dreamlady
Posts: 737
Joined: 9/13/2007 From: Western MD Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit First: YOU HAVE TO EMAIL THE DOMINANT. It is an ugly reality, but that is pretty much the only way dating works for people looking for more than a casual relationship. Our culture requires the woman to make the first move when it comes to a serious relationship, ESPECIALLY when she is submissive. In fact, I would consider outright ignoring all people that email you on this website before you email them. There are too many actual ( but not serious) males chasing too few actual women on this and similar websites for it to work the other way around. If you are here to play, then fine, live out your fantasy of being chased by the guy. But if you want a real, long term relationship, the woman has to initiate it. The act of finding a real person to date is not and can not be part of the fantasy you desire. Wanting a dominant man to call/email/text you first is similar to a male slave expecting to be kidnapped, blindfolded and raped, all without speaking. Fantasy is not reality. Seriously? Seriously?? The second part of your post about being specific is commonsensical, short of boxing oneself into a corner. It's the first part quoted above which I don't agree with, as pertaining to maleDoms. Btw, if this were the case, no Dom-leaning male Switch would get contacted by anybody! I'll tell you why I think your advice is flawed. I'm not saying that it is wrong for a femsub to contact a maleDom if his profile interests her. But as far as I'm concerned, any man who sits around on a seeking site expecting females to make the first move, isn't much of a man. Not to mention, he would have to be an idiot, and a passive idiot at that, given the competition he faces. The biggest idiots of all are newbie male subs coming onto this site expecting Dommes - or any other woman for that matter - to start wooing them. In a pig's eye, unless she's a pro on the hunt for new clients. A woman contacting a man doesn't make her appear to be any more "real" to him. In fact, a man would be more likely to be question her motives than usual. Yes, it is a secret fantasy of a lot of men to want to be chased and wooed. You guys won't admit it, but there it is. I won't speak for other women, but that's not the type of man I would be attracted to, a man who either doesn't know what he wants and is indecisive and/or doesn't go after what he wants in life no matter what his orientation happens to be. DreamLady
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Love is born with the pleasure of looking at each other, it is fed with the necessity of seeing each other, it is concluded with the impossibility of separation. ~José Marti
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