RedMagic1
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ORIGINAL: Shawn4d So me and my gf have been dating for about 6 months now and having some bondage fun and control play. Usually we switch off a few times a night before finishing up. Would anybody have any hints and/or tips on how to make her want to be dominant all the time instead of switching off? It is so common as to be a stereotype that once a male "sub" finds a woman who will dom him sometimes, he gets greedy and wants her to do it all the time, whether she wants it or not. As is always true in life, you control nobody except yourself. Therefore, if you want, you can strive to make yourself as submissive to her as possible. This might be a deal-breaker for her, of course. Maybe she wants an in-charge man, or a partner who is 50/50. So your relationship might not survive, because you are changing what you are bringing to it. But you could certainly start being as submissive to her as possible, and see what happens. Pick up after yourself, pick up after her, do all the dishes, rub her feet and back. Most women, even vanilla women, will be more sexual if their partner does things like that.
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