shiftyw
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Joined: 6/6/2013 From: The Shire Status: offline
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I'm finding this complicated to answer. I'm a leader at work. I'm a leader because I treat my employees like friends/family- not pawns. I'm a leader because I know how this industry works, my family has run the same business for over 75 years, you don't have that kind of longevity in the restaurant industry without knowing what to do naturally. I lead with everyone's best interest in mind. I know where people belong in the restaurant. I like to keep my employees happy, by keeping them in jobs they like. I'm a hard worker, and I'm in the trenches with these folks every day. I work in the sweltering kitchen. I wait tables when a waitstaff member is ill. I hostess, I count the drawer. I make nearly the same as everyone my age. I'd never dream of paying myself more than my employees. I'm a good listener. I can see things from several sides. I'm not dominant because I would never call what I do a dictatorship. I wouldn't liken myself to a captain. I'm quiet. I'm reserved. I often take into consideration, and usually follow, the advice or opinions of others. I never really think my way or the highway. I never really feel like I make a decision on my own, I usually use a team, or my partner to come to the best decision. When I hear dominant- I think dictatorship. Dictators are obviously leaders, of a certain talent, but does that make them "good"? Was Hitler a good leader? I don't think it worked out great for those who followed him? I think he was dominant, charismatic, and talented at getting followers, but if you devastate your followers by straight trashing their economy...idk. I think a dictatorship CAN work in a relationship- but the dictator has to be a GOOD leader- and how you define "good" is what matters here- and is based on the individuals involved. My man who I only submit to in the bedroom- makes good and sexy decisions in the bedroom. But we have separate bank accounts, and my name is the only one on the mortgage because- he isn't good at spending. However, I'd say he's a natural dominant, very alpha. I'd just question some of his leadership skills.
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