GoddessManko
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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart The endorphins are awesome, and pain can bring on subspace. huh. I've never associated pain and endorphins? And what is subspace? Think about super spicy food, super spicy chili peppers. You know how at first it is YOWCH that burns! Then as you eat more it becomes more like WHOA this is freaking awesome! Those are the endorphins surging. Sometimes 'bad' pain that shuts me down stays on that yowch level and doesn't hit the whoa. Good pain, pain that gets me going rarely is yowch and almost always is whoa. Hee. For me subspace is hmmmm, haven't explained it in a long time but here goes. In a way the world retreats, like I'm actually floating. Like being high on good weed. I think this is the perfect explanation right here from the s perspective. For me, it's definitely a variation of things. First I want to say, I would be hard pressed to believe people are hardcore pain sluts from the starting gate. They might be open or have curiosity to it but then the D sort of has to know what there limits are in any number of directions before the ensue (pain wise). I use this model from personal experience. A sub may fall asleep hogtied with about 2 dozen clothespins on his genitalia and be fine, another may only be able to tolerate 3 for 5 mins or less. It depends on tolerance and experience. For me, it is a physical and tangible display of what my s will endure for my sake, and that for me is a major turn on. I am sadistic by nature, sort of hard wired that way, I notice sadists typically are those who have overcome great and personal obstacles so expect others to have the ability to do the same in a more controlled setting. I have never looked too deep into the psychology of it. Also what typically is the role of the alpha in the wild. The lioness hunts for the food, the alphas battle it out to be the head of the pack, and we even see it in human behavior. It's a way of making your presence known. The amount of trust that goes into allowing someone to make one vulnerable can be baffling to others as well, enduring different sensations without fear of being"injured" psychologically is taking it that much further. It's sort of an amazing thing. I only engage within a relationship dynamic so for me it's about my sub enduring for my sake, and that sends me into D space if I am enjoying myself. Lots of adrenaline and I also climax tantricly often, without touch. InHisHeart has an amazing perspective on this as does Kaliko. Their dynamic for me fits the quintessential. It doesn't have to be romantic, it can be just profound understanding and respect, that alone is good enough for me. The more an s will endure based on my comparison (knowing limits), the better in my case. The more an s thinks of Me primarily vs self, also the better. Some are very fixated on "I am a person, I have needs too". I don't know if this "me me me" thinking would work for me, likely not. I have vanilla friends who to me are more submissive than some of these subs because they do not benefit at all from our friendship, but I do. They ask for nothing more than a word from me. Edited to add; it's not that they will not benefit, my entire life circulates personal development. But the expectation of this or that vs the actual "letting go and trust".
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Happy consent is the name of the game. You are my perfect Mistress. - my collared. http://submissivemale.blogspot.com/ The Bird of Hermes is my name, eating my wings to make me tame.
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