kiwisub22 -> RE: Newbie Life. Sigh. (9/19/2016 2:52:23 PM)
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Think about looking for a dom as you would dating in vanilla. You don't do anything you don't want to do, no matter what someone may say. I especially love the " if you really are submissive, you would do ......." line. Just as the dom is judging you, you get to judge the dom, and since in our world female subs are a premium, you get to be as choosey as you want. The nice thing about what we do, is that there is a whole spectrum of how things get done, and you get to choose where you are on it - if you hate anal and zippers, you get to say no during negotiations. If you love breast torture, that goes into the pot, if you only want men who hate whips, you get to state that off the get-go - and once you are in a relationship and find something you dislike, you get to bring that up in a rational discussion. The nice thing about communications is that it goes two way. [:)]
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