JeffBC
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Joined: 2/12/2012 From: Canada Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 being taught from the ground up I was always taught the submissve takes the orders from the Dominant they are involved with nobody else, so whatever joe smoe smuck head tries to give me orders online I just laugh at them. That's why I always tell newbie subs to never read online and don't listen to orders online by someone you aren't even submitting to. ROFL, you think you subs have it bad? You should see the laundry list of rules which apply to a "True Dom". There's a reason one of my favorite jokes was, "I'm not nearly submissive enough to be a BDSM dominant." More seriously though, even when internet people aren't being stupid, every single relationship is unique. If I write stuff here about how Carol and I do things, then it's about Carol and I. If bits and pieces of that tickle someone else's fancy then perhaps those bits & pieces can be "tried on for a fit" and if they work out then Huzzah! But if they don't fit that doesn't mean that their relationship doesn't measure up to some theoretical bar of properness. It means whoever read/tried them was different than Carol & I. That's why I write many of my answers in the form of first person anecdotes about my marriage. It gets me out of expounding on BDSM generally and lets me talk about reality... even if it's just one tiny little slice of reality. That being said, I do think that reading about various relationship patterns online is helpful and, in fact, helped me greatly when I was totally naive about all of this. But I was never dumb enough to think that anyone else's rules applied to me. I never tried to be a "True Master". Note that OP apparently got exactly the insight she needed in this online interaction.
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I'm a lover of "what is", not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. -- Bryon Katie "You're humbly arrogant" -- sunshinemiss officially a member of the K Crowd
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