UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: heavyblinker So I guess my question is: Is this normal? Is she right about the beatings helping me with suppressing my tears? Leaving off the points about ptsd, and whether this relationship is right for you, seeing that others have addressed that well already... Whether or not beating will help you cry less all depends on how you respond to beatings, which we can't really tell online because we don't know you. However, suppressing tears will not work. When you cramp down and attempt to suppress tears, all you're doing is focusing more on the reason you're crying, which will increase the urge to cry. My slave girl cries all the type too, at everything (she cries when she's happy, when she's sad, when she's scared, when she's grateful, etc... she cries(d) a dozen times a day easily). Excessively so, and annoyingly so. We're currently in the process of training her to keep the expression of her emotions more in check, and the most effective tool to teach her to stop crying has been two folded: A) teach her appropriate ways to express what she's feeling without crying (focus on smiling when happy, talking when sad, etc) B) teach her to focus on things other than what she's feeling in the moment when her emotions are getting out of hand and overwhelm her She's got a long ways to go, but has made remarkable progress, and is doing better because of having her emotions more in check in everything she does in life (including work, her family relationship, etc). Again, I'm not saying that it would be appropriate for *you* to just work on 'not crying' because there's other issues with the situation you're describing, but if you are going to work on not crying, don't do it by attempting suppression.
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