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The lifestyle really means boo shit here, m'dear. If you have a mental issue, before you even take it to the level of how you deal with it where others are involved, how you do deal with it for yourself? What are you doing for you? Before you even start to worry or wonder how other people will react, think about what you need to do for yourself and then do it. Once you are handling it for yourself, then sure, let others share opinions. Only you can give those opinions weight. No, I wouldn't call this abuse of him over you. I would call this a management issue that you should look within yourself to measure. What you can do for yourself should come first. What others think can be second. And what you let yourself think about what they say...well, now, that's another story altogether. But that's management too, managing how you let yourself interpret other people's reactions. If you can do right by yourself, and can allow yourself to ignore or let go of things that impede your goal, then frankly, you're fine and the rest is quite moot. (I'm not anything close to an expert here, I've known only a few purgers...but where mental illness is concerned, I have an autistic child, an ex with BPD, another ex with PTSD, and a list of friends with neuroses to choke a horse. In every case, I would say the same thing - I'm not qualified, I'm not a practicing psychologist, but if you want a few words to consider for yourself and your well being then yes, no matter what your mental illness is...do what you need to for yourself to cope, and let the opinions of others take a back seat to your road to health. Period.)
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