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Joined: 2/11/2007 From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Wellp... it's kinda like illicit drugs, as long as people demand, there will be a supply. I don't expect illegal drugs, bootleg whiskey, prostitution or financial domination to go away. But I wouldn't appreciate dope dealers joining our forums and making posts about how getting high is a BDSM fetish. And until someone that actually knows what the definition of a fetish is and knows WTF they are talking about can actually show me how money pigs and FinDoms practice a fetish, I will have trouble seeing it as a paraphilia. I see the lure and understand the vehement insistence that it is a BDSM fetish by those that participate. Money pigs will continue to give money to FinDoms so they can pretend or fantasize they are associated to being attached as some girl's property... for a one low price, someone calls them a slave. Nonetheless, "you can stand in the garage, but that doesn't mean you are a car." quote:
ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr I always thought that protecting common prostitutes that had just found a way to "blend in" to our lifestyle was detrimental to our lifestyle and this site, in particular. That said, the site's policy has turned me around and if a pretty young thing wants to give me a few shekels for writing some e-mails ... Michael I respect prostitution and the adult entertainment industry . . . which is where I believe money pigs and FinDoms fit better than in the BDSM community. I believe the tolerance ("protecting") for TOS profile violations soliciting money in profiles is because it is good for membership on the CollarSpace side. Tons of Finnies posting pretty pics brings in new members. However, having their phoney dogma permeate this side of the site is utter bullshit and I agree that having them here is detrimental. But this side of the site only represented 25% of the traffic in its heyday.... about 40k page hits/day vs the 190k daily hits on the other side. So we remain a secondary consideration when there is a conflict of interests. We must enjoy our free ride under terms provided... which fortunately includes my freedom to post this soapbox thread. And for that I am grateful. I remained tolerant as long as I could. Having that Findom thread get trashed earlier tonight while I was writing a reply was the straw broke my tolerance... even though I agree that the thread was troll bait and needed to go. quote:
ORIGINAL: MariaB ........I remain unconvinced but then I haven't yet met a fin domme who claims to get sexually excited by the smell or feel of gifted money. Fin dommes tend to have a catalogue of wants that could be anything from fet gear to a new dining table. They exchange their online time for something they want......... Well said and sex is the core of a paraphilia and what makes it a fetish: Paraphilia (also known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) is the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, or individuals. Exchanging online time for something they want is like a job, not sexual, not a fetish. And this is where FinDomery does equate quite well to prostitution as DaddySatyr pointed out. The FinDom, like the prostitute, is not motivated by sex and usually gains no sexual gratification. However the prostitute's client, like the money pig, is usually sexually motivated, even if it is sexual ego. Not all prostitute's clients achieve erections or orgasms but they enjoy the sexual contact and attentions, oral or otherwise, anyway. It makes them feel masculine, sexy. So for her it is business, for him it is sexual. Prostitution is not part of the BDSM community, we don't have hooker's workshops even though paying for sex is a fetish. Chrematistophilia: sexual arousal from paying for sex or being robbed by one’s sexual partner; see also harpaxophilia Harpaxophilia: sexual arousal from being the victim of a robbery or burglary; see also chrematistophilia Perhaps it is for the same reason the Hooker's Ball isn't about BDSM? Are money pigs buying sex? I mean, is it really one big web cam jerk-fest and FinDom's are doing insertions, masturbation and etc for their slaves? One money pigs says: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The vast power of financial domination stems from the way it's deeply wired into ones sex drive and emotions. The fundamental root of the pleasure obtained from submitting to a woman financially resides in the value system. The value system rewards us with pleasure each time one of our values is fulfilled. The value system is designed to prolong and enhance life, but the value system assumes all values are positive and life enhancing. If somehow, intentionally or accidentally, we acquire a negative value (such as the value of submitting financially to a woman), then whenever we fulfill this value, we are rewarded with pleasure. The value system cannot differentiate between a positive value that is meant to enhance our life, and a negative value that restricts our life, so whenever a negative value like submitting financially is triggered, we are rewarded with pleasure as though it were a positive, life enhancing value. This explains why financial domination is so addictive and pleasurable, and why it is so challenging to overcome. A slaves belief system also holds a big key to the addiction. Whatever one believes about themselves and their world is true to them. When I was a slave I believed that I was worthless, pathetic, a loser, and that women were superior to myself and all men on earth! These beliefs are not the ones someone with genuinely high levels of self-esteem would possess. These beliefs developed from my inaccurate perception of the world (chiefly how I perceived rejections from women in my early youth), low self-esteem, BDSM and D/s porn (this was a VERY big influencer for me), and from the feminist programming from the media and the world in general. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ According to him, it isn't about a FinDom spread eagle on cam with a variety of insertables. So the Finny isn't selling sex, even if the exchange motivations are much like the exchange between a prostitute and her client, the service rendered is quit different indeed. I see poor mental health and low esteem but I still don't see a fetish in here anywhere yet.
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