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RE: Insecurity - 3/31/2014 4:48:32 PM

frunandsins

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I apologize is this is a diverting the topic slightly.

But first, you have a lot of helpful and constructive advice from fem Dommes here, so do heed them.

That said, are there really no fem Dommes who like hairy men? Is hirsuitness categorically deemed undesirable fairly universally? I guess I just don't get that. I'd have assumed that tastes vary and some will like one type while others will like other types. I know in m/m D/s dynamics some play with shaving as a form of emasculation. Is that the reason behind the preference for hairless men for Dommes in general?

Speaking as a male Dom, I typically reject hairless men as subs because they don't seem masculine enough to me. Some exceptions apply, but that's the general rule for me. But that aside, I would like to see the applicant in his natural state, and if I deem that one part of their personal grooming needs altered, I will issue the command once we establish a relationship. For instance, I have ordered some subs to stop shaving their bodies, and I have also ordered some subs to trim back some of their beards, etc.

But obviously, since you're seeking a Domme, cobalt, go with what those who took the time to respond had said. :-)

Concerning house-husband skills, it will probably be good for you to start learning them. That way you can expand the potential pool of Dommes. Also, be ready to offer evidence of these skills. Take pictures of your room if you're tidy and good at organizing. Take pictures of your prepared dishes and baked goods if you're good in the kitchen. Take a pic of a certificate of massage therapy if you have that, etc. Talk is cheap, and evidence counts for a lot more.

Edited to add:

I will advice caution in declaring your interest in mtf transsexual individuals, if your fantasy involves them using their born reproductive organs. Almost all the mtf transsexuals I know have some level of unease with their born genitalia. Also, those who have finished sex reassignment surgeries will not be able to fulfill some of these fantasies of yours.

So, ask yourself if you're really interested in mtf as women, or are you just interested in some kinky sex. If the former, then I would advice re-assessing how important those fantasies are to you and whether it's worth alienating some mtf women by broadcasting those. If the fantasy is indeed important to you, then by all means, be up front about it like you are, but at the same time, maybe not describe yourself as seeking mtf women. You can say pre-op mtf or transitioning mtf to be more clear, or you can try using the term "she-males" (those who self-identify as she-males tend to be more at ease with the dual gender bodies) or dual genders.

< Message edited by frunandsins -- 3/31/2014 5:24:38 PM >

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