FieryOpal
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Joined: 12/8/2013 From: Maryland Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal How this relates to the BDSM Topping varies. I run into more sadistic or sado-masochistic Dommes than I do non-sadistic in general. However, I would say that more than half of lifestyle Dommes are NOT heavily into humiliation and many aren't into it at all. I believe most of the Dommes who do engage in this regularly have a client base as BDSM providers, whether as a Pro-Domme or as a Cyber Fin-Domme. This is false. Not only do experiences vary Domme to Domme but also its meaning. I enjoy sadism. But everything I do ties to Ownership more than anything. Both inflicting pain and humiliation. There may be little to no communication because I enjoy sensory deprivation. I don't think the technique matters, only the results. I'll narrow this down more (i.e., '[IME,] I would say that more than half of lifestyle Dommes...'), since I don't know what the chunk of the whole pie is. Based on my FemDom group, other Dommes I know, and Dommes who have posted on previous Collarchat threads (fluctuating variable) over the past 2 years, this sample size primary consists of Dommes who are: -- Ranging in Age Mainly from 35-65 (a few younger, a few up to age 70) -- IRT, not Cyber, not Chatroom Dommes -- Not For Hire (Lifestyle) -- Mostly Straight, Some Bi or Heteroflexible (not counting Lesbian, since their subs are ordinarily female, not male) -- Majority (over 50%) are Sadistic -- Roughly Half are Mono, including those (straight) Poly who say they reserve sexual relations with primary partner & usually not w/other subs -- Has full sexual relations with primary partner and/or subs -- Seeks LTR partnership w/collared male sub, not casual play partners -- Rarely does NSA and/or On-Line BDSM Topping Note: My sample size would logically consist of those Dommes who have more in common with me than those who do not, other than forum posters here. And your sample size, other than yourself? Including which of the above categories would apply to you personally, if you would be so kind.
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