Gauge
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Joined: 6/17/2005 Status: offline
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This is a fast reply. You simply need to overhaul your profile. You go on incessantly about fakes and those that are not real... do you honestly think that is going to stop a fake from trying? Hell, I doubt that any of them even bother looking at a profile, let alone read the damn thing. Additionally, it begs the question what your definition of "real" and "fake" is and whether or not, if someone isn't into what you are, that they will be branded as a fake by you. See the problem? Lose the pictures, seriously. It's a turn off and nothing that a dominant woman has not seen hundreds if not thousands of times. There is a submissive male on these forums who has a picture of himself laying down, head cropped out of the picture, and he is bare chested and showing his abs. The women seem to really like that picture... even the submissive ones. So, there are ways to preserve your identity and still be enticing. Do some searching on the forums (upper right hand corner of the header) and search keywords: submissive profile. You may have to add male to that. and see what results you get. Others might have suggestions for searches. quote:
Besides, isn't wanting to know what I look like just as shallow as having fetish pics? No, it isn't. Think about it, are you going to message a dominant that does not have a picture in her profile? Don't you want to know if you are at least attracted to her? The same thing applies to your profile. If you are reticent to show your face, get creative, or Photoshop a big mouse head over your face... but you will eventually have to establish if the dominant likes what she sees or not. quote:
Your own picture completely hides your face too so what good is that? Some people are not "out" with their BDSM in their lives. Some stand to loose quite a bit if it was ever found out, therefore, some folks preserve their identity by cropping out their face. OK, now... you have to stand out, the odds are against you simply because there are more submissive men looking for female dominants than there are female dominants. You must set yourself apart from the herd. Also, be honest about being new to this, that is not a bad thing... we all were new to this at one time, so it doesn't hurt to admit that you are still finding your way. Since you are relatively new, I suggest you get your hands on some books and read, read, read. In the General BDSM forum, at the top of the page, there is a book list thread that is stickied. Look it over, lots of good material in there. Welcome to the forums... and good on you for asking questions. I mean that.
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