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From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:27:07 PM

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When does your Dom become your Master? Please be serious guys, I wanna know. Thanks.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:29:10 PM

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As a Mistress I cannot answer, but look forward to reading the posts. Great topic!

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:30:03 PM

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seriously?

When you know all you are, will be, could be, won't be, et cetera, is a cunt............

Which you are............

from there........ one who loves you as you are............

that's all folks...........

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:54:58 PM

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Come on, there has to be more than what Ron says....

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:55:27 PM

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When he calls you a slave and refers to himself as Master.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:59:16 PM

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I think it's more when you call yourself a slave and him Master.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 6:59:53 PM

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Cuddle, this is a very thought provoking question but the answer is, when does it seem like he goes from Dom to Master in your heart? When do YOU make that switch in your mind as to his status in your relationship. Think about the terms themselves. There are soo many interpretations of it and it is generally determined that each relationship will define these to themeselves and their understanding of the terms.

To me though.. any man can dom me simply by nature of being a dominant.. but once he truly knows me.. knows my limits physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally and can use every bit of me to serve him.. that is when he becomes Master.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:05:45 PM

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JessieMe...is it as simple as that?

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:08:00 PM

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It doesnt have to be difficult Cuddle.. only what is in your heart.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:08:38 PM

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Jessie is right.

It's when he gets inside, and takes all of you.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:10:44 PM

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Then I no longer have a Dom, I have a Master.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:11:27 PM

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It's the moment you can't imagine another name for him.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:28:57 PM

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Then I no longer have a Dom, I have a Master.

sending Cuddles a hug and a whispered "congratulations girl!"

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:30:43 PM

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Thanks JessieMe, I havent been able to wipe this silly grin off of my face for months now.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:33:34 PM

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:40:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Then I no longer have a Dom, I have a Master.

Blessings to both of you :)

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 7:48:21 PM

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When does your Dom become your Master? Please be serious guys, I wanna know. Thanks.

When everyone agrees that he does.

There simply is no universal application or external prescriptor to put on the situation. I have a friend who is in a relationship that *I* called master/slave for a long time. However, THEY did not consider themselves master/slave until quite recently. Since we were so close, they knew I wasn't trying to be rude and I completely accepted that what they feel about themselves was more important than what I thought.

Now they consider themselves master/slave, and it's only their perspectives which changes.

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 9:32:15 PM

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Maybe I am being too technically focussed here, but I always thought that if someone was a Master, that the other person (their partner) needed to be a slave, not a submissive, and that otherwise, the partner was, in fact, a Dominant and not a Master.

There are tons of threads here on exactly what constitutes the difference between a submssive and a slave, but, I always thought a slave had:

1) Her Master's limits and

2) No real right to refuse a Master anything he asked.

Whereas, a submissve has: Activity and a relationship with a Dominant within pre-arranged and negotiated boundaries and limits.

So, perhaps (for me), calling someone Master would need to mean - I considered myself to be their slave.

If they simply like their submissives and slaves to refer to them as Master (no matter whether that partner is a submissive or a slave), I suppose I could do that, too (as long as they knew I was a submssive, still).

I am sure there are as many varied opinions on this as there are people. But this has been my understanding of these two terms, for myself, for many months now.

- Susan

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 9:40:14 PM

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Susan,

My former dominant (note I did not call him master, smiles) liked me to call him master as roleplay..slavegirl/master is a rp too, not just a relationship dynamic... so yes, one could call their dom "master" and still be a submissive... at least that was my experience

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RE: From Dom to Master.... - 7/18/2006 9:42:43 PM

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I called my first and only Dominant "Sir", or "Michael" (his name) or "Sir Michael" (rarely). I notice there are men (and women too I suppose) who like being referred to as Master, whether or not they are with a submissive or a slave, so it does, yeah, strike me as a matter of personal preference.

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