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LadyConstanze -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 11:23:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic If you want to take me out to dinner, you turn off your cell phone. You can check it if it vibrates, you can go outside to make a call(or even a hallway) If you cant be without a phone for an hour, Im really really sorry for you. I do not allow anyone to interfere with MY personal time if you need to take a call so badly...Ill eat with you in your office. Im adaptable. If you wanna surf the web or text someone, or take calls dont invite me out for dinner. My business is my lifeline. However if I have to discuss an issue with a customer, or a supplier, or a shipper. I do it, before I have to eat/enjoy my life. That being said, Im not totally ignorant to being on call as a reason to take a call in the middle of dinner. Manys the time, ive sat thru a enjoyable evening with having to diagnose security issues as they crop up. shit happens. Rudeness isnt an emergency I will deal with. In the OPs case, I would have been calling my bestie saying," oy have a listen to this twat"....but then again, I am going on his previous posting history. I have one special ringtone set for emergencies, that one goes off and I can be in the middle of the best sex ever, it means I have to answer the phone, it's a life or death matter, it's not a "Oh there is an unflattering article about me somewhere best call LC" and it's also not "Not happy with a press release", it has to be the PR equivalent of the Pope being caught in the middle of a sex and drugs orgy and cell phone video footage is all over the internet, anybody using that and it isn't an emergency, it's "You want me to keep working for you, well thanks for paying off a large chunk of my mortgage..." A lot of clients are really busy and short of time, so sometimes we do stuff while they are working out with their personal trainer, makes things a lot easier if I run along or also do situps or I swim alongside of them. Oddly enough all the good personal trainers (the ones that are working and getting paid for it) are super encouraging, they motivate their clients, make them want to do another set of reps, swim another length, do a few more sit ups. None of them are condescending twats, I guess that's why they are in work and getting paid rather handsomely.

NorthernGent -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 11:32:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom Has this ever happen to you? I met an overweight female submissive who wants to change. I agree to be her Dom and have her come to my place. I begin lecturing her on body building and, get this, she starts checking her cellphone while I'm talking about myself! I have learned a lot and I want to teach her and she needs to listen! How rude! She complains that I check my cellphone while she talks but that's different because she isn't trying to teach me anything. It would be the same thing as going into a college classroom and checking your cellphone while the Professor is lecturing. It's just plain rude! ***** I edited this to apologize for venting. I didn't mean to make this sound like a vent. I wanted to know if anyone else have come across this - lecturing someone and they check their cellphones while lecturing. It's so frustrating! No, never happened to me, mate.

Lucylastic -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 12:20:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic If you want to take me out to dinner, you turn off your cell phone. You can check it if it vibrates, you can go outside to make a call(or even a hallway) If you cant be without a phone for an hour, Im really really sorry for you. I do not allow anyone to interfere with MY personal time if you need to take a call so badly...Ill eat with you in your office. Im adaptable. If you wanna surf the web or text someone, or take calls dont invite me out for dinner. My business is my lifeline. However if I have to discuss an issue with a customer, or a supplier, or a shipper. I do it, before I have to eat/enjoy my life. That being said, Im not totally ignorant to being on call as a reason to take a call in the middle of dinner. Manys the time, ive sat thru a enjoyable evening with having to diagnose security issues as they crop up. shit happens. Rudeness isnt an emergency I will deal with. In the OPs case, I would have been calling my bestie saying," oy have a listen to this twat"....but then again, I am going on his previous posting history. I have one special ringtone set for emergencies, that one goes off and I can be in the middle of the best sex ever, it means I have to answer the phone, it's a life or death matter, it's not a "Oh there is an unflattering article about me somewhere best call LC" and it's also not "Not happy with a press release", it has to be the PR equivalent of the Pope being caught in the middle of a sex and drugs orgy and cell phone video footage is all over the internet, anybody using that and it isn't an emergency, it's "You want me to keep working for you, well thanks for paying off a large chunk of my mortgage..." A lot of clients are really busy and short of time, so sometimes we do stuff while they are working out with their personal trainer, makes things a lot easier if I run along or also do situps or I swim alongside of them. Oddly enough all the good personal trainers (the ones that are working and getting paid for it) are super encouraging, they motivate their clients, make them want to do another set of reps, swim another length, do a few more sit ups. None of them are condescending twats, I guess that's why they are in work and getting paid rather handsomely. my son is into keeping fit..he lost 70 lb last year, Ive met his trainer, lovely guy, not condescending, but he is tough. There IS a huge difference, totally:) I didnt mean to make it sound as if I was arguing your point, it was mostly a general fast reply with personal thoughts:) "Back in my day", life and death phonecalls were literally medical life and death calls, before beepers came along. Technology is a good thing. I know it has changed, I get it, but in my humble opinion, and getting close to old age, I feel its limiting my enjoyment of life. I dont use my phone a lot, I DO have thousands of hours on my arse in front of a computer, using skype, email, messaging systems to keep in contact with customers and other people involved in work, Ive missed food, Ive missed family time, Ive worked and contacted people in the middle of the night, But, for me personally I got out of the corporation world(not that I was ever "up there") precisely because I want my time, when I want it, and not be dictated to by tech and the hectic pace of making millions. I dont have the temperament, and Im not willing to give up my life as it is at the present. I work from home, If I was working and commuting to a job, I have no doubt I would use my phone a great deal. Altho the last time I traveled to the US, I used it 6 times. To let my husband know I had arrived, to let pet know I had taken off, and then twice when I landed and let them both know, then again to confirm I was on my way home and landed ok. It stayed in my suitcase for five days. its just the way I like it:)

DesFIP -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 1:23:52 PM)
She was talking to her safe call who told her to get out before she died of boredom.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 1:24:23 PM)
I actually didn't think you were arguing, seriously, when I stopped doing international journalism it was because it took too much of a toll on my relationship, and I missed having a home, having cats and dogs, I had a gorgeous flat, bigger than most houses with a great roof garden overlooking the city, the rent was astronomic but it was a great place, just not so great anymore when I did the maths and figured out that I spend more time in hotel rooms than at home. What I paid in rent, I now actually pay less and pay off a mortgage and I get to spend a lot more time at home, there are emergency calls and our dog walkers have a spare set of keys, I think I might be doing it for maybe 10 more years, then just consult,at the moment I still kinda enjoy the excitement but I also enjoy that most of the stuff I can handle from anywhere, the advantages of modern technology, there is the odd "gotta jump on that plane" stuff but there is a difference if it happens once a month or twice a week. I'm still having the suitcase packed, but I'm not living out of the suitcase anymore if that makes sense. Most of the things I can handle from a smart phone, which means I can be out and about with the dogs, I can meet up with friends and still be available if something happens, what can I say, I do love technology. As for trainers, totally, worked out with my fave client last time I was in LA, we're also friends and so I went along for motivation and support and because I felt I could get fitter, the trainer was amazing, despite the guy being pretty much A list, the trainer could only offer 5 to 6 am as he was so much in demand, he got him into shape for a movie, he got me into a shape I didn't think possible, then actually told me to switch exercises because women need more body fat and he didn't want me to stop having periods or losing the fat pads on my legs that avoid rubbing bone on bone, he was tough as hell but at the same time so encouraging, I could so see why that guy has a waiting list that is an arm long, pretty good too when it comes to nutrition and healthy food. When I fessed up to having had the fat fries from Fat Burger, he just laughed and said "If you have them daily, we have an issue, if you live healthy 6 days a week and you enjoy the odd treat, it's fine, you inline skate at least an hour a day, you burn it off and you don't have a lot of saturated fats in your diet, you really expect me to make an issue out of a non-issue? I had a Baskin Robbins with my daughter the other day, you're the one who wants to look like a twig, I am happy if you're toned, healthy and still look like a woman!" That guy made me work out to the point where I thought I'd puke from exhaustion, because he could motivate me, I always thought of my legs as my weak point, shit, hubby kept getting a ton of leg shots and was quite eager for me to get on the plane back. Apart from getting me super fit, he also gave me heaps of confidence

Lucylastic -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 1:25:18 PM)
[:D]

AlaskanLabrador -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 3:50:02 PM)
It's the usual crowd from the sock puppet silly thread openers!

MuscleBoundDom -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 5:10:28 PM)
I posted this without giving too much thought. I realize I sound like I'm ranting. Or that I'm trolling for attention. I shouldn't have posted it. In any case, I'm a professional fitness instructor and I get paid to lecture and train people. My submissive isn't paying me one thin dime! So by default, I have every right to lecture her. I'm going to have a serious talk with her about checking her cellphone while I'm talking. So what if it's my kink to lecture overweight submissive females?

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 5:23:35 PM)
I am just curious...after that first meeting, you still intend to go forward with her as a sub(of course that also depends on whether she is still interested)? My thought process has always been that, someone who seems disinterred or not interested in engaging so early on will fizzle out fey quickly... Nothing against you! Just sounded as if she was not engaged early on and usually...familiarity breeds contempt....

OsideGirl -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 6:08:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss I am just curious...after that first meeting, you still intend to go forward with her as a sub(of course that also depends on whether she is still interested)? My thought process has always been that, someone who seems disinterred or not interested in engaging so early on will fizzle out fey quickly... Nothing against you! Just sounded as if she was not engaged early on and usually...familiarity breeds contempt.... The moment someone speaks AT me or down to me, I'm no longer interested in being near that person. So, I wonder if she's had enough or will come back for more.

Greta75 -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 6:18:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom I'm going to have a serious talk with her about checking her cellphone while I'm talking. You should have been a good dom, and set boundaries and rules clear in the first place. If you don't want her using her phone during your fitness instruction, then these things should have been discussed prior to actually instructing her. I think it's a little unfair to expect things, that you haven't even inform her about and got her agreement to.

Awareness -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 6:45:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom I'm going to have a serious talk with her about checking her cellphone while I'm talking. You should have been a good dom, and set boundaries and rules clear in the first place. If you don't want her using her phone during your fitness instruction, then these things should have been discussed prior to actually instructing her. I think it's a little unfair to expect things, that you haven't even inform her about and got her agreement to. No, I wouldn't say so. Her behaviour suggests someone who doesn't care about a respectful interaction. At best it's rude, at worst it's a deliberate provocation. Either way, her behaviour reflects on his ability to control the interaction. If his time is truly precious, he wouldn't hesitate to simply walk away. A poor attitude should not be tolerated.

dcnovice -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 6:48:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP She was talking to her safe call who told her to get out before she died of boredom. LOL! If we still had Quote of the Day, I would totally nominate this. [:)]

DesFIP -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 8:08:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom So what if it's my kink to lecture overweight submissive females? Because you weren't honest about this and you didn't give her the chance to consent or not. If this is what you want, put it first thing in your profile so people will know immediately.

LadyPact -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 8:12:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dcnovice quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP She was talking to her safe call who told her to get out before she died of boredom. LOL! If we still had Quote of the Day, I would totally nominate this. [:)] There's always "CM quotes worth repeating". http://www.collarchat.com/m_3024823/mpage_1/tm.htm#

DesFIP -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 8:17:27 PM)
Bows to DC and Lady P.

seekingreality -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 9:56:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom Has this ever happen to you? I met an overweight female submissive who wants to change. I agree to be her Dom and have her come to my place. I begin lecturing her on body building and, get this, she starts checking her cellphone while I'm talking about myself! I have learned a lot and I want to teach her and she needs to listen! How rude! She complains that I check my cellphone while she talks but that's different because she isn't trying to teach me anything. It would be the same thing as going into a college classroom and checking your cellphone while the Professor is lecturing. It's just plain rude! ***** I edited this to apologize for venting. I didn't mean to make this sound like a vent. I wanted to know if anyone else have come across this - lecturing someone and they check their cellphones while lecturing. It's so frustrating! I think the problem started with you thinking about "lecturing" her rather than having a discussion with her. Frankly, you were probably so caught up in our own ego that her eyes were glazing over. That said, she shouldn't be checking her phone while you're talking (nor should you while she is). But it's up to you to handle that in a smooth manner.

Cell -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 10:16:41 PM)
FR* I duno... With the exception of some TED talks, lectures aren't my idea of a good time... bossing subs around is my idea of a good time lol, so why not just tell her not to do it.

stef -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/28/2015 11:27:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom I posted this without giving too much thought. This seems to be a running theme with you.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Women Are So Rude These Days (12/29/2015 1:19:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom I posted this without giving too much thought. I realize I sound like I'm ranting. Or that I'm trolling for attention. I shouldn't have posted it. That is obvious from most of your posts. quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom In any case, I'm a professional fitness instructor and I get paid to lecture and train people. My submissive isn't paying me one thin dime! Ummm... Nope. As a "professional", you get paid to inspire and coach people - not lecture. If you think lecturing people will motivate them - you're in the wrong business. quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDomSo by default, I have every right to lecture her. I'm going to have a serious talk with her about checking her cellphone while I'm talking. And the same would apply to you too!! As many have said (Oside highlighted it in post#38), if she is using her cellphone while you're lecturing her, she's lost interest already and you haven't done your job. That would indicate bad leadership skills - and that is down to you and your approach. quote: ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom So what if it's my kink to lecture overweight submissive females? Good luck with that! You'll find very few success stories.

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