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ORIGINAL: PassionsTorment Hello, I recently (twice) faced a dilemma that I would like to be able to navigate in the future. Both times, I was talking to someone who didn't have a picture on his profile, and had great conversations. However, when the time came to exchange pictures, I could not for the life of me summon any attraction for either man. The first time I was honest about it, told him he seemed to be a geat person, but I just wasn't attracted to him. This resulted in a barrage of insults. The second time, I was at a loss as to how to handle it, so I continued talking to him until he made it clear he was into me...then I awkwardly fumbled about until I came up with a nicer way of saying it wouldn't work, without mentioning his looks. This also resulted in a fair bit of disrespect. I guess my question is, how do I avoid this situation in the future? And if it does arise, and he DOES indeed look like he should be hiding under a bridge and eating small children...how do I deal with it without seeming like an ass? I am going to take the whole different approach with the answer as I have been thinking of this for a while. I just think your shallow and before the critics hit the response button I have to point out if the poster was a male they would get so much mail about being shallow and not seeing a female for whom she really is and this and that. If you want to make it on looks then so be it, simple. Question would be if he drops you soon after because he sees someone that looks better than you, that would be karma, and then you would think that men are just shallow. Put in your profile that you want the picture upfront, and if that does not happen then you block them and you can do this without opening up the letter, simple. Those are just my thoughts. Frank Ar. Honestly, I think you have a point. But I don't think anyone should be getting hate mail over stating they are/aren't attracted to certain people.
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