BecomingV
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ORIGINAL: dcis18 But I can't decide if I'm actually switch or not. I've been reading other answers on here and I can't decide on my own personal situation. I feel most natural when I'm a Dom. However, I enjoy forced fem/forced bi/being pegged and feel like it's a big part of me. I don't like being controlled, receiving pain, being tied up, having no say...MOST things that correlate with being submissive, I don't like to do/doesn't feel right to me. I feel like if I labeled myself as a switch it would be kind of lying and I wouldn't be able to provide the service Dommes expect out of a sub. First, DarkSteven's advice to give yourself time to explore and not to try to fit yourself into a label, is both sound and wise. I'm a Switch. My profile goes into specific detail about what I mean when I say it, and it also states that which I am curious about, open to learning or haven't gained much experience with yet. I say this not to invite traffic or because my profile would work for you. However, the "Switch" label does require some elaboration and clarification, as best you can provide it. I think that once I accepted my complexity, I was better able to set aside thoughts of "how many people could possibly fit with me?" and instead, focus on the belief that if I'm complex, someone else will be too. Any label needs specification, so don't let the "Switch" label put you off. Some people use the term "switch" to describe topping and bottoming only, and they don't participate in a power exchange dynamic, such as D/s. For kinksters, for instance, it's about fetishes, or S/m... it's sensation play. This causes some confusion with the term because many claim that the term, "switch" is about the power exchange in D/s, and not about actions such as "topping" or "bottoming." (IMO, "Switch" is a D/s term.) However, those who engage in Sadomasochism blur the line between Topping/bottoming and Dominance/submission. That depends... Others use the term "switch" to describe their ability to fully inhabit both the Dominant and submissive roles. That means they can give over control or take control. It's about power. If I were labeling the qualities as listed in your OP, I'd say, Switch with Dominant leanings. Sexual submissive only (and I say submissive, not bottom, because of the "forced" parts.) Although, you could also identify as a Dom, who is also a sexual bottom. I'm thinking that matches a submissive who is a sexual Top. As you learn more about yourself, and keep reading, you'll find words which serve you best.
< Message edited by BecomingV -- 6/10/2014 12:23:06 AM >
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