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Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to check ou... - 5/28/2016 12:01:08 PM

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Whether it be online or in person - assuming that said sub is too shy or polite to make the first move....

Ladies, what makes you stop and go -- ok, I want to approach this man and find out more.

REAL LIFE (munches, parties, clubs)

If it is his LOOKS -- what about them? Interesting eyes, his attire (is it that he looks sharp? professional? something else?), how he interacts with other people? Something else?

If it is his DEMEANOR - what about it? Does someone who is gregarious and talking to lots of people interest you, or are you drawn to the quiet brooding type? What if a man has some social anxiety and is alone - how can he stand out? What would make you notice a guy who probably is not doing more than observing?

ONLINE
If it is the PHOTO, how much does attraction factor in (be HONEST...people say "oh use pics with you showing your hobbies" but you must admit you do look a bit at the man, right?) - is it purely a random thing, i.e., all ladies have different quick physical things that interest us - some like shaved heads, some like big guys, some like tattoos, etc.

Any other factors to add?

I am just curious what that -- literal - split second instinct is that says "I am intrigued a bit" to "not even noticing said sub."

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/28/2016 4:05:52 PM

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Damn, Akasha, it's been so long since any man has stopped me in my tracks to check him out, sub or not, so this is not easy to answer.

If it's on a visual basis, a guy has to be my physical type more or less, for me to notice him.
(I will notice if I am being stared at or glanced at frequently, but that don't mean nuttin. It doesn't mean I am returning his interest.)

I don't go for the shy type. I like it when a man exudes confidence or is confident about his sex appeal, one who does not act like a wallflower statue. Then if he starts acting romantically shy around me during conversation, while being attentively focused and responsive to me or my presence, then that can be an attractive quality.

He would have to speak intelligently and show appropriately consistent efforts to make a favorable impression on me. If I detect an air of arrogance or conceit, or if he is checking out any other women, then he's dead in the water.

With an on-line introduction, many more factors come into play than mere physical appearance, but I have to admit that this is still important in terms of basic attractiveness level (as a baseline -- I can't do fugly

), in terms of having an understated but decidedly masculine sex appeal.

However, no amount of good looks or physically attractive appearance can outweigh having a pleasantly charming demeanor. Sincerity counts, as does the desire to please, without coming across as insecure/pushy, needy/desperate, kink/fetish/sex-obsessed, and/or mentally unstable.

Basically, he has to present himself like a well-rounded gentleman who would make pleasant company, as an honest and trustworthy person with nothing to hide, as a man of integrity, or else he won't hold my interest.

He can be a diamond in the rough, a rare find of special import -- but not another formless lump of coal who just happens to have an XY chromosome.

ETA: The vanilla gentleman I am currently dating was introduced to me by a mutual acquaintance, so I already had some biographical info and personal history to go by which stood in his favor.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/28/2016 5:18:23 PM

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Whether it be online or in person - assuming that said sub is too shy or polite to make the first move....

Ladies, what makes you stop and go -- ok, I want to approach this man and find out more.

REAL LIFE (munches, parties, clubs)

If it is his LOOKS -- what about them? Interesting eyes, his attire (is it that he looks sharp? professional? something else?), how he interacts with other people? Something else?

If it is his DEMEANOR - what about it? Does someone who is gregarious and talking to lots of people interest you, or are you drawn to the quiet brooding type? What if a man has some social anxiety and is alone - how can he stand out? What would make you notice a guy who probably is not doing more than observing?

ONLINE
If it is the PHOTO, how much does attraction factor in (be HONEST...people say "oh use pics with you showing your hobbies" but you must admit you do look a bit at the man, right?) - is it purely a random thing, i.e., all ladies have different quick physical things that interest us - some like shaved heads, some like big guys, some like tattoos, etc.

Any other factors to add?

I am just curious what that -- literal - split second instinct is that says "I am intrigued a bit" to "not even noticing said sub."

Akasha

Betcha ten to one money make more differences than anything else ever will.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/28/2016 9:09:02 PM

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Betcha ten to one money make more differences than anything else ever will.

Uhhh no. First, distinguish between "lifestyle dominant women" and "fly by night online scammers" or whoever; lifestyle dominant women -- as in, "in our blood", born this way -- in my experience, MOST of them (like me) are creative, driven, ambitious. Many are self employed, successful, etc. All the dominant women I have met have amazing careers outside of kink.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/28/2016 9:59:03 PM

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Betcha ten to one money make more differences than anything else ever will.

Uhhh no. First, distinguish between "lifestyle dominant women" and "fly by night online scammers" or whoever; lifestyle dominant women -- as in, "in our blood", born this way -- in my experience, MOST of them (like me) are creative, driven, ambitious. Many are self employed, successful, etc. All the dominant women I have met have amazing careers outside of kink.

Well said,

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 3:16:55 AM

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Betcha ten to one money make more differences than anything else ever will.

Keep making sorry-arse bets and spewing sorry-arse remarks like that, and you will end up as broke as you are morally bankrupt.

This is somewhat of an inside joke here on the fora, but you must be a charter member of mosquito boy's club.

He is the "slave" who goes around spamming the women on this site by offering to pay them $800-$1,000 to take him out into the woods, tie him up, and leave him there so that mosquitoes can have at him, but never gets any takers. (Up from his going rate of $500 a couple of years ago)

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 4:56:06 AM

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oh man he sent me a PM and I'm a submissive, so he has no clue

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 6:07:03 AM

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oh man he sent me a PM and I'm a submissive, so he has no clue

Nobody in their right mind takes him seriously, the epitome of a *do-me* "sub."

Aside from wank fodder, and humiliation fetish gratification for getting cussed out/told to Fuck Off, when not ignored by getting his messages Deleted Unread, I suspect mosquito dude and others of his ilk have a fetish for pretending that they could actually afford to part with exorbitant sums of money. As if they even have two pennies to rub together.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 6:50:30 AM

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if I remember right I think I told him dude look at my profile I'm a submissive not a Dominant.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 7:14:14 AM

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He is looking for a delivery system, D/s isnt the point for him.
Mind you he doesnt follow thru if you tell him you will do it to him for free either.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 7:57:59 AM

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true, bet he wouldn't have money anyways.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 8:17:17 AM

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true, bet he wouldn't have money anyways.

He must be poor as a church mouse. Have told him more than once that I'll do it for $1,000. Have 26 wooded mosquito filled woods to tie him up in, and he has never come. It's sad. I'd like the money. The guy who wants to be burned with cigarettes never comes either. Wondering now if they are one and the same.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 8:38:22 AM

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I like this subject. Wish the guys who are looking for a Dominant Lady would read it. Sadly, that probably won't happen. It would be wonderful for those guys to realize that penis pictures won't do it. It would be wonderful if those guys would realize that saying that they are worms and worthless won't do it. However, a pleasing personality and being able to hold a conversation are big pluses.

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Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 8:53:27 AM

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I totally agree with what you said
Thank you
Maybe some men will understand

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 9:14:27 AM

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odd thing is male Dominants send me penis pictures as well not just submissives, I guess a lot of males that come here think that every woman is going to get turned on by his cock. truthfully it grody's me out.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 9:19:03 AM

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sp1UgS044cA Music will now set the scene of all my true stories.

I think that time I was at club noir (does that still exist?), 10-12 years ago – has anyone else noticed wickeds best stories come from that epoch? Twere strange and wonder full years for him. He had recently escaped from his bad marriage of woe and instanity.
So, I was at the club with some trollop (she was a lovely person- I am not explaining my word choice anymore they are almost never used in a derogatory manner) I was dating.
She was oogling some hot dude on the dance floor and per chance I bumped into someone I knew, had met, and had one of those pool dates at some posh place.
Id only ever seen here in jeans and baggy top. And there she was all stunning in latex with adequate plastic tits. I would have been utter remit of my duty as a man not to hit on her.

And what women could resist the cacophony of madness and greatness that is I. But wicked is full of curious quirks he will never cheat, flirt perhaps for there exists the odd muffinuim that is his weakness. So after that relationship came to past we dated and I shagged her clean across the living room floor. We did get tangled under the coffee table a wee bit and the living room wall stopped me from shagging her into next week or parallelly continuum's – when the mood takes me – she could shag back almost equally the only one I have ever come across.

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Never tarnish me with bad stereotypes, grotesque caricaturesto all who have alluded to that Most"women" are as bad and can hold there own. Still, that leaves some, I doth think, a few, or is it one or two.
And to be more specific fieryopal something strange happens when you put two shy people together, on rare occurrences, who are both dominant in nature, and that would best putting me versus a hole - which is about as much as many on here, or over there, can grasp on your good days.

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 9:37:31 AM

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if I remember right I think I told him dude look at my profile I'm a submissive not a Dominant.

That's cuz *do-me* idiot logic is as follows for these morons:

-- Submissive means you are submissive to anybody and to everybody.

-- Submissive women are submissive, ergo they will do whatever said morons want them to do, i.e. service Top them on demand.

-- This includes dominating men who cannot get Dommes, S/switches, or vanilla gals to give these fools the time of day.

@Lucy, you're such a tease! After all, Canadian mosquitoes are quite legendary, are they not. Oops, that won't be until after the next polar axis reversal switches itself sideways.

@peppermint, I haven't heard from human ashtray in quite some time. His going rate was only in the $200-$400 range. The nerve of these toilet slaves wanting their delivery system provided for free!

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 10:02:00 AM

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have to admit do me idiot logic is fun to read, especially when you need a good laugh

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 10:10:42 AM

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if I remember right I think I told him dude look at my profile I'm a submissive not a Dominant.

That's cuz *do-me* idiot logic is as follows for these morons:

-- Submissive means you are submissive to anybody and to everybody.

-- Submissive women are submissive, ergo they will do whatever said morons want them to do, i.e. service Top them on demand.

-- This includes dominating men who cannot get Dommes, S/switches, or vanilla gals to give these fools the time of day.

@Lucy, you're such a tease! After all, Canadian mosquitoes are quite legendary, are they not. Oops, that won't be until after the next polar axis reversal switches itself sideways.

@peppermint, I haven't heard from human ashtray in quite some time. His going rate was only in the $200-$400 range. The nerve of these toilet slaves wanting their delivery system provided for free!

I got eaten alive by them last year and the year before... I get an allergy reaction to them too:(

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RE: Femdoms, what makes you stop in your tracks to chec... - 5/29/2016 11:11:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76
if I remember right I think I told him dude look at my profile I'm a submissive not a Dominant.

That's cuz *do-me* idiot logic is as follows for these morons:

-- Submissive means you are submissive to anybody and to everybody.

-- Submissive women are submissive, ergo they will do whatever said morons want them to do, i.e. service Top them on demand.

-- This includes dominating men who cannot get Dommes, S/switches, or vanilla gals to give these fools the time of day.

@Lucy, you're such a tease! After all, Canadian mosquitoes are quite legendary, are they not. Oops, that won't be until after the next polar axis reversal switches itself sideways.

@peppermint, I haven't heard from human ashtray in quite some time. His going rate was only in the $200-$400 range. The nerve of these toilet slaves wanting their delivery system provided for free!

I do not know of mosqeto guy but same thing as mosquto wants is your blood.

Woman only want to suck the money out of men. They say it themselves when tehy say "I dont care how much you make" which is to say that they do care how much they make otherwise they would not even think to say it.

Women only care to get guys money just like mosquito only care to suck guys blood.
In both cases tehy do it to feed there children.

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