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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/18/2014 3:31:14 AM

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/18/2014 9:25:29 AM

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I am less altruistic than others. I would avoid it just because I don't want to be drawn in to their drama. People are very often dishonest about their "open" relationships, and there is no way to tell when they are being so.

Of course, if a submissive woman's husband was standing right there while I dominated her, that would be a horse of a different colour.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/19/2014 1:37:48 AM

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No.
Under no circumstances would I become involved with someone who is married, in a relationship, or separated. Way too much drama involved.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/19/2014 7:55:02 AM

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"shit or get off the pot".

Another one for my note book

A politer version is "fish or cut bait".

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/20/2014 8:26:01 AM

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As a generic broad answer: I'd (and have) take on a married sub if all was above board and we hit it off right.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 11/21/2014 6:49:59 PM

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No, marriage and any other committed relationship is sacred, in my warped opinion, but I'm a prick like that.

Jus sayin

Agreed I remember an episode of Secret Lives of Women they interviewed a woman with both a Husband and a Master(whose face was hidden during interviews) I remember the husband's interviews it clearly showed he wasn't comfortable with the arrangement but certain things he said had me convinced that her Master and Husband were the same person.

Personally I feel what the bible says about serving two Masters applies to this you can't have two Masters because you will grow to favor one over the other and that will cause tension. The same thing applies to having a husband and a master.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 2:08:36 AM

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I am divorced and had one slave that was married for 17 years but husband, due to cancer, was not into sex but was a voyeur. So every time she came to visit I made a DVD for him and she gave it to him as a present. It can work out If everyone is out in the open.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 3:27:47 AM

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For the dominant, would you take on a submissive if she was married? I'm in an open relationship with my husband and do not leave for various reasons. Three biggest one is we have two kids and I'm not raising them without a father nor will I leave, so im beginning to cuckold him... if you, as a Dominant, would our wouldn't take a married sub, I'm curious as to why.

I think there's a few different layers to this onion. You've asked for opinions so, I will peel the layers away and I apologize, in advance, if it makes you cry.

The first layer is simple: Would I "take on" a married submissive? I wouldn't dismiss it, out of hand but I probably wouldn't because I don't believe that a person can serve two masters (or mistresses). Every situation is different so, I won't say "never" but there's two chances; "Slim" and "None" and Slim was last seen at the bus depot, pricing tickets out of town.

Then, you mention an "open" relationship but you add that you "do not leave for various reasons". In my experience, one doesn't look to leave an open relationship but they do "open up" a relationship that is one with which they are bored or aggravated or ... Anyway, when written that way, it tells me that you're not so much in an open relationship as in a relationship that is swirling the bowl and you're at a very unhappy point in your life. Once again; I'm probably going to tap out on this.

Then, we have the fact that there are children involved. Yeah, there's a difference between "play partner" and "relationship". While I might be willing to engage in a play partner situation (probably not), when you mention relationship, that tells me that at some point, I'm going to be meeting your little sex trophies. Before your marriage ends? Right after? I get to be "the bastard that made mommy leave daddy"? Not a title to which I've ever aspired.

You're not going to raise them without a father. How commendable. I think it's always advisable to stay in a horrible situation as long as it's your children who help to pay the price of your inability to act.

Then, you bring up the word "cuckold" which at least hints at you, being in charge. Oops! Switch, maybe? Then, you've either lied to me (told me you're a submissive, when you're a switch) or you're confused, yourself. Once again: I'm out.

So ... all-in-all, I might be willing to get involved with a married lady but it sounds like I wouldn't get involved with you.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 4:57:48 AM

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For the dominant, would you take on a submissive if she was married? I'm in an open relationship with my husband and do not leave for various reasons. Three biggest one is we have two kids and I'm not raising them without a father nor will I leave, so im beginning to cuckold him... if you, as a Dominant, would our wouldn't take a married sub, I'm curious as to why.

No. Why would I want to take on a girl with a husband? There are a lot of women in the world, and the bulk of them are submissive (though not all of them recognize that consciously).

Besides, I'm very happy with my girl, and that's how I like my life -- with my girl.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 9:06:36 AM

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My personal opinion is, many doms I have met find the idea of dominating a married woman exciting, because it's the idea of controlling a woman that belongs to another man.

I am not sure you can get any emotionally deep D/S relationship with that, but at the very least, you should have no problem finding doms to play with you.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 9:25:48 AM

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There are oceans of bored married women looking for a D/s M/s experience on the side.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/6/2014 2:56:08 PM

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There are oceans of bored married women looking for a D/s M/s experience on the side.

Pass.

I wonder what percentage of them are women.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/8/2014 1:21:48 PM

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Some years ago I had a married submissive. They were "play dates", not 24/7 TPE. Her husband wasn't exactly thrilled, but he not only knew, he came along once to see what was going on.

I'd stop short of providing her any satisfaction and send her home to climb her husband like a tree. Apparently the wild monkey sex that ensued was satisfactory for both of them.

I did have to point out that while her husband was sharing her, he wasn't a cuckold, and that if he called and told me her behavior had been unsatisfactory there'd be no session that week. Apparently their marriage ran much more smoothly after that...

It eventually ran its course, as such things do, but it's a fond memory.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 7:57:47 AM

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I disagree. Children are hurt more from divorce then staying in an unhappy marriage, as long as it's not abusive.
I'm a Dominant and I have three women that are married. I'm not here to judge That's her business.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 8:53:31 AM

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I disagree. Children are hurt more from divorce then staying in an unhappy marriage, as long as it's not abusive.
I'm a Dominant and I have three women that are married. I'm not here to judge That's her business.

Oh lord, no, please divorce (not directed at you but my parents). I am extremely happy my mother and father separated. Thank you parents. Best decision ever made. This is only in an unhappy marriage. A married sub might be happy in all areas but just sexually incompatible with her partner. "Unhappy" might only refer to the sexual aspect otherwise I do not see the point. They only use the children as an excuse when there's a lot more to it.There's no way I would have wanted my parents to stay together for my sake.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 9:02:48 AM

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I disagree. Children are hurt more from divorce then staying in an unhappy marriage, as long as it's not abusive.
I'm a Dominant and I have three women that are married. I'm not here to judge That's her business.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 9:05:52 AM

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I disagree. Children are hurt more from divorce then staying in an unhappy marriage, as long as it's not abusive.

WTF too!!

I have plenty of friends with divorced parents who will attest differently to this! Happy moms and dads are great for kids! They feel the positive energy of both no longer pretending to be together! Happier parents have more positivity and love to give too.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 9:11:28 AM

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Nope. If I was to dom someone come first, so I will never take on someone who had to put a husband or wifes or significant other before me.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/10/2014 9:53:40 AM

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I disagree. Children are hurt more from divorce then staying in an unhappy marriage, as long as it's not abusive.
I'm a Dominant and I have three women that are married. I'm not here to judge That's her business.

Welcome to the forums.

Your opinion on this matter is not based on factual information.

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RE: married submissives a hard limit, or not? - 12/27/2014 11:04:16 AM

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For the dominant, would you take on a submissive if she was married? I'm in an open relationship with my husband and do not leave for various reasons. Three biggest one is we have two kids and I'm not raising them without a father nor will I leave, so im beginning to cuckold him... if you, as a Dominant, would our wouldn't take a married sub, I'm curious as to why.

Most Doms, myself included, do not "take on" a married submssive for the same reason they would not date them, it is risky on many levels. "Take on"" in the OP context means to develope a relationship and not just tie her up and beat her at the local club, that happens in normal circumstances when Dom's trade submissives or the Dom is sought out because of his skills or perhaps the husband or wife needs some pointers in a new skillset they are learning and it is best practiced on their partner.

So it is unusual for Dom's to take on married partners because of the risks. Besides, there are too many single submissives to choose from making anyone who takes on a married submissive hard up or deceived by a submissve who hides her married status. That happens more than one might think. It happened to me at least once and while I understood and sympathized with her when I found out, I broke things off immediately; She was on CM at the time pretending to be single. Was I angry? No. I realize and understand how this happens and besides, she did fess up.

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