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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 7/12/2006 6:58:42 AM

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YES< YES< YES CRAPPY DOM.

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/6/2007 9:40:38 PM

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I sure would tell them no. Tell them to find someone else to play bank.

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In the beginning of a new communication between a Master and a slave, is it appropriate for a slave to say no to a Master who requires the slave to purchase things for his amusement, not necessarily things she wants or needs. This is at the very beginning where they are communicating by email or IM only and have not met. The purchases can be anything from $10 to $500 items.

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/7/2007 1:45:43 AM

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I would never ask my sub to spend this kind of money on things purely for My amusement. Unless he is willing to fork over half of the money, I'd say this guy is just thinking with his cock and not his head. Money is hard to come by these days and most people do not have $500 laying around to toss away on trinkets.

Tell him to fork over half and see what he says. If he declines or pussy foots around, Id say he isn't worth the expenditure or worrying about.

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/7/2007 2:17:26 AM

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i cannot surrender that for which my Master will not be responsible. Should i fork out $500 for HIS amusement when i should be putting new tires on my car? If anyone i had not met in person, with whom i had not formed a bond and a trusting relationship, asked me to spend money i did not have i would have to wonder if He could ever have my best interests in mind.

On the other hand, if i said i was going to buy a $500 trinket and He told me i need to spend the money on new tires instead and was ordering me to be more fiscally responsible, my respect for Him would be increased.

You only have to watch one episode of Judge Judy to see the folly in spending beyond ones means in the hope of forming a relationship.

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/9/2007 6:30:56 PM

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The smoke you may be smelling through the connection is my sense of righteous indignation. When I suppress the desire to flame or go on a pages-long tyrade, my hair will some times catch fire from the sparks flying out of my ears.

Not only is it okay for you to say no, I'm honestly scandalized that the churl wold make such a request. It's one thing to admit, as shameful as it may feel to have to say, that one does not have the means to purchase such a thing for you, but that it would be awful nice if such things were available. It is another thing entirely for the cad to demand that you lay out your money for his gratification, when the relationship hasn't even progressed far enough for a face-to-face meeting.

Honestly. The nerve of some people.

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/12/2007 6:01:31 PM

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Look even when your IN the relationship you can be nickled and dimed to death. I found that out the hard way. I went to live with my Dom ( wannabe) I later discovered. He wanted to take over all my personal money issues, pay my bills, have my credit cards, etc etc etc total hand over of my finances. When I dug my heels in I was told I was no sub/slave. I earned a considerable amount more money than He and was better at looking after it, but STILL he managed to get money out of this very stupid sub. (me). We *lived * together 2 years, I say lived as for a lot of that time I was away working while he lived in the apt we shared. I paid half the rent even though not there, as he had by then got himself onto disability. I would hate to think how much money he got out of me one way or another through the bitching and whining.

I am no longer with Him, he does not know that yet as there are still some issues to be worked out.We are living in different states, he has been off work for 17 months now, is broke and living with his cousin while supposedly looking for work. he tells me how broke he is but I am past sending any funds. I am past it.

Its not worth it. I do not have a lot of money but I earn enough to be comfortable, never again will I justify this type of thing to myself. I was dumb, very dumb, a hard lesson learned .

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RE: In the beginning, money issues - 3/13/2007 3:05:52 AM

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greeting maya

no it is said here in bold letter do not sent tor buy things for someone asking. your not to do this he is using you and he being the master should buy this himself do you send this to him after you buy it? he is not a true master at all and a fake one this is wrong i do hope you did tell him no i think you said you did and yes it is ok to say hell no if you wish but no is very good

take care dump him there are many very good master out there looking for a good submissive do not waste another monent with this man ok

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