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why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who is ... - 5/10/2014 3:43:03 AM

subdlboy30

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Omg someone tell me why the only mistressess that will talk to me are webcam models

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RE: why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who... - 5/10/2014 3:54:20 AM

searching4mysir

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Welcome to the discussion side of CM (called CollarChat).

What is a sample of your initial email to the ladies? How are you choosing them? Are you leading with your kink?

Perhaps this might help:Ask A Mistress FAQ - READ THIS FIRST

Because I'm in a rehab facility, they've blocked the main side (but not the chat side) so I can't comment on your profile.

< Message edited by searching4mysir -- 5/10/2014 3:55:12 AM >

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RE: why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who... - 5/10/2014 3:54:36 AM

DaddySatyr

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Welcome to CollarChat!

I will answer your question if you send me $20 (or £35).

Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?

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RE: why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who... - 5/10/2014 3:55:22 AM

MissKittyDeVine

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Finding a compatible woman in the lifestyle is every bit as complicated as finding a compatible woman in the vanilla world. Perhaps more. You list diapers as a major interest, and many women do not share that interest. Some are not interested in a switch. But don't give up. Yes, there are a lot of ProDommes and cam girls here, if you are asked for money then politely decline and move on.

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RE: why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who... - 5/10/2014 4:46:49 AM

DarkSteven

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Hi there.

The #1 reason I can see is your profile.

1. Ok I am ready to have a relationship with someone who wants to live this type of lifestyle.

Unnecessary.

2. I would love to commit to master or slave. But for a true successful relationship one person has to be in charge I believe.

If I read this correct, it's saying that you don't care if you're the D or the s. Why would a Domme want someone with that attitude when she could get a sub?

3. I am into most bondage humiliation spanking and toilet restrictions and role play involving diapers.

Two problems here. One is that diaper play and toilet play aren't real big, and the interest in them tends to skew male. The other is that you just led with your fetishes - you have said nothing about yourself as a person, and women will assume that as long as they cater to your fetishes, you won't care about them as people either.

4. Please do not contact me if you just want me to pay to watch u touch yourself on line I am not that desperate yet.

Fella, what were you thinking when you wrote this? What's the point? Cam girls won't read your profile, so they'll still contact you. Any legit women will get the whiff of desperation. Delete this sentence.

5. I have no problem getting phone numbers just really want to share this lifestyle with someone who loves adventure romance and life in general.

By "getting phone numbers", I think you mean that you're doing fine meeting vanilla women, just not kink women. This sentence is pretty good, but just saying "adventure, romance, and life in general" is not enough to define you as a PERSON and what your interests are like.

6. I have yet to meet a mistress on here who is not here for money. Someone prove me wrong please.

No. Just no. Begging never works. Saying that you've struck out indicates that something may be wrong.

Try something like this:

Hi there. Name's XX. Texas born and bred. That means I have cowboy manners - I say Grace before eating, I open doors for women, and I say Sir and Ma'am. I don't wear the hat, though.

I work with my hands and like to think I do a good job. In my spare time, I like to watch television and work out.

I've got a job, an apartment, and a car. Pretty good like, but I'd like someone to explore it with. If you'd be interested in exploring it with a diapered cowboy, let me know.

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That profile introduces you, leaves the kink till the end, and makes it sound like you'd be someone worth talking with.

Are you planning to go to the Texas All State Spanking Party? My sub Tasha and I are making plans to attend - say hi if you go there.

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RE: why is it so hard to meet a decent lady on here who... - 5/11/2014 5:47:45 AM

Rasciallymisty

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Hello and welcome to the discussion forum where we talk about a wide variety of subjects ranging from relationship issues to exchanging recipes. If you have any questions, we have a Search feature that will help you find past threads on just about any topic you can imagine. Take a look around and see what we are all about and if a topic interest you, then join in and tell us your thoughts and feelings. Its nice to have you here with us ......Good luck in your search.

PS ............DS gave you some great advice and so did the others so hope you take some of it.

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