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RE: Why are sub men so "easy"? - 4/18/2014 5:31:42 PM

KYsissy

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Here is my limited experience. When I was actively looking for a mistress, i met a couple, we had a bit of fun. But it never lasted. It seemed to be firced and on a fairly superficial level. We both knew the roles we were supposed to play. And it never progressed much past play.

On a whim one day I posted a craigslist ad looking for a platonic friend for a certain outdoor activity I enjoy. I got one reply. We talked online for three months before ever meeting. We met. Became friends and over time started to discuss sex. She was a bit down on men in general and i made the comment, she is a pretty awesome lady and I would love to be her oral slut. Now she had just a very cursory knowledge of BDSM and absolutely no experience at this point. Some weeks later, at her house she mentioned my comment and if I meant it. I said yes. She said "Show me".

Almost a year later she is really spreading her Mistress wings.

I guess its one of when you stop looking, you find what you are after stories.

Perhaps meeting people outside a scene may result in better results?

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RE: Why are sub men so "easy"? - 4/19/2014 5:35:10 AM

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I actually agree with you about the issue of some having a complex. The need to prove something. I have, for most of my life, wondered why people can get so caught up in the idea of having to prove something. I often deal with bratty/smart mouthed subs who get very confused that I refuse to pay them the kind of attention they want. When they stomp their feet or behave as if they are trying to prove something I tell them the only thing they are proving is that they are really children and that if they choose to act in that way I will only treat them as children. I have had the same conversation with a few "dominants" and they don't seem to take it very well. But then my two cents worth of an opinion on how to correct the matter is simply to remove anything sexual from the exchange. If a sub offers or a dominant demands the answer to both is No. If you want to 'serve" than serve. If you want to dominate than dominate. No hissy fits, no rages. Hold yourself to something higher and I will do the same. It really is a shame that people let sex get in the way of understanding first. (or maybe I'm just weird, who knows)

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