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RE: The flaws of being Mr. Niceguy or, if you are a gen... - 9/6/2016 2:07:25 PM   
Quiette


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I'm not sure what point you're trying to make. She's one woman making bad choices. Okay, that's her right. Doesn't change the fact that she's just not into these nice guys you keep bringing up. Just cause a magazine calls a guy sexy doesn't automatically make him sexy to me. What's this really about? What the heck do you want as an answer?



Simple, why am I the bad guy for telling her she was full of shit after hearing her say "Why cant I find a guy like you?" for the umpteenth time in 10 years, when clearly if she wanted a guy like me or any guy that was not going to fuck 4 or five other women while fucking her.

I mean, she as well as every other female friend I have know that I have never cheated on anyone I was involved with, even when it turned out they had been cheating, in point of fact at least two of them have said, "Hey she is fucking around, you might as well."

My point is that she is always whining about the type of guys she is with, but never does anything about it but to say, "why cant I find a decent guy."

But, after ten years, I tell her I have been here, and that she is bullshitting herself because she is always going on with douchebags, I am the one whining.


Well you are whining...to us kinda anyway. I guess I just don't understand what your intentions are. Are you trying to tell her she's made bad decisions? Well you have so...what's there to go on about? She'll either listen or she won't. She's an adult after all. Are you trying to sleep with her? Are you trying to be her boyfriend? I just don't understand what YOU want out of this exchange that makes her bullshit mean this much to you.

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RE: The flaws of being Mr. Niceguy or, if you are a gen... - 9/6/2016 3:07:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Quiette


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ORIGINAL: jlf1961


quote:

ORIGINAL: Quiette




I'm not sure what point you're trying to make. She's one woman making bad choices. Okay, that's her right. Doesn't change the fact that she's just not into these nice guys you keep bringing up. Just cause a magazine calls a guy sexy doesn't automatically make him sexy to me. What's this really about? What the heck do you want as an answer?



Simple, why am I the bad guy for telling her she was full of shit after hearing her say "Why cant I find a guy like you?" for the umpteenth time in 10 years, when clearly if she wanted a guy like me or any guy that was not going to fuck 4 or five other women while fucking her.

I mean, she as well as every other female friend I have know that I have never cheated on anyone I was involved with, even when it turned out they had been cheating, in point of fact at least two of them have said, "Hey she is fucking around, you might as well."

My point is that she is always whining about the type of guys she is with, but never does anything about it but to say, "why cant I find a decent guy."

But, after ten years, I tell her I have been here, and that she is bullshitting herself because she is always going on with douchebags, I am the one whining.


Well you are whining...to us kinda anyway. I guess I just don't understand what your intentions are. Are you trying to tell her she's made bad decisions? Well you have so...what's there to go on about? She'll either listen or she won't. She's an adult after all. Are you trying to sleep with her? Are you trying to be her boyfriend? I just don't understand what YOU want out of this exchange that makes her bullshit mean this much to you.



How about the fact that I find it fucked up that some women say they want one thing, and they dont and then when they get screwed over the call some guy to cry on his shoulder and giving him the line.

Yes, I made it clear that if, given the chance, I would like to pursue a relationship with her, a week later she was with some other guy that everyone that knows her, hangs with her socially, KNEW that he was another one just like every other one. Hell one of her co workers found out about him the hard way.

She was warned.

Then at 3 in the morning she shows up at my place with the same old sob story.

I have told her before I am tired of hearing it.
Her other friends are tired of hearing it.

And the fact that I have videos of comics talking about the same damn fucking stupid thing makes me think that it is common enough to become a joke.

Okay, so let me put it this way, if I have told her I dont want to hear it, and I have told her that she is not looking for a nice guy, gentleman or whatever, what the hell am I supposed to do?

Trust me, at this point, the thought of moving to the US Virgin Islands and taking a job I really dont want is beginning to look appealing, or a monastery in Nepal.

The fact that those online and in the real world know I am not actually looking for anyone, basically because I agree with the saying a woman wants a man that understands himself rather than a man that understands women.


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RE: The flaws of being Mr. Niceguy or, if you are a gen... - 9/6/2016 3:16:36 PM   
Quiette


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Okay, so let me put it this way, if I have told her I dont want to hear it, and I have told her that she is not looking for a nice guy, gentleman or whatever, what the hell am I supposed to do?



Uhh who says you need to DO anything? You didn't really even answer my question about what you want that makes all this so damn important. You talked about how you don't like x, y, and z (which I didn't ask about because you already made it clear you don't like it). You did point out that at one point you would have liked to pursue a relationship but then also said that that was a while ago. When I asked what you want out of all this complaining, I meant right now.

If you provide a response to this, try and leave out all of the fluff. You asked what you're supposed to do. My question right now is "What do you want?" Your response should start out like this "I want..." and then your answer. Nothing extra please because you're really just repeating yourself. When I have the answer to what you want, then I can maybe answer what you should do. And the answer may be to do nothing.

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RE: The flaws of being Mr. Niceguy or, if you are a gen... - 9/6/2016 3:21:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jlf1961


quote:

ORIGINAL: Quiette


quote:

ORIGINAL: jlf1961


quote:

ORIGINAL: Quiette




I'm not sure what point you're trying to make. She's one woman making bad choices. Okay, that's her right. Doesn't change the fact that she's just not into these nice guys you keep bringing up. Just cause a magazine calls a guy sexy doesn't automatically make him sexy to me. What's this really about? What the heck do you want as an answer?



Simple, why am I the bad guy for telling her she was full of shit after hearing her say "Why cant I find a guy like you?" for the umpteenth time in 10 years, when clearly if she wanted a guy like me or any guy that was not going to fuck 4 or five other women while fucking her.

I mean, she as well as every other female friend I have know that I have never cheated on anyone I was involved with, even when it turned out they had been cheating, in point of fact at least two of them have said, "Hey she is fucking around, you might as well."

My point is that she is always whining about the type of guys she is with, but never does anything about it but to say, "why cant I find a decent guy."

But, after ten years, I tell her I have been here, and that she is bullshitting herself because she is always going on with douchebags, I am the one whining.


Well you are whining...to us kinda anyway. I guess I just don't understand what your intentions are. Are you trying to tell her she's made bad decisions? Well you have so...what's there to go on about? She'll either listen or she won't. She's an adult after all. Are you trying to sleep with her? Are you trying to be her boyfriend? I just don't understand what YOU want out of this exchange that makes her bullshit mean this much to you.



How about the fact that I find it fucked up that some women say they want one thing, and they dont and then when they get screwed over the call some guy to cry on his shoulder and giving him the line.

Yes, I made it clear that if, given the chance, I would like to pursue a relationship with her, a week later she was with some other guy that everyone that knows her, hangs with her socially, KNEW that he was another one just like every other one. Hell one of her co workers found out about him the hard way.

She was warned.

Then at 3 in the morning she shows up at my place with the same old sob story.

I have told her before I am tired of hearing it.
Her other friends are tired of hearing it.

And the fact that I have videos of comics talking about the same damn fucking stupid thing makes me think that it is common enough to become a joke.

Okay, so let me put it this way, if I have told her I dont want to hear it, and I have told her that she is not looking for a nice guy, gentleman or whatever, what the hell am I supposed to do?

Trust me, at this point, the thought of moving to the US Virgin Islands and taking a job I really dont want is beginning to look appealing, or a monastery in Nepal.

The fact that those online and in the real world know I am not actually looking for anyone, basically because I agree with the saying a woman wants a man that understands himself rather than a man that understands women.



She is using you because you have allowed her to and for whatever fucked up reason, continue to do so. Most people I know, even the nicest ones, don't put up with that shit.


< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 9/6/2016 3:23:48 PM >


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RE: The flaws of being Mr. Niceguy or, if you are a gen... - 9/6/2016 5:50:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jlf1961

Simple, why am I the bad guy for telling her she was full of shit after hearing her say "Why cant I find a guy like you?" for the umpteenth time in 10 years, when clearly if she wanted a guy like me or any guy that was not going to fuck 4 or five other women while fucking her.


That's not why you're the bad guy.

You're the bad guy because you came here to tell us all about it and use it to bolster your weak-ass theory.

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