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Mentors - 7/22/2006 4:58:53 AM

wickedmasterssub

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i have a sub friend who has told me a Dominant is mentoring here. I find it odd though he has time to check His collar me messages but not time to respond to her emails and to just say a quick hi on yahoo chat!!! I have told her somethings wrong here and move on . Any one else have an opinion on this?

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 5:25:05 AM

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My mentors have put a lot of time into me. They answer my emails and IM with me for long periods of time, when I need them. That's why they are called "mentors".

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 6:36:07 AM

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To me if the person does that he isn't worth any thing. Using the person I would ponder. I would get out of that so called "mentorship" fast.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 7:11:00 AM

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He is no mentor

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 8:02:23 AM

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He is no mentor

I agree completely, I mentor and it takes time, energy, and thoughtfulness---I'd say--nope and move on.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 8:05:07 AM

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She says He does talk to her about twice a week but she also knows Hes on other rtimes during the week and doesnt bother to say hi.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 8:10:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006

She says He does talk to her about twice a week but she also knows Hes on other rtimes during the week and doesnt bother to say hi.

Ok, this post was started by one person and now another responds? hmmmm something is odd Me thinks.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 8:17:36 AM

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This has been occuring quite a bit lately. It seems that they are usually diametrically opposing profiles as well. Sub/Dom, or even Male/Female ...

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 10:08:51 AM

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I've noticed the influx of sock-puppet posting. But to answer the base question posed.

Wouldn't it depend on the terms of that Mentorship? If he has set terms, set times for contact and... as possibly likely from what we see here, she is trying to push it, make demands, control the how, when and where of the contact... He MAY have chosen to limit her to specific contact points in order to reinforce that HE is in control, not her. Now she's bitching about it, via more than one account (If indeed any of it is true at all). In such a case HE is the one who should be kicking her arse out the virtual door.

Just a thought.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 12:48:17 PM

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Obviously we have another multiple personality poster but I will answer it for the hell of it anyway.

The "poor" behaviour in question might be looked at in a different light. I must say that I could be accused of such. Here is the reason why. I do not very often get alot of free, uninterupted computer time where I can focus completely on the issue at hand. It is very easy for me to bop in and out of my email or collarme while I am at work, read a few posts on the message boards, read a few emails, answer a few stupid ones quickly and then I usually get interupted by the phone, someone coming into the shop for help or one of the guys coming up to ask me a question. Even here at home there are times like now that I am distracted by things beyond my control.
For the replies that I feel require my full attention and some thought I often wait until I A.) know exactly WHAT I want to say and B.) I know I will not get interupted and therefor my train of thought interupted. All too often I have whipped off a quick email without doing those two things and hitting the send too quickly. Only to find later that I was misinterperated, feelings were hurt, and I have to try and explain what I REALLY meant.
I am not saying that this is the reason in this case but I just thought I would toss that out there as food for thought. It is really easy to assume why a person is acting the way they are but unless you come right out and ask them, it will just be an assumption and in my experience, probably wrong.

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RE: Mentors - 7/22/2006 12:51:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wickedmasterssub

i have a sub friend who has told me a Dominant is mentoring here. I find it odd though he has time to check His collar me messages but not time to respond to her emails and to just say a quick hi on yahoo chat!!! I have told her somethings wrong here and move on . Any one else have an opinion on this?

I think it's a typical cyber relationship and the person needs to get offline.

After all, if she gets this annoyed and upset over this small of an issue, how can she really trust anything he can say?

Whether the issue is her lack of security, her lack of judgement or his being a dork- it's obviously not working out positively.

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