frunandsins
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Welcome. :)
You might also want to introduce yourself in the Intro thread.
To tackl the questions:
1. Collars *can* mean that, but it can also mean whatever the fuck others want it to mean. In public dungeons, it may mean only ownership in the dungeon and they are not necessarily 24/7 slaves. Whether you should or should not wear one depends much on the etiquette at your local scene. Ask someone at the scene if you want to know what the local rules are.
2. If you do not have fetish gear (leather, rubber, latex), something more reasy to take off will work, like a jockstrap. Also, did you see the attires of the other subs at the scene? Are they all in fetish gear? If so then you might want to invest in some basic attire. Latex or rubber shorts shouldn't be that expensive. Boots of some sort are recommended. Go bare chested if you can't also find a latex/rubber vest/shirt that you want.
3. In the profile, give some explanation on who you are, what you are looking for, and why should anyone contact you. It does not need to be a 5-page autobiograghy, but do make an effort to reveal some things about yourself. Avoid making it a long list of kinks, if you're interested in relationships and not just hookups. If you just want hookups for now, that's ok, too, just make that clear in the profile. If you're seeking female Dommes, the word of wisdom is not to post pics of your cock or ass. ;-) I took a look at your profile and it seems like a good start. I would personalize it more as you go, e.g. do you have geographic limits, do you want cyber relationships, do you want to be a part of a poly relationship, have you had successful vanilla relationships, etc., and also expand more on your hobbies and strengths (cooking? dancing? house work? etc.).
4. If you want to explore pegging, invest in a small dildo or a small vibrator (small in diameter, not length). For a beginner, I would recommend something no thicker than 2 to 3 fingers together. You should shop for it at a store the first time, because you probably won't know enough to pick a good one from just online. The hard rigid ones will make insertion easier, but the softer flexible ones feel better (imo). Don't be greedy and go for the gorilla size ones ;-P Another thing you may want to invest in is a good anal douche. There are many varieties out there, some can be attached to the shower and some are free-standing. Good anal hygeine is a good selling-point, unless you're looking for scat masters, which is perfectly fine if you are. And if you do douche, learn to do it correctly. Also, you will need a good lubricant. Get water-based ones - they are the most versatile. If you use silicone based lubricant, some toys will not work well. Get small sample bottles first if you don't already have a favorite before you buy the industrial sized one. After that, practice, practice, practice. You can ask more if you want to know about warm-up exercises and preparing yourself. Many of us have plenty of experience with anal virgins.
Above all, keep being honest to yourself, and you will find your right match in time. Patience, self-imrpovement, learning, and also making mistakes, are all part of the plan.
And do feel free to cotninue asking questions. The people here are brutally honest and we don't sugar-coat anything. But we are also very eager to help those who seek it.
Enjoy, learn, grow. ;-)
< Message edited by frunandsins -- 3/31/2014 6:50:30 PM >
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