LadyPact -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 3:06:47 AM)
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LOL. Good. OK, so let's see if we can help you with the green eyed monster. (You didn't think I was going to call you to the carpet without trying to help you, did you? Nah. Not my style.) First, jealousy and insecurity can be perfectly *normal* feelings. More or less, they stem from fear. That fear usually comes from not wanting to lose what we have, or heaven help us, we view someone as threatening what we have. That's scary! Kinda sucks, too, doesn't it, when all of these people seem to be doing ok with poly, and you're not? How did they do that? A part of it is about facing that fear head on. YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. The deal is, we have to handle them in a constructive way. Unfortunately, you jumped on the fear train express. While your feelings are valid, they aren't facts. Ya know, your husband and your Daddy have been sharing you for a while now. You've been reveling in both of them being satisfied with having independent relationships with these different parts that deal with your wants. Now, it's your turn to share.
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