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AnnaOphelia -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 12:40:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

I totally agree with you that it's far better to know it from the beginning. But it makes finding her even harder because not many want to sign up for something like that in the first place.

Right but how does it of anyone any good to spend resources (even if just time) on someone ultimately not interested? So more people who aren't interested notice ? Just seems pointless.



AnnaOphelia -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 12:41:34 PM)

I agree with ds btw, I really would try local set ups above online. You may do better that way long run , at least build a reputation.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 1:49:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AnnaOphelia


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

I totally agree with you that it's far better to know it from the beginning. But it makes finding her even harder because not many want to sign up for something like that in the first place.

Right but how does it of anyone any good to spend resources (even if just time) on someone ultimately not interested? So more people who aren't interested notice ? Just seems pointless.


They asked how Id go about looking for a dominant online and I answered honestly using their profile as an example of what Id look for...or not look for...when seeking online. This was merely my personal opinion based on what I read and what I know about me. I said in my original posting that there are women out there who would go for this sort of thing, but it requires a lot of patience. When I went about looking for a couple (back when I wasn't part of one myself), the alpha dynamic was one I specifically avoided because it's hard enough to be a third as it is anyway without that added pressure hanging over my head. They asked, I answered honestly. I'm afraid I don't quite know what else you want exactly.



AnnaOphelia -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 1:56:41 PM)

Good point. I just think they should leave it if that's who they are. It was not my intention to offend or upset



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 2:05:11 PM)

I totally agree with you on that [:)]



AnnaOphelia -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 2:39:12 PM)

:)



DesFIP -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/4/2014 6:41:50 PM)

I don't get the feeling they've thought it out though. So is she going to be invited to Thanksgiving at her mother's house also? Or does she get to spend holidays without them? Are they going to introduce her to their friends as someone they love, or try to keep this on the down low?

Because I don't think anyone gets off on being a dirty little secret. That's a soul killer. And I don't get the feeling from their profile that they're looking for someone they both will love, who will enrich their lives and whose life they will enrich.

If all they want is an occasional sex partner, they do better to hire an escort.



mastermitch45 -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 8:34:02 AM)

I had two subs fail to show today



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 8:34:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mastermitch45

I had two subs fail to show today


Release the hounds!



mastermitch45 -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 8:36:47 AM)

Money is not the issue real is



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 8:47:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mastermitch45

Money is not the issue real is


I think the issue is your profile reads like a newspaper add. They don't charge you by the word here, man.

Jus sayin



InHisHeart -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 1:06:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: mastermitch45

Money is not the issue real is


What ExiledTyrant said, your profile reads like a newspaper ad and a poor one at that.

Also, what's with the sideways profile pic? You're a Dom and can't figure out how to fix a pic so it uploads the right way or just don't want to take the time to do it? Between your unappealing profile and your sideways pic, to me that shows one of three things, a Dom that's lazy, a Dom that is sloppy or a Dom that doesn't care about detail, none of which I would want in a Dom if I were looking for one.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 2:57:47 PM)

~FRing it~

One more thing, mastermitch45. The people likely couldn't understand your message to know where to meet you. And if you send someone a CS message, you might want to make yourself able to be understood. Because I had no freakin' idea what the hell you were saying in your message to me. Still don't because it honestly looked like you just dumped a can of Alphabet soup on my iPad. Just my $0.02



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 3:35:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

One more thing, mastermitch45. The people likely couldn't understand your message to know where to meet you. And if you send someone a CS message, you might want to make yourself able to be understood. Because I had no freakin' idea what the hell you were saying in your message to me. Still don't because it honestly looked like you just dumped a can of Alphabet soup on my iPad. Just my $0.02


(Note to self; no more alphabet soup dumping on ST's iPad, it's a hard limit.)

Carry on.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 5:21:38 PM)

You can alphabet soup my iPad anytime, ET [:D]



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 5:29:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

You can alphabet soup my iPad anytime, ET [:D]


YAY!

[sm=alien.gif]

^
Me, happy dansen.



subrosaDom -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 6:01:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: mastermitch45

I had two subs fail to show today


Release the hounds!


what if the subs looked like hounds -- how would you tell the the difference?



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (9/7/2014 6:02:45 PM)

Oh... You're one of those....



sissycdmiranda -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (12/23/2014 4:25:09 AM)

i came right out with it when i found minr



smileforme50 -> RE: Finding a master/dom online (12/23/2014 4:51:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

Can I be totally honest with you, OP? If I were single and looking, Id have to pass after reading your profile. You had me right up until the whole 'alpha sub' designation came into play. To me, that's red flag code word talk for "insecurity dwells here." Not knowing you both, I can't say with 100% certainty this is true. But my point is this is the message these words send at first blush. Who wants to be a third coming into an already established relationship knowing they will take a backseat to someone else? Alpha designation is just a fancy way of letting her know she comes in dead last in the pecking order. Can she honestly be a sister sub if she is seen as less than the one who she is supposed to be sisters with? Don't get me wrong because there are actually women out there who dig feeling inferior, it's just going to take you a heck of a lot longer to find her. It was going to take you quite awhile searching online to begin with. And even longer because you both are unicorn hunting.

These are merely my own thoughts based on what struck me while reading your profile. I hope I was able to convey my message constructively, rather than critically. But if I've offended in any way, I do apologize ahead of time as it was not intended that way.


[sm=agree.gif] This has always been one of my major reservations with getting involved in a poly relationship.



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