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RE: ..realizing your submissive cravings/need...total p... - 1/15/2014 5:44:11 PM

Blueswordsman

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Good evening Runningkc,

If you can answer the following question honestly, I think you will know if you can save your relationship or it’s time to move on.

If there wasn't a sexual issue between you and your Dom, why bring in a girl?. Because you feel inadequate and your Dom deserves more?
Or you want to leave?

Blue

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RE: ..realizing your submissive cravings/need...total p... - 1/25/2014 3:14:51 AM

DeineSKlavin

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I too have always been service oriented and submissive to others, yet, in my career, I often became the leader running things. I was in my mid 40's when I finally spoke the words out loud, that I was submissive. It was not until 47 that I became Sklavin (slave) with a Total Power Exchange. There had to be mutual respect, trust, and love. He makes all the decisions. I own nothing, it is all His. I submit, surrender, and serve willingly. To please Him is very fulfilling. I am still intelligent, I still am consulted for my thoughts on a given matter, but, He makes the decisions, right or wrong, and we go with them. If they need changed, we do that too. No repercussions, no I told you so, none of that. My job is to make His life easier and keep things operating smoothly. It is not all one sided; I obey and please Him; in return, he takes care of me, protects me, provides for me. It works for us and we are both happy with it. Should there be a time when He cannot or is unable to take control or make a decision (medical reason, work travel and unable to contact, that kind of thing,) I have been told to act as I thought He would with His blessing and support. He does not micromanage, I can and do choose to dress in a manner pleasing to Him, prepare dinners He enjoys, keep the home clean and running smoothly. I do not control finances at all. I gave Him this willingly. I do have access, but do not have to deal with the monthly bills. Since we are in a M/s TPE relationship, there are Rules to be adhered to. Nothing off the wall or humiliating, just Rules Herrchen gave and are followed without argue. I hope this gives you some insight. It's how it works for us as we live it 24/7.

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RE: ..realizing your submissive cravings/need...total p... - 1/25/2014 9:55:58 AM

AlphaFemsRule

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I've always had slightly submissive tendencies, even though I've often been more dominant in relationships.

Looking back throughout my life, my attractions were almost exclusively towards women who were regarded as intimidating / direct / etc. Intelligence was (and is, still) huge for me; there was an intensity and self-aware confidence in their eyes that I really liked. Even though I preferred to be 'submissive' to them, it also felt like I was finding an equal in some ways.

I dunno. I still don't consider myself anywhere near the kink-level of a typical submissive male. Because none of what I feel sexually is directed towards myself or about cultivating a sense of humiliation. It's more about finding a woman who can inspire awe and, frankly, not let me run roughshod over her in the relationship. Because that's pretty much where I'll go if I'm with a woman who possesses anything less than a strong personality.

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RE: ..realizing your submissive cravings/need...total p... - 1/25/2014 8:25:28 PM

pg4g

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Yeah, that sounds a lot like my experience AlphaFemsRule.

Always interested in more dominant people. If you were confident and controlled and intimidating, my interest shot up a lot. I'm not really a typical submissive. I enjoy the power struggle, and I'm a strong personality who prefers to switch somewhat, but be controlled the majority of the time. Generally only dominant people could handle me. I'm too... in control. I'd walk over other people.

Knew I wanted to be controlled, by the age of 8. All those cops and robbers games got me working out I was into being controlled very very quickly. I was always a little too interested in being caught, held down, cuffed etc.

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