ADomme4you
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Hi Even in D/s there are relationship red flags. His lack of time for you in the first place is one. You need to talk to him and tell him you want more of his time. Tell him you need it. Even if you are spending 20 hours a day with him if you still feel you need more time that is a red flag indicating that you have a need that is not being met in the relationship. Secondly, think of all the reasons you are uncomfortable with another slave being in your relationship, besides time because you will have talked to him about that separately and then talk to him about all the things you thought of. These things can be jealously, hurt feelings, who is the alpha slave?, how does he see your interactions together?, anything. Write these things down so you don't forget to mention any when you talk to him. Let him know how you feel, just be sure you know how you feel and can tell him clearly and listen to his feelings and thoughts about adding others to your relationship. And yes you may find yourself cying during this conversation and that is ok too. This is hard stuff to talk about. Be careful and thoughtful here because if he does not listen to you and want to lead you through this transition then that is certainly a red flag that you may need to find a different Dom. I hate to see relationships end. I hope with time and communication you both can be happy with the future you may have together or apart. Best wishes
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