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I've been life-ing, but I had a couple of comments. I know some of them are to old issues, but also specifically point to ways of thinking that are important, IMNSHO. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 quote:
ORIGINAL: MariaB 4) Do you trust him? 4. implicitly. I couldn't stay with him this long if I didn't. I don't trust her. I think she's playing with him. It's not trust if you don't trust him to find the best option for him and you. You are also not trusting him to listen to what you have to say, and pay it the attention it deserves. You are not trusting him to continue loving you, even if you are jealous. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 But telling him I don't like her will make me look petty and jealous. What makes a person look petty and jealous is saying, "I don't like them, therefore you shouldn't." It's perfectly fine to say, "I don't like them, here is why. I trust you to make the best decisions for yourself and me." quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 But I don't want to lose him. I'm not ready to do that. Not over some noob subby cum lately. She's not worth losing him. You do realize that it's not your choice alone, right? And that to YOU she may be a "noob subby cum lately," but to him, she may be more, even if he doesn't realize it yet. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 I want him to tie me up and make me watch him top and fuck her. The idea makes me so hot. Too weird? It's a fetish. You're a cuckquean. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 So leave him to save myself? Hurt him before he hurts me? I don't understand. My willingness to battle my jealousy and not just give up and run away is a negative? No. It's not. Be aware, though, and be ready to leave if the negative you get from the relationship outweighs the positive. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 I've made a decision. I'm not going to beg him to pay me attention or Brat about this new girl anymore. As long as he continues to devote the same effort and time to me that he has and she doesn't make him chose between us, I'm not going to even stress about it. His time with me is ours, and his time with her is theirs. If we all happen to hang out together, he's my focus, not her. The end. Not going to act or feel jealous anymore. Doesn't do me any good anyway. I have my husband and kids and if Daddy decides my devotion doesn't mean anything to him anymore, I'll be fine. This is an excellent position to take. Except you can't control your feelings, just how you respond to them. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 Ok, I'll tell him I can't handle it, I'm jealous and I don't want to see him anymore so I can work on myself Every one else is happy and I'm still miserable. Great solution. Bullsh^t! That's not the f^cking answer. Agreed. These boards give you OPINIONS. Some of them are good. Some of them are not worth a cow puck. You have to think things through and decide what they mean to you. Do not do ANYTHING that does not feel deeply right to you, and if nothing does, you need to think some more. quote:
ORIGINAL: DesFIP The op is very passive aggressive. That's not something that improves any relationship. More the contrary. This is true. Take what it says to heart.
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