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newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 8:44:55 AM)

And Lucy I am a quick leaner 3.81 GPA attests to that. Also, I have taken care of every woman that has ever been in my life. I have had 4 relationships that span a constant 25+ years. I also raised a 6 year old boy on my own, after his mother died from Leukemia. I am glad that you THINK you know so much about me.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 8:47:24 AM)

But, I agree a lot more reading is necessary. Although, I have always preferred hands on training. Just saying.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 8:50:09 AM)

Last thing Lucy; Not one woman at ANY period during my life (that was with me) actually HAD to work. That's how good I am.



LadyPact -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 8:51:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: newatdis
@ Lady, I know you tried to help yesterday, and thanks. I am confused about the "guy a month ago thing"..she said she found interest on her own, read books etc...I did mention that I have been talking with her for a month or so...and that she just brought up the Master/slave thing a couple days before we met.

You "met" her on the net about a month ago, right. (Horrible term, btw. Kind of like the oxymoron of "Facebook friends".)

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I understand what you are saying. I Already knew this girl wanted and liked pain as well. She made comments such as "are you strong" "can you flip me around" "I work with animals, I have a high tolerance for pain"

Yeah, we'll talk about that.

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I have never caused pain during sex intentionally ..I know I hurt her as it is. I did smack her one side until she was red, and I also know I missed her other side, and hit her hip, with force (with the are you strong in mind) I know that hurt. She is 114 lbs. I backed off for that reason even though she said..it didn't hurt, at the time (after her owww) And she made a couple comments during the night that her side hurt. I know what she wanted, and because of things from my childhood she also knows what could end up happening, as she said to me....and I quote...."I am well aware of what I could be starting in you"

Ha! I have. But, it was because I wanted to. Not because somebody else had this "ideal" about me.

I really don't care that she's 114 lbs. Some of the best masochists that I know are little chicks. The majority of which can take more pain than most males I know.

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And yes, I think she will come calling, and if she does I will probably be on here seeking more wisdom. And if she doesn't..I know I f---d up and life goes on.

Well, you kind of did f^ck up, but we can make it better. I'd encourage you to do the right thing, especially about the jewelry.

Over and above that, this is one of those situations where I would let her make the call. It's ok to be learning. It's ok to be exploring if you are kink compatible or not. You may be a 3 as a sadist and/or a Dominant and she's a 7 as a maso and/or a sub. Believe it or not, all of us kinky folk aren't compatible with each other just because we're kinky.

Do you want to learn some stuff here? That really can happen.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 8:58:09 AM)

"Do you want to learn some stuff here? That really can happen."..YES!

I know I f--d up. I sent her a text yesterday apologizing for the childish behavior, and told her that when she was ready to let me know what to do with her Jewelry, that I wanted to get that right. And I have completely backed off, it is in her hands.

What I would like to know is, how did I get from P.O.F. to here, the strangest journeys begin with one step.



LadyPact -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 9:23:29 AM)

Well, I can't speak for P.O.F. Never been.

The behavior coincides with the kink thing, but they are still separate. I know some folks who are proclaimed awesome D-types in the bedroom, but they are kind of assholes in real life. I hear they are great in bed. I probably couldn't stand being in the same room for fifteen minutes.

What I want you to do, is to think about what kind of man you want to be. That girl you met? Put her out of your mind. It's just you. What do you envision? When we're talking about *your* desires, how does that go? Did you want more? Did you want less? Did you actually feel *bad* because you made someone breakfast? What was good? What was not so good?



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 9:43:56 AM)

Okay, the breakfast thing. My kids mom died when he was 6, I had to learn to cook, and like it. I was not bothered by the fact that I cooked her an egg, ham and cheese sandwhich. I was more bothered by the thought that maybe by "protocol" I shouldn't have.

I want to be the man I have always been, the provider. My desires? How graphic can I be here. My desires are to have a woman that would f--k me anytime and anyplace. And I come up with the craziest idea's. Seemingly out of no-where. And appreciate the desire I have for her, like all the time...even when asleep, and appreciate the provider I am .And I have had that before, so I know exactly what its like.

Okay, you are confusing "Put her out of your mind"..and than...."Did you actually feel *bad* because you made someone breakfast? What was good? What was not so good?"

Put it out of mind or what? do you want to know what was good about the encounter and what was bad?



Lucylastic -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 9:46:34 AM)


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ORIGINAL: newatdis

lol Lucy...you know what they say about "opinions"

yeah
I do, I use it a lot myself. Opinions are like assholes, everyone of them stinks to someone.

I never stated it was anything BUT opinion



Lucylastic -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 9:49:17 AM)


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ORIGINAL: newatdis

Last thing Lucy; Not one woman at ANY period during my life (that was with me) actually HAD to work. That's how good I am.


I never claimed to know YOU, on such a short "interaction"
I only went on what you said.
That is your issue.
Dont like opinions?, dont post your wailing online.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 9:50:42 AM)

Thanks for sharing, sharing is caring.
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: newatdis

lol Lucy...you know what they say about "opinions"

yeah
I do, I use it a lot myself. Opinions are like assholes, everyone of them stinks to someone.

I never stated it was anything BUT opinion





newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:04:50 AM)

You will hardly tell me what to do on the thread I made. You can hit the door, know what I am saying?
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: newatdis

Last thing Lucy; Not one woman at ANY period during my life (that was with me) actually HAD to work. That's how good I am.


I never claimed to know YOU, on such a short "interaction"
I only went on what you said.
That is your issue.
Dont like opinions?, dont post your wailing online.




Lucylastic -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:07:33 AM)

BY the way...Ive just read the rest of the posts since I last posted, I agree with Crazyml and Lady Pact.. If you wanna learn, thats one thing, but you screwed up, it seems you made an effort to apologise, kudos there, Im not against newbies, Im against their unrealistic actions.
Im just glad you didnt act on them
BTW...
If you cooked me breakfast... I sure as hell would not think you were NOT a dom.
I misunderstood regarding the driving time, my bad, but, when I travelled down to the US by bus, my day started at five, it took 14 hours(and I didnt have to concentrate on driving), and then two hours to the final destination. Tired doesnt even begin to cover it.


If you have the personality of a caring responsible adult(and im not saying you arent) then stick around, listen and learn from people who will give you better answers than that book you mentioned.
Personally I would suggest, "screw the roses bring me the thorns" and the" loving dominant" by John Warren, and the erotic bondage guide by Jay wiseman. Then move on to the"darker side" when you have the basics.
You are supposed to lead, its a good idea to know how,based on more than one opinion, or experience. even if it IS a book.




newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:08:01 AM)

And after the short interaction with you I am led to believe that you are a know it all, that jumps to conclusions. And doesn't even know when your advice is not needed, or wanted. But, it is a pubic forum, so come on. Try to make yourself relevant.
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: newatdis

Last thing Lucy; Not one woman at ANY period during my life (that was with me) actually HAD to work. That's how good I am.


I never claimed to know YOU, on such a short "interaction"
I only went on what you said.
That is your issue.
Dont like opinions?, dont post your wailing online.




Lucylastic -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:09:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: newatdis

You will hardly tell me what to do on the thread I made. You can hit the door, know what I am saying?







LOL yes I know exactly what you are "saying"..., and I will ignore it blatantly. Because, anyone can post on a thread, anyone.
Not your choice who responds to what part of your story. or your comments. Dont like it ...tough.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:11:58 AM)

I am looking for someone that can get their message across without being a judgemental ass (like they are perfect) get their message across as far as help with my Dom/Sub questions in a non attacking way. And thank you to the few that do just that.



newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:13:11 AM)

That did just make me LMAO!

"LOL yes, and I will ignore it blatantly"



crazyml -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:14:16 AM)



Hey newatdis... You've ambled into a bar... lots of different styles and approaches, as you get to know the different personalities you'll discover that a lot of us are sincere... we may come over as cranky sometimes, but it's probably not too late for you to edit your last post in the light of LL's last.




newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:15:10 AM)

You know what, I actually thrive on it. Its the Philadelphia in me.
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

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ORIGINAL: newatdis

You will hardly tell me what to do on the thread I made. You can hit the door, know what I am saying?







LOL yes I know exactly what you are "saying"..., and I will ignore it blatantly. Because, anyone can post on a thread, anyone.
Not your choice who responds to what part of your story. or your comments. Dont like it ...tough.





newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:17:21 AM)

Edit last post? I wasn't talking to anyone in particular. I didn't quote anyone. If anyone is feeling like that post is directed at them that is beyond my capabilities.
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ORIGINAL: crazyml



Hey newatdis... You've ambled into a bar... lots of different styles and approaches, as you get to know the different personalities you'll discover that a lot of us are sincere... we may come over as cranky sometimes, but it's probably not too late for you to edit your last post in the light of LL's last.






newatdis -> RE: a question.. (2/9/2016 10:19:12 AM)

Than again, maybe not. there is and has always been some cosmic freaky s**t going on in my family. Usually just with the woman though. see, I am expanding my powers already.
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ORIGINAL: newatdis

Edit last post? I wasn't talking to anyone in particular. I didn't quote anyone. If anyone is feeling like that post is directed at them that is beyond my capabilities.
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ORIGINAL: crazyml



Hey newatdis... You've ambled into a bar... lots of different styles and approaches, as you get to know the different personalities you'll discover that a lot of us are sincere... we may come over as cranky sometimes, but it's probably not too late for you to edit your last post in the light of LL's last.








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