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ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/3/2014 3:42:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Daddyandme40
So you think we're trying too hard. The problem we're running across is a few messages, things are progressing well, and then the messages stop. We're wondering if we're running people off.
Nope, you're just hooking more catfish than anything else.
In this medium you're selling a book, and that book needs to be concise.... Wants, needs, expectations. You should write a series of books in your profile and journals. Be very descriptive, a good narrative brings women, a picture of titties bring men.
Chapter one: you the D. Right now you are run of the mill D with very little about you, it's all generic and outside the dynamic. You make a blip that your not abusive, but have whips and gags in your interests. I would change that to "not abusive unless you beg nicely". Furthermore, from your interest lists it seems you are looking for a third to buddy up with that has kinky streak... Which is great, but make it clear when, where and how the kink happens and emphasize that there will be more palling around, fishing, beer, and s'mores than kink (but it's your business, I'm just relaying what I'm seeing(.
Chapter two: the Alpha sub. What's going on with her other than "you'll be sister sub to my sub".? Any plans on world domination? Crochet, baking.... The world wants to know and more importantly girl x will want to know if "sister sub" is in the cards or if your sub is up front someone she can't stand.
Chapter three: your household. What are your hygiene habits? Is it daily (no brainer) maintenance with a weekly, monthly, annual cleaning event, or is it mostly condemned if the health dept. shows up? What are you, the D, responsible for in the household, what are Alpha /s responsibilities, and what is girl x going to be responsible for?
Chapter four: your poly. This one can get all over the map, so girl x needs to know exactly what your poly looks like. Where is the fidelity, if any, is girl x your sub or sub to both, does she top one or both of you, does she bottom to both of you, does she obey the rooster because he is the high dictator of all things.
Chapter five: arrival/departure. Girl x isn't going to bet the farm on you, and you shouldn't bet the farm on her. However, if you were to pay for half of a round trip fair, it would increase your odds of having a successful meeting. I'd coordinate this arrangement with a PROFESSIONAL travel agent with a cubical and all the bells and whistles, and specifically make the tickets mutually refundable... You get yours and she gets hers. You should be prepared to pay for these little adventures more than once. It would be great if she lived in your town, but if she did she would already be with you. She is most likely in Nome waiting for you to find her.
Chapter six: fuck, you're not an orphan?!? Unless you get lucky and she is an orphan, you're going to have to do some very serious division of holidays. Again, buy half the fare unless your relationship is rock solid. Not only are holidays to be considered, but she may have kids, parents, siblings, displaced collage roommate that banged her uncle and had a love child... Blah blah blah
I know that's a lot of work, that is why I employ the cave man method, I club the bitch and drag her home... Always drag them by the hair, if you drag them by the ankle, her ass will fill up with rocks and she will be even less happy when she wakes up.
Jus sayin
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