM)

I had never seen that Monty Python skit, so that was funny.
Thanks for posting the words - as it was hard to recognize the lyrics from the video.

The Wikipedia on this song seems to equate it with fellatio and cunnilingus - but - someone wrote to me that the equation is perhaps more like the following:
Oral sex: felatio (blowjob) === cunnilingus (i.e., more passive and vanilla)
D/s play: skullfuck === facesitting (i.e., more active and powerful)

As for the comfort level, that was an interesting tidbit that it's not all that comfortable, as it hadn't occurred to me (the prospective facesittee) that the facesitter might not find the process comfortable. It seems that it would be infinitely more controllable and comfortable - but clearly it's not a passive lie-back-and-enjoy activity - which is relaxingly comfortable in and of itself.

As for the men who lick pussies before ever getting a blowjob, my hat's off to you. I remember the exact conversation where my very first girlfriend asked me to do lick her and I was shocked and refused politely. It just didn't seem right. I was a young teen, so that was my very first exposure to the concept. It just hadn't occurred to me at all prior to that.

Just like that, facesitting (and skullfucking for that matter) hadn't occurred to me, until recently. At this point in my life, it seems perfectly natural - so that's why I wonder why more women didn't/don't ask.

Now we know a bit more of why.




windchymes -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 1:52:50 PM)

What other ladies have said, plus, it just doesn't feel that good in that position. Part of the reason is because the movement of the guy's head is going to be limited because he's all but pinned to the bed (or whatever surface he's lying on). So he pretty much just waggles his tongue around and sucks a little bit, but, that gets old real fast. If we squash down so he can do more, then he can't breathe. It's so much more comfortable and enjoyable to be lying on my back and letting him work the magic he will do with full range of motion of the head.

Nah, to be the equivalent of skullfuck, we'd have to grab the guy by the ears and repeatedly slam him into our pussy while figuring out a way to get him to gag, puke and sling snot everywhere. [&:]




eulero83 -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 3:32:57 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

Nah, to be the equivalent of skullfuck, we'd have to grab the guy by the ears and repeatedly slam him into our pussy while figuring out a way to get him to gag, puke and sling snot everywhere. [&:]


that made me think... if blow jobs were so natural why is there a gag reflex? [:D]




ExiledTyrant -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 3:54:02 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: eulero83


quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

Nah, to be the equivalent of skullfuck, we'd have to grab the guy by the ears and repeatedly slam him into our pussy while figuring out a way to get him to gag, puke and sling snot everywhere. [&:]


that made me think... if blow jobs were so natural why is there a gag reflex? [:D]


And that got me thinking that if child birth is so natural, why is there pain?

Exiled




Missokyst -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 5:19:14 PM)

It isn't comfortable.
Consider this.. even if I were a dominant female why should I lord it over you to prove I am in charge when I could lay there and shove your face in my lap while I just enjoyed?




littlewonder -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 5:22:16 PM)

quote:

Why don't women ask for face sitting more often?
Isn't it as natural as the equivalent of a blowjob?


I don't like being on top. It's a dominant position for me and I'm not dominant.




SweetAnise -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 5:40:35 PM)

If she is dominant then she can have her pleasure box licked anyway she wishes. But, I could see it just as enjoyable to see the sub doing their best to please while Queening and just not doing so...just not getting it right... just think of the humiliation in that? Ah....such a turn on.




MistressDarkArt -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 6:49:39 PM)

It's a totally uncomfortable position for me. I'm also not a big fan of oral, but even if I was I wouldn't want to receive it in this position.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 8:56:27 PM)

Why should I have to balance myself & my pussy up above his head, which is not all that comfortable? I can just lay back, reach down & grab him by the hair and shove his face into my crotch, that's way more comfortable and relaxing for me. I'm still the Domme and grabbing him by his hair is my version of "the ponytail blowjob" as was mentioned.

NBMG




DesFIP -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/1/2014 8:59:53 PM)

I couldn't possibly orgasm in that position. I'd be worried about keeping my balance. Same reason I don't orgasm standing up.
Lying down, or tied into a ball on top of a desk means I can relax and enjoy the sensations.

If what I'm worried about is not falling over, then I'm not going to enjoy it.

Now he's stood up and had my head over the bed and from a control point of view, he enjoys that. But the position that gets the deep groans out of him are when he's lying back on the bed and solely focused on enjoying the sensations versus focusing on other things.




HoneyBears -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/2/2014 3:34:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Ilyrium

But, I've never been exposed to, until recently, face sitting.
Nobody has ever asked.

But, I've never been faced sat. Nor had I ever been asked.

Which gets me wondering.
Why don't women ask for face sitting more often?

??? Why would you have to be asked???
If this is something you enjoy, why aren't you suggesting it?
You just say, Come here and sit on my face, or express to your partner how much you would like for her to do that.

It may be an uncomfortable position for her, but then you can shift positions whenever she wants to come.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I couldn't possibly orgasm in that position. I'd be worried about keeping my balance. Same reason I don't orgasm standing up.
Lying down, or tied into a ball on top of a desk means I can relax and enjoy the sensations.

If what I'm worried about is not falling over, then I'm not going to enjoy it.


You are not alone -- I can't come very often while standing or in an upright position either (unless it is cowgirl).
I have to undo his restraints so he can hold onto my ass, after I am done queening and playing with him.




orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to cunnilingus) more often (akin to fellatio)? (1/2/2014 4:38:00 AM)

I don't compare face sitting to blow jobs.

I compare face sitting to face fucking. By face fucking I mean, in this context, the man sitting, kneeling or bending over me, whilst using my mouth as a passive hole.

So - to ask why a woman never requested face sitting is like asking why you never mounted your vanilla girlfriend's face and fucked it like a pussy. And the answer is probably something like - because she'd kill me! It's not to say that vanilla people never do this, but considering how squeamish many people are about giving oral anyway, to turn it into something so extreme is an unlikely option for many people.

To answer this question personally - I've never asked for it because it seems unerotic and not something I'm interested in. I dislike receiving oral sex so it's not my cup of tea.

Also, I think I answered your question fully, but I had to skip lots of parts because it got a bit wanky man in places. Is this really a question or is it more your own personal ode to face sitting?




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