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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 5:53:24 PM

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Your replies make it sound as though you are slap and tickle buddies, instead of partners in a D/s relationship. There's nothing wrong with that. Unless, of course, you don't find it fulfilling.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 5:55:41 PM

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How do I not become bratty when we don't have time for a date night?

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 5:57:59 PM

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what do u mean by slap n tickle buddies?

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:00:12 PM

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Kinky fuckbuddies, whose main (or only) reason for spending time together is to get each other off.

I'd like to unapologize now, if you don't mind.

I certainly wish you all the best in figuring this out.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:02:39 PM

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y would u un apologize?

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:14:40 PM

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I believe my first take on the situation was correct.

You seem to have an almost childlike understanding of social dynamics. That isn't a bad thing -- I think a lot of men might find it really sweet. But you type like a twelve-year-old, and you have a hard time giving useful answers when we ask you simple questions. If you're only doing that because you think it's fun to act little, now might be a good time to think and talk like a middle-aged woman. If you're doing it because you can't help yourself, then I hope your master makes you very happy.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:19:22 PM

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How do I not become bratty when we don't have time for a date night?

My man had to cancel on me yesterday. The thought of being bratty never crossed my mind. I was bummed, but as a mature adult, I understand that life happens.

Now, if it were poor time management on his part that had caused him to cancel, I might not have been so understanding.

Why don't you two have time?

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:28:12 PM

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My Master doesn't have a lot of time. He works full time and volunteers and there isn't much time left for date night. Our last date was Sept.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:33:43 PM

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If I understand you correctly, he has time to fuck you a few times per week but not take you out? That would annoy me too because I'd feel like all I was to him was a fuck buddy.

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Thank you for that...Our typical week is seeing each other few times a week. Sometimes if time allows we go to lunch dinner or the movies... I do enjoy that... BUT it always ends with playtime!!!!

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My Master doesn't have a lot of time. He works full time and volunteers and there isn't much time left for date night. Our last date was Sept.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:36:58 PM

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~FRing it~

If this isn't working for you, it's up to you to speak with him about this. Asking a bunch of strangers over the Internet if it can happen doesn't mean it will happen for you if the person you are with has no time to do anything other than fuck you. And if you aren't happy, then it's on you to do something about it or move on to greener pastures that can provide you with what you are looking for.

My guy lives almost 5 hours away from me, yet he takes time out of his schedule every month to spend one or two days with me. And this is a guy who travels the US and Canada regularly for work. Some visits involve BDSM, some visits are dinner and movies. But we take the time to make it work because that is what is important to us. Be it BDSM or vanilla as hell, we make sure to take the time to stay emotionally connected.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:37:51 PM

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BINGO..........I have been with Master 4 1/2 years and I hate feeling like this

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:39:59 PM

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I did speak with Master about this and he said " When I have time we will have date night" and he didn't want to talk about it again

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:41:20 PM

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Tell him that when all you two do together is play, you feel like a fuckbuddy and you don't like that.

"What you permit, you promote."

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:42:01 PM

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If I understand you correctly, now that I've read all of the posts, you are trying to figure out how to approach your master to ask for more dating time, without sounding or acting like a brat. Is that close?

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:42:57 PM

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YES it is........

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:44:09 PM

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I told him that and he said he didn't want talk about it and that when he has time we will have date night again

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:44:23 PM

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I'd be interested in the advice given to that one, myself.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:45:34 PM

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If he has time to fuck, he has time to take you out. He's CHOOSING to not make time.

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:48:46 PM

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I agree with you... TY.. UGH

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RE: can you have date nights - 1/23/2014 6:51:40 PM

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My Master doesn't have a lot of time. He works full time and volunteers and there isn't much time left for date night. Our last date was Sept.

This situation with your Master is bothering me. You say you've been with him for 4-1/2 years yet you live apart, I take it. Does he ever speak to you about plans for the future or what the future might hold for you as a couple? Then I have to ask you, honey, is your Master married? Is that why he can't spend more quality time with you, besides his other commitments?

If he hasn't taken you out on a date since Sept., and you have let this slide for the past 4 months, then you are getting the kiss of death. This is when romance goes out the window and you get taken for granted. I think that deep down you know your M/s relationship is going nowhere fast or you wouldn't have felt compelled to ask your question.

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