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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/7/2014 9:49:04 AM

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Oh, pretty much everything.

My wife is the greatest human being I ever met. We have a lot of crazy sex. We're too busy doing for each other to fight.

Her work, her family, her health -whatever. It's all good.

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/7/2014 10:07:36 AM

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if we were compatible then there should be no compromise ... as for willing to relocate, did that and no regrets here... found Master online and he is the love of my life... no compromise needed...just saying

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/9/2014 11:15:53 AM

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I know there are many here that have found that "one". Did you have to compromise on anything? Do you have any regrets?

When I get involved with another person I am changing from being an individual to being a part of a team. There is little that I would not sacrifice for the greater good of the team -- I just don't think of such things as "sacrifices". It's more like "needing to make a decision". My thought processes have little or nothing to do with details like "would i need to move and give up my job." Rather, I'd be thinking, "Is this person a strong team player in the relationship sense"

Everything else flows from there.

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/9/2014 11:45:02 AM

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I find that the two people flow nicely together without having to be worried about compromises because it all just freely flows together, or they don't flow together nicely and it ends up in a compromise struggle

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/9/2014 3:07:40 PM

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Totally agree with that, lw.

One thing I noticed early on with the Mister is how we just "meshed."

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/9/2014 4:07:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
One thing I noticed early on with the Mister is how we just "meshed."

"Meshed" is a good word. Carol and I have meshed. The obvious question here is even if I were willing to compromise on something I desired why on earth would Carol be willing to do so? The only really possible answer is "because the relationship benefits greatly from this sacrifice on Jeff's part" and that answer is going to stick in her craw... a lot. It works the same for me in reverse. I'm not real keen on answers which sound like "Carol is getting less than her perfect life."

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RE: What are you willing to compromise ? - 2/9/2014 4:59:58 PM

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Well see, the one thing neither of us could/would compromise on is "being true to who we are." And neither of us would want the other to compromise that. When you're true to who you are, nothing else really feels like a compromise.

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