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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:04:56 AM

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And for Noguard4:

Lose the pic of you posing in front of a trailer.

Lose the part where you eulogize your deceased partner who died 7 YEARS AGO.

Maybe explain the extent and type of your disability instead of dropping it in like a lead balloon and then running away from it.

This is a medium of selling yourself and you're doing yourself no favors.

Best of luck. You seem like a really nice person who deserves love and crazy sex.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:08:50 AM

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Well, I actually DO want to know.
Especially since I have gotten a few off-the-wall responces
that did not seem to make any sort of sense at all to me!
I just want to be sure that I am not wording something
in a way that can be misunderstood.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:11:19 AM

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……And lose the hat too.

Maybe don't refer to where you live as a "household" either. A tad grandiose if you ask me.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:13:14 AM

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OK...try it again....

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:17:38 AM

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Hard to read the black on blue

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:22:27 AM

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Better, but def. a snore-arama bland-fest.

You enjoy "intensity"? I'm sorry, but could you be a little vaguer?

You enjoy talking on the phone to prospective partners? Hey, you and you alone, pal.

It's diff. for woman. That morass of nonentity would draw a dozen responses a day if it were by a woman even at the 5 level. For a guy -let alone an old guy- you need a little game.

As per above, selling yourself can be a bit painful. Keep at it.

Bonus points for throwing Jesus under the bus, tho. Otherwise, you're swimming with cement shoes on.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 10:23:55 AM

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I don't think it is necesary to say you are willing to drive to meet.

While it isn't unusual for "doms" to try and insist on all kinds of things, I think it is generally the gentlemanly thing to do.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 11:35:08 AM

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Thank you!
My missy was a very much beloved collared slave of mine,
but she was not my partner!
She was married to another man,
yet came to me asking for my collar & protection.

I am afraid that I have never been much of a salesman!
Not even back when the family store was still in opperation.
Thus selling myself, is a bit of an odd concept for me.
My products & services always sold themselves on their own merit.

As for what I am searching for...
I want so much more than just love & crazy sex!
I am looking for a slave that can really give her all to Me.
Service & devotion such as like I have been blessed with in the past!

On a different point...
I had not even given a thought to the pics with the
trailer in the background giving the impression that,
that was all that there was!
Thanks again for pointing this out!

I had used the term househole to encompass
all the houses & properties then involved,
as my slave missy owned her own farmette,
and my anna had her own house a few towns up.
But... things/circumstances have changed since then.

I do not see anyone mentioning anything bizarre though,
such as were in some things that have been sent to me of late.
I truly was wondering where some people were coming from
with their rants about setting people up for rape & abuse!
Then there are others that simply say:
You are ridiculous. ..get a clue...get a life...
Such were truly puzzling to me!

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 1:26:35 PM

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If you're a homely old guy in the ass end of nowhere with a long story and you get a snowball's chance in hell at love and crazy sex, I say split it down the middle and take that deal.

As to women writing you telling you to get a life, from what I hear, that's more and better response then the average dommy guy gets here. Why not write 'em back and make fun of them in an amusing way? In your scenario, you have nowhere to go but up.

And again, lose the hat. You're old, you're bald. Your fedora gambit is fooling no one.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 1:49:19 PM

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I don't know... some women like hats. I know I do. I even know that some hats hide some things, but I have no problem with that either.

Also, some may have a problem with a man that has lost someone and mentioning her. Some days I would, but some days I would find it enduring. It depends on how it is done. In this case, I think the only threat to someone would be their own emotional stuff... because a man that can love and show respect or honor for someone in his past, could make a very good companion. Then again... he could hold all others in comparison. However, the way it was done didn't strike me as obsessive and no one else could ever be as good.

We cannot cater to all people and please everyone. It is best to put our best forward and be ourselves. Modify things if WE think it needs modification, even if we ask what others think. Lots of writers ask what others think of their work. Input is good. However it can also be untrue to who we are and that is where we have to draw a line.

Relationships are not gimmicks and using gimmicks to get them... really isn't honest.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 2:17:18 PM

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IF it was anyone else in my relation,
other than my great grandfather...LOL...
you woulda been quite right!
In my case...
that hat hides a mass of unruly hat hair!
What can I say besides that my hair is
definately NOT very sub!

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 6:36:31 PM

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It looks much better now. You are a decent looking man and seem to be a nice guy, wishing you lots of luck. It is really nice NOT to see a long list of kinks where someone claims to be an expert.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 7:24:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nogardthe4

Well, I actually DO want to know.
Especially since I have gotten a few off-the-wall responces
that did not seem to make any sort of sense at all to me!
I just want to be sure that I am not wording something
in a way that can be misunderstood.

You've been mourning her for 7 years. You talk about her in such terms that tells me she would always be a ghost in bed with you and your new partner.

No smart person would want to enter into that kind of a clusterfuck. No matter what she does, she wouldn't be good enough because she hadn't become a carbon copy of your late partner.

You aren't available to be emotionally intimate. You are stuck in the grieving process. I suggest you get professional help. I understand what that does to someone, I've been there. And the best thing I did was get help in moving on and becoming someone able to be intimate with another.

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RE: is it me? - 2/17/2014 7:36:32 PM

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I enjoyed reading your updated profile, quietandintense.
If I were in the market and you contacted me, I wouldn't refuse an offer to get to know you more.

That being said, not every woman will offer you the attention you deserve, regardless of how
well your profile reads. I like the advice from domnotlooking regarding participating here in the forums a bit.
I think it will offer you a healthy distraction while you continue your search.

Best of luck!

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 5:03:49 AM

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wondering why i am unable to meet a sub here for anything more than an introduction....is it me?

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 5:20:38 AM

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How many times are you going to post that?

Start you're own thread, if by some (small) chance you are not the OP's sock.

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 5:33:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: realjanet

wondering why i am unable to meet a sub here for anything more than an introduction....is it me?

maybe it's because you're using a stolen photo which you appear to be passing off as yourself...people tend not to trust dishonest people.

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 5:34:25 AM

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I was just coming to put a link to that poster in this thread...
Sock... scam... whatevs it is, its pretty weird.

Kinda tempted to make a post saying...
"wondering why i am unable to meet a sub here for anything more than an introduction....is it me?"
Just to creep people out, invasion of the body snatchers style.

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 1:47:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: realjanet

wondering why i am unable to meet a sub here for anything more than an introduction....is it me?

It's you...but it's also the fact that those you contact aren't as gullible as you're hoping they are.
Translation = your picture and your profile text have scam written all over it.

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 3:13:52 PM

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Yes, I still miss my missy.
Likewise others that I've cared about that have passed.
That does not prevent me from loving others in the future!
The heart is a wonderful thing! It never runs out of love!
The more love that you give, the more love that you get back!

You say I talk about my missy in 'such terms'...let's explore that abit.
I said she was a 'very much beloved collared slave', & she 'owned her own farmette'.
Those were the only terms mentioned here that addressed missy in particular.
Toss in what is on the profile about her too! Which is just those last 2 lines.

Tell me...
What amongst all of that, tells you that I would want a carbon copy of her?
Remember, a copy is NOT another origional! It is merely a copy there-of!
Me-thinks that you might have assumed my missy to be some sorta super slave.
Keep in mind...you are talking about a person who was
considered terminal thru-out her time with me & died of her cancer.
Not hardly what most would consider the perfect slave material...
yet I loved her in-spite of that!
BTW: I have loved since missy passed,
and that relationship ended due to that person's cheating & drug use.

The closest I have had to a perfect slave over the years, was my elsie.
However I would not want a copy of her either! Thru no fault of her own!
But elsie did 'set the bar high', IF one was comparing her attitude,
talents & service to all of those that have followed since her days!
Understand...
all I ever ask of anyone, is for them to give me their
level best effort/to do the best that they can do, with-in their limitations!
To want more than their best effort, to me is unreasonable.

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