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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Cobalt, I've read on here numerous times where a Lady or poly /s would simply love a male /s that can get primal and be damn serious about it. I think your desirability and fuckability is escalating after each revelation.

Jus sayin

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Oh dont worry, the nude photo is an additional photo. And i plan to replace the nude photo once i can get a photo of me while hard. Btw, unrelated, why is there a max weight option but no min weight option? I like BBW! I mean, i love all types f sizes but i really like big girls.

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Oh dont worry, the nude photo is an additional photo. And i plan to replace the nude photo once i can get a photo of me while hard. Btw, unrelated, why is there a max weight option but no min weight option? I like BBW! I mean, i love all types f sizes but i really like big girls.

A few words of advice which I hope you'll find helpful. Please don't do a fully nude shot either frontal or rear-view. We gals (male subs message female subs frequently hoping to get lucky with any female) get spammed daily with dick pics & ass pics, and it gets to be awfully tiresome. Basically we don't want to see a guy's junk until and unless we have an interest in him, otherwise it's visually distasteful. A Domme will ask you (although you can offer, just don't do it right off the bat) for a nude photo when the time is right, and when that time comes, be prepared to be cam-verified. Too many stolen pics getting passed off as the real deal, you know.

Do not, under any circumstances, include an erection shot in your photo gallery. It makes you come across as desperate, horny, and shallow.

DO indicate in your profile text that you're into BBWs. That's always helpful for the larger ladies to know. Avoid getting graphic about the T&A part of it, however.

I noticed you mentioned in your profile that you are "hairy." Unless you are hirsute or excessively hairy everywhere, I would omit that word. If you're referring to your facial hair or having longer-length hair, your primary pic already shows this, so no need for over-emphasis. "Hairy" is just not a very sexy descriptor and seems more like a warning.

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Oh dont worry, the nude photo is an additional photo. And i plan to replace the nude photo once i can get a photo of me while hard. Btw, unrelated, why is there a max weight option but no min weight option? I like BBW! I mean, i love all types f sizes but i really like big girls.

A few words of advice which I hope you'll find helpful. Please don't do a fully nude shot either frontal or rear-view. We gals (male subs message female subs frequently hoping to get lucky with any female) get spammed daily with dick pics & ass pics, and it gets to be awfully tiresome. Basically we don't want to see a guy's junk until and unless we have an interest in him, otherwise it's visually distasteful. A Domme will ask you (although you can offer, just don't do it right off the bat) for a nude photo when the time is right, and when that time comes, be prepared to be cam-verified. Too many stolen pics getting passed off as the real deal, you know.

Do not, under any circumstances, include an erection shot in your photo gallery. It makes you come across as desperate, horny, and shallow.

DO indicate in your profile text that you're into BBWs. That's always helpful for the larger ladies to know. Avoid getting graphic about the T&A part of it, however.

I noticed you mentioned in your profile that you are "hairy." Unless you are hirsute or excessively hairy everywhere, I would omit that word. If you're referring to your facial hair or having longer-length hair, your primary pic already shows this, so no need for over-emphasis. "Hairy" is just not a very sexy descriptor and seems more like a warning.

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Thanks for the advice. I made sure the nude photo was not my main one, but i still uploaded because i am comfortable with my body. And i listed my self as hairy because i like being honest and dont want complaints that they "didnt know i be this hairy"

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Ok i think i will delete the nude pic. Im sorry if i didanything wrong.

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Cobalt, then you would be a very nice find for someone. There are quite a few BRILLIANT women on this site that I am going to encourage you to talk to, that will really help you define and understand yourself better. So I am going to blow the whistle here and hope they come see you.

MistressDarkArt
LadyPact
LadyLaffette
FireyOpal
MsLadySue
GoddessManko
NiceButMeanGirl
Laday_Constanze
TNDommeK

Please forgive the spelling, and there are a dozen more that I hope will take the initiative and come here or PM you.

Exiled

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

No problem. I only wish to be my best? Hey, is it wrong i want to be a househusband? Cooking and cleaning while my wife/ Mistress goes to work? Because poetry is the only thing im really good at, and that dont pay well.

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

No problem. I only wish to be my best? Hey, is it wrong i want to be a househusband? Cooking and cleaning while my wife/ Mistress goes to work? Because poetry is the only thing im really good at, and that dont pay well.

Somebody else will have to answer this for you because I'm not into househusbands or male wives--not my thing. But there are women who are, usually within an FLR-Female Led Relationship of one sort or another. I'm kind of old-fashioned when it comes to that, but I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you are pulling your weight, keeping up with what's expected of you, and don't become a burden to anyone.

Hint: It helps if you're very organized, keep on top of your household duties (cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, plus repairs in addition to the yardwork--remember, this isn't a role reversal, and whoever is better at a given task should be the one handling it while the other partner pitches in to learn or can serve as back-up, ideally), good at childrearing, but most of all, really good in bed.

[Edited for typo]

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Sorry about the double post. Anyway, i hope i get some more advice, and maybe even find someone kind enough to help me out. I may just be a poet whose only sexual expirence is cybering, but i feel if only given the chance to prove myself i might become great catch. Also should i look for women or wait for them to come to me?

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Sorry about the double post. Anyway, i hope i get some more advice, and maybe even find someone kind enough to help me out. I may just be a poet whose only sexual expirence is cybering, but i feel if only given the chance to prove myself i might become great catch. Also should i look for women or wait for them to come to me?

You're allowed to do multiple quotes. I would try to limit it to a triple quote or else the post size starts getting out of hand. Unless you're referring to the other thread you started on "Service Top" earlier this afternoon.

Up until yesterday and today, my estimated ratio of male subs (CM's largest demographic) to Dommes was approx. 30:1 or more. I won't count female Switches because there aren't very many classified as such, and some of them are bisexual and may not be actively seeking a male partner at this time.

You've arrived at an unusual time when there is an exodus taking place. The impact to the number of male subs may not be affected significantly, but the few eligible Dommes may have dwindled down in size. Females can afford to pick and choose on this site; therefore, you need to get your game on if you want a competitive edge. Not that it doesn't happen, but if you wait around for women to contact you (other than for commercial purposes), you might be waiting a very long time. Consequently, you must be more pro-active here than you would have to be on a vanilla dating site where the numbers are more balanced.

You're a man, so if you come across a profile that interests you, make the first move, and personalize your contact message. Don't go lurking around assuming that showing up on the Viewed list or even adding a profile to your favorites will motivate a woman to contact you. It doesn't work that way. Minimum two full sentences, two paragraphs would be better. If you don't fit somebody's parameters they've set for their mailbox, your message could go directly into their Buik (spam) Mail and get automatically (manually) deleted. It's always best to make sure you fit the basic criteria specified, with minimal wiggle room allowed. If in doubt whether you can "sell" yourself, go ahead and give it a shot. Whatever you do, don't send a boiler-plated form letter.

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ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Well, part of me is having trouble finding anyone who would be interested in me. They are either after a full dom or a full sub. I am alittle of both. So....will i be forced to make a choice? Must i become a full dom and risk breaking from the pressure to always be the best, or bdcome a full sub and risk being humilated and losing my say in things.