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RE: can you be a friend and not in the friend zone, - 1/30/2014 7:58:08 AM

Milesnmiles

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

No. We've barely talked, and after the post I'm writing to you, we probably won't talk again.

I'll tell you straight, though, one time. It's clear to me that you're lonely, and you miss human interaction, so your posts are geared primarily to elicit responses from others. Any other goal, like being correct, helping others, or figuring yourself out, are secondary, or perhaps you don't consider them at all.

So I see no further reason to interact with you. I certainly wish you the best in your personal life. Your advice about women is still lousy, and if the OP follows it he's a fool.

Okay then let's look at your two "posts" here.
They are posts only directed to the OP in passing, they are directed at me. Thus making them at best attempts to hijack the threat, attacks on me or both. None of which tries to furthers the objective of the OP.
Next, if this is what you consider to be some kind insight into who I am, you have the insight of a rock and should discontinue interacting with anyone until you get some serious medical help.
Good luck with your medical help,
;-)
PS if you respond to this in this thread I will not respond and assist you in further hijacking this thread.

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RE: can you be a friend and not in the friend zone, - 1/30/2014 8:08:29 AM

Blueswordsman

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I'm old (older than Old School) Men don't friend woman they desire.

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RE: can you be a friend and not in the friend zone, - 1/30/2014 9:51:52 AM

Toysinbabeland

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

Just tell her "let's just be friends, and we can talk"
See how long she sticks around.

I would agree with you, but he doesn't want to be friends. So on the off-chance she says yes, he's then stuck back in the same situation. He's previously tried to be friends and been disappointed that he's had no 'payoff'. Saying 'let's be friends' is lying, in his case. He wants the relationship or nothing.

Athena... ah, see, but you are more forgiving than me. I wrote her off in my head.

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RE: can you be a friend and not in the friend zone, - 1/30/2014 11:10:33 AM

graceadieu

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ORIGINAL: YourBigDaddy67

I am not sure what to say or believe, every time I go down this road of being a friend to a woman with hopes that it might pay off later I have gotten screwed!!!

How is having a good friend that you like hanging out with "getting screwed"? And if you don't actually like being friends with these women for the sake of being friends, then why put up the act?

This lady probably knows that you're only acting friendly to her because you're into her, and that's why she's dating other guys. Women don't like being lied to. It's better to just come clean and ask her out.

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RE: can you be a friend and not in the friend zone, - 1/30/2014 12:50:24 PM

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When I was in my early 20s I worked at a large engineering firm as their first (and at the time only) female engineer. At university I was one of 3 women studying engineering.

So from an early age I found I made friends with men easier than with women, mostly because I was pretty much surrounded by men. When I started my job at the engineering company, I did a flat-share with a guy I worked with. He and I were friends, but before we moved in together we had 'the talk'. He admitted he'd like to date me, but he really wasn't my type. So I laid it on the line, we agreed that we'd be friends and shared the apartment for 3 happy years, both of us having a variety of partners during that time.

Now after this flat-share finished, I agreed to move in with another male colleague. Again we had 'the talk' and again we both agreed it could only ever be friends.

He lied. He got really pissed when I brought home my new boyfriend and the atmosphere in the apartment was awful. I ended up moving out and the friendship ended.

Now, over 25 years later, I'm still friends with the first guy. The basis of our friendship is acceptance and honesty, and I love that he sends me pics of his kids and grandkids

OP, I'm going to suggest you bite the bullet and have 'the talk' with your friend. It might be disappointing, but then you'll know for sure and then you can decide if you can put the torch you're carrying for her down and become possibly a lifelong friend, or whether you walk away and move on.

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