GoddessManko
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Joined: 3/6/2013 From: Dante's Inferno Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: crumpets So, if I understand correctly, summarized, the three steps are...? 1. Construct a consistently stable profile (<=== need clarification on that one), 2. Create an impressively innovative introductory form letter (<=== presumably, which can be tweaked, per response?), 3. Patiently answer all "seemingly pointless" questions in an animated way that shows us off in the "nitty gritty" lovable world (<=== I think this means, "have a personality?"). In addition, if I understand the additional advice, it's...? a. Be proactive, but stop looking for 5'2 and 90 lb, 18 year olds <=== (yet, get used to rejection anyway?), b. Know both sides' hard limits, but be ready to submit to whatever she desires <=== (presumably within those limits?), c. Increase exposure through various websites including vanilla ones (<=== presumably of the ilk of Craigslist?). After prodigious effort, therein lies the reward. @ the OP: Please let me know I have summarized, reasonably correctly, the proposal, and, if I err, to correct me (whipping would be nice) until I get it right! :) I have to say, you seem you have great potential to a good Domme. No whippings today! ;) Absolutely right on all three. One and two might not be too difficult but 3 is where it'll be hard to fake it. This is why your interest HAS to be genuine because otherwise 3 is a guaranteed flop. Getting used to rejection, yes...also a part of things and not getting discouraged due to it. If you see this lifestyle and finding a Domme as important, treat it as such. Entitlement gets us nowhere. You have to reach out, do searches and keep in mind you're trying to find one in the midst of many. Pay attention to red flags, trust your gut but until proven otherwise trust your Domme. Don't offer submission until you are ready to move forward and reconcile yourself with all that entails. Back peddling begets second guessing which begets doubt which begets distrust. You're leaving yourself susceptible to that and sometimes it might be your failure to perform or behave accordingly vs the Domme not having interest in the first place. Genuine respect and desire will show not just through words but actions. Of course you have to have the common sense to not compromise on your personal limits, ever. Or expect her to compromise on hers. That never pans out well for anyone. Also, NOT Craigslist, unless you want a proDomme which is fine too. But okcupid is kink friendly I hear, there is fet and numerous vanilla sites with secret kinksters amuck the vanilla folk. Many of them never log on to a kink site.
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