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lovethyself -> physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:50:47 AM)

So, now that I've finally got a partner for regular impact play (among other things), I thought it might behoove me to find out about appropriate aftercare for these activities. I've started searching through the forums, but I'm mostly working from my phone, and the threads that I've been able to find so far seem to be all about the emotional aftercare, which is admittedly an important component, but it doesn't really answer my question.

So, what tips or tricks do you have to keep your bottoms willing and, more importantly, able to keep coming/going back for more? It doesn't have to be restricted to impact play either. I'm always interested in learning new things, and will likely keep exploring.



DesFIP -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 7:33:50 AM)

Ask them what they need.

However, water is essential. We start play by bringing glasses of water in with us.
Once he's cooled down, he cuddles me. I'm always cold so he doesn't want to get under the quilt with me when he's dripping with sweat. And honestly, until he's stopped sweating, I don't want him cuddling me.

I need a blanket and time to rest, hopefully nap. Afterwards, we both want food. Cheese and crackers and fruit are fine. Something with protein. So a couple of energy bars or such would work.

So in addition to what the bottom needs, what do you need? Because it's important that you get your needs met also, and that your needs and his are compatible.



lovethyself -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 7:57:01 AM)

We're good with communicating our short term, immediate needs to each other. If I need to be held, or to talk things out, if we need water or food (usually fruit for me). If he needs to hear from me where I'm at.

I was wondering if there were things that my body needs that I'm not immediately aware of. Things like if I'm getting caned regularly, should I be using a moisturizer after? Witch hazel for the bruises? Are there foods or vitamins that help promote healing? Are there tips and tricks to keeping the skin from getting "leather butt"? (I think that's the term I've heard tossed around)

Sorry for the confusion in the OP, I'm the bottom. It was a sort of (failed) attempt at a play on words, since it's usually my bottom that's being played upon.



angelikaJ -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 8:29:22 AM)

Arnica (cream or gel) can help with bruises.




Kana -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 1:50:50 PM)

I have em give me backrubs.
It gives them something to focus on as they slowly come up. It maintains regular contact, which is critical. Lots and lots of little touches.
And it makes me purr, which seems to make her happy too.
Happy master makes for a happy slave.
Whudda figgered?



lovethyself -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 2:01:13 PM)

I'm not allowed to give him backrubs. He's too ticklish. Head skritches are okay though.



Kana -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 2:24:56 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lovethyself

I'm not allowed to give him backrubs. He's too ticklish. Head skritches are okay though.

That works.
But I'll give you a hint. Familiarity often diminishes ticklishness.



lovethyself -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 2:30:00 PM)

I'm working on it. He doesn't jump at first contact anymore, and I try to *place* my hand rather than slide my hand. But his purring from the head skritches is pritty nice too.



mummyman321 -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 2:54:55 PM)

For a physically intense session, have a piece of dark chocolate on hand and give it to them afterwards. It has natural healing abilities. It also increases blood flow to the brain, helps control blood sugar, has a mild stimulant, high in minerals like potassium, copper and magnesium. In other words a great pick me up after physical and mental activity.



MattUK2 -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 3:53:32 PM)

Hi I'm new here and I know somewhat about skin care, and trauma to the skin.

1. Drink plenty of water.

2. Vitamin therapy:
1,000 mg of a vitamin C supplement two to six times a day, if it cause diarrhea cut back 500mg a time until diarrhea stops. Vitamin C promotes new tissue growth and strengthens new tissue and skin.

Vitamin E directly on the skin - break open the vitamin E capsule and apply it three times a day. Orally 800 IU daily.

Fish oil, orally and topically one to two capsules or 1 tbsp twice daily, can aid in healing, decrease inflammation and boost immunity to safeguard against infection.
Take a multivitamin that includes vitamins A, C and E, as well as the B-complex vitamins, magnesium, zinc, calcium and selenium.

3. Bathing:
Stay away from Antibacterial Soap especially with Triclosan. Triclosan and all the antibacterial soaps can cause an infection to happen. Our skin has a natural protective layer of bacteria that keeps the pathogens in check. Antibacterial soaps ‘kills’ ALL BACTERIA good and bad and allows the pathogens to grow back faster, and weakens the good bacteria.

Ivory is the best soap to use, just as you’d use on a baby’s bottom.

Red wine, or Concord Grape juice bath. Half a bottle into a full bath of water. This plumps up the skin on the buttocks and make them feel softer. The antioxidants will improve the texture of the skin. No more than twice a month for best results.

4. Scrubs/Lotions:
Use your everyday facial scrub as you do on your face gently work it into the skin of the buttock to open the pores and allows a deep cleaning. Facial scrub will smooth any rough skin.

Firming lotion to the buttock; it will firm up and tighten the skin on the buttocks. Tighter the skin the smoother the skin will feel. Do this after a shower, and even before bed.

Shea butter daily. Shea butter penetrates to soften and smooth the skin, as well as improve the tone.

Hope that helps keep you bottom soft and supple ;-)



Missokyst -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 5:03:29 PM)

I am an odd one in that I only tolerate cuddles after heavy play unless I really am attached to my partner. I allow cuddles but slip out as soon as I can. Instead I like a good chat, some chocolate (a couple of candy Kisses are good) and a juice drink of some sort. I do enjoy giving my partner as massage because it allows me to calm down.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 5:15:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MattUK2

Hi I'm new here and I know somewhat about skin care, and trauma to the skin.




Welcome to the boards, Matt! Now back to our regularly scheduled programming.

lovethyself, a cold-pack will help bring down immediate swelling and bruising. The next day, a heating pad or hot bath will help with stiffness.



Tantriqu -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 5:55:11 PM)

Water before, during and after; small sips of juice [more quenching] during then hot or cold chocolate milk for protein afterward since you've both been working out [I keep a thermos of each, unless weather/temp is obvious for one or the other].
I prefer Vit A gel topically, or Vit E or aloe gels, keeping in mind some men don't want any healing creams, and love the afterburn.
Presuming you eat well or even just average, oral vitamin supplements have recently been nicely debunked, so you don't need to spend $ on those.
Yep for ice then heat as above.

If a sub has over-stated his enthusiasm/tolerance which led to over-impact, I find icepack with pressure then Canesten cream [anti-fungal] has mild analgesic properties and seems to speed healing [we did the scientific thing of treating one cheek with it and the other with diaper cream; Canesten side healed much more quickly and felt better].


The touch afterwards does vary by person; some men are aroused by it, some relaxed by it: as you say, some will say they're one when they're actually the other, and I've had two who've been astonished by how much they love their back gently and variablly stroked after they've had their backside warmed.
Purrs indeed!
And in my case, usually followed by strapons :-)



lovethyself -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:06:03 PM)

Matt, thanks! That's a lot of info for me to mull over. Welcome to the boards.

MDA, if things stay on their current path, there will be many more fun times to be had (*fingers crossed*). Must invest in an ice pack.



shiftyw -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:21:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I am an odd one in that I only tolerate cuddles after heavy play unless I really am attached to my partner. I allow cuddles but slip out as soon as I can. Instead I like a good chat, some chocolate (a couple of candy Kisses are good) and a juice drink of some sort. I do enjoy giving my partner as massage because it allows me to calm down.


I don't like cuddles even from a partner I'm really attached to. I prefer he go chill a little bit and come back to me once I've gotten a bit more composed and had a glass of water. I like to walk around a bit after...which is probably weird...but I usually leave him cooling off and go get a glass of water, perhaps something for bruising, or maybe even take a quick warm shower. I spend a few minutes by myself and when I'm ready I go back to him for some snuggles and then we eat! Usually we have a snack, like cheese and apples, or something with some protein and healthy carbs.



Missokyst -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:30:22 PM)

LOL yeah I said I "tolerate" cuddles from non partners and that is only because of social niceties.  I have learned to be more accepting of cuddles from people with whom I am emotionally attached, mostly because I have learned some things are just not for my benefit.  Otherwise I would be more likely to walk it off.  I DO, and always have made excuses to go to the bathroom immediately afterward, not to use the facilities but to take that deep breath and release from the prior activity.  Then we cuddle (short) or longer if it is someone I love. 

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I am an odd one in that I only tolerate cuddles after heavy play unless I really am attached to my partner. I allow cuddles but slip out as soon as I can. Instead I like a good chat, some chocolate (a couple of candy Kisses are good) and a juice drink of some sort. I do enjoy giving my partner as massage because it allows me to calm down.


I don't like cuddles even from a partner I'm really attached to. I prefer he go chill a little bit and come back to me once I've gotten a bit more composed and had a glass of water. I like to walk around a bit after...which is probably weird...but I usually leave him cooling off and go get a glass of water, perhaps something for bruising, or maybe even take a quick warm shower. I spend a few minutes by myself and when I'm ready I go back to him for some snuggles and then we eat! Usually we have a snack, like cheese and apples, or something with some protein and healthy carbs.



shiftyw -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:37:39 PM)

Ah, I am fortunate enough to be with someone who doesn't necessarily like cuddles right after either. But yah, I usually will if someone wants that- just because I know it makes them happy.



Lynnxz -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 6:45:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Arnica (cream or gel) can help with bruises.





I found that when I was doing pro-sub work, that Arnica did exactly jack-shit.

0/10, waste of money,



littlewonder -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 8:32:24 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lovethyself

So, what tips or tricks do you have to keep your bottoms willing and, more importantly, able to keep coming/going back for more? It doesn't have to be restricted to impact play either. I'm always interested in learning new things, and will likely keep exploring.


I know this isn't what you are looking for but it's the honest to god truth. What keeps me coming back is knowing that he loves and cares for me. It's not the aftercare. Aftercare is just something nice that keeps us intimately and physically close but not what keeps me coming back.




littlewonder -> RE: physical aftercare for post play (2/7/2014 8:34:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lovethyself

I'm not allowed to give him backrubs. He's too ticklish. Head skritches are okay though.


He used to feel the same until we became closer and over time as I got to know all his spots and he got used to my touch, he now rarely feels ticklish. Now it just feels good to him and it's something he loves. [;)]



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