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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 6:29:19 PM

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Selective is not prudish.

Clarification of my idea of a prude is not what they choose to do with their sex life, but getting offended at other people's sex life.

So if someone believes in no sex before love. That is not a prude.
But if this person condemns others for not holding the same values, that person is a prude.

I have never ever used the word "Prude" on men or women for the act of valuing love before sex. I view that as a sexual orientation, like asexual, thus should be respected.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 6:33:34 PM

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I know quite a few who don't give a rat's ass - they just wanna fuck from anyone.
So this statement is untrue.

I have never in my entire life met a male or a female who would just fuck anybody. I have never met a single human being who didn't put conditions to who they will fuck. Everyone has boundaries and parameters.

So my experience differs from yours. And more so in the casual world. Everyone is rather specific. Like men usually wants a cute or pretty woman as a condition. Women usually want a man who'd make her feel comfortable with him and stimulate her brain with engaging conversation.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 6:40:00 PM

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Maybe "translate" his message to "Let me thoughtfully tell you I'm an asshole before you waste any time on me."

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 9:00:54 PM

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I think that men who aren't really looking for a serious relationship with you and just basically want to have 'a good fuck' wouldn't care as much how many partners you have or how promiscuous you are as long as you don't have a disease. But a man who is looking for more of a serious relationship would probably be more concerned with those things. He was probably trying to communicate that if you are looking for a long- term serious relationship with someone, you might want to be somewhat aware that that is a consideration and factor of the type of man you might eventually want to be with.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 9:49:04 PM

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You are also absolutely wrong. Majority of men in the casual sex world in my country also won't hook up with a woman who openly admits she has multiple partners. Most want exclusive casual too. That's my experience. They want an exclusive casual as they want to go raw, that is usually the key thing.

Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.

All these practices really makes a huge difference in protecting yourself. Considering I've never had an accident, in terms of pregnancy either, and I have never taken birth control when I am casual, I took birth control when I am in exclusive relationships but never when casual, as for me, it's also warning the man, that I am not in any birth control, CONDOMS are non-negotiable.

I am super responsible when it comes to sex. NO accidents and No diseases. And I believe all these elements are controllable to quite a large extent. And the other thing is, considering all the conditions I have for sex. Men who have alot of sexual partners will never put up with my conditions as they can easily find women who don't have half of the conditions that I have. But generally the guys who dabble with me, feel safe with me, precisely because they know I practice such strict standards of safety and they themselves believe in all these precautions too.

On top of that, most of my sexual plays involves toys, and not actual penetrative sex. Men uses dildos. I can't cum from penetrative sex anyway, so many guys see no point. Many men I dabble with just enjoy giving orgasms to a woman, and don't need to cum themselves. I enjoy dildos better as they can be customised and shaped to hit my gspot better.

The type of man I want to be with, would be someone who likes a woman to be sexual and enjoying her sexuality freely.

So no, it wouldn't be the type of man I want to be with, if he believes in no sex before love. He needs to believe sex and love are not connected or related.

I also prefer men who have had alot of sexual partners themselves. I am not suitable for guys who barely sleep around. I can't relate to them. We would have different value systems and beliefs towards sexuality. If we have kids together later, there will be mix messages. I want my daughter to feel empowered, to have sex IF she enjoys having sex without guilt, at the same time, be strong enough to never feel peer pressured into having sex at all, IF her choice is to wait for love. Basically there are pressure from both camps as a teenager, and I want her to just stay true to herself and do what is authentic to herself.

I don't need a silly husband contradicting me telling her she's a slut if she gives away her virginity before marriage.

My best sex was telling me that one of his daughters openly sleeps around and openly enjoy sex. It's so sex positive. While another daughter has chosen to wait till marriage. He is supportive of both. That's the kind of man I want.

I need a man who can enjoy sex without love but also knows how to protect himself and keep himself safe.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 10:17:37 PM

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Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.

Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/30/2016 10:20:43 PM

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Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

To have safe sex. It's not gonna be spontaneous or awesome! Safety comes first.
People ditch safety for pleasure. I don't.
Or some people wait for an exclusive relationship so ya don't have to worry so much about safety aspects. I don't.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 7:30:30 AM

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Greta from everything you've said i don't know what kind of sex you are having. Sounds like you just want someone who fucks you with a dildo over and over so you can have multiple orgasms. They make machines that can do that for you.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 7:36:05 AM

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Greta from everything you've said i don't know what kind of sex you are having. Sounds like you just want someone who fucks you with a dildo over and over so you can have multiple orgasms. They make machines that can do that for you.

Does it matter what kind of sex she is having? Even if all she did want was an actual human being, not a machine, to fuck her with a dildo over and over, why should she be questioned about it?

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 7:58:53 AM

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Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.
Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

It doesn't even really sound like sex.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 8:33:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: Greta75
Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.
Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

It doesn't even really sound like sex.

I don't think it is. It sounds like she allows guys to help her masturbate. It must be enormously unsatisfying for the guy(s).

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 8:44:49 AM

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Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.
Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

It doesn't even really sound like sex.

I don't think it is. It sounds like she allows guys to help her masturbate. It must be enormously unsatisfying for the guy(s).

Well she says she likes guys who don't necessarily want to cum themself... they just enjoy watching her orgasm. But then she wants a man who loves sex and has enjoyed a great sex life himself. I am just trying to figure out in my head what kind of man would be a good long- term partner for her. ??? I would say a sub male in chastity for the rest of his life.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 9:02:28 AM

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I would say a sub male in chastity for the rest of his life.

Not really, because I have no problem with penetrative sex.
But most men when they hear that I cannot orgase with penetrative sex, they are no longer interested. Like men wanna fuck a woman who enjoys being fucked. I mean the guys I dabbled with really just want to do whatever makes you cum. Because they are there to watch a woman cum. But I seriously have no feeling when a dick enters me. This was since I lost my virginity. I can feel the dick slide in and out, but it doesn't do much, that's for sure. Not my orgasmic spot. I can only cum from gspot stimulation, and seriously, most cocks don't reach the gspot. Not angled right. And also, no matter how hard a cock is, it's still kinda soft. I mean in comparison to the strength of fingers. I think it doesn't have the strength to really stimulate the gspot, even if it's a natural curved dick.

Because of all my terms, literally I only end up in bed with men who loves to give pleasure without requiring reciprocation. The ones who needs reciprocation will not be fucking me. They will be fucking other women. So I got my own type that suits me. As one of my fuck buddies tell me, men who gets high from making a woman orgase continuously for hours, loves precisely a woman like me who just focus on cumming. As different strokes for different folks. It's also not easy for them to find a woman, they can keep cumming for long marathons. Like 8 to 12 hours of continuous cumming marathon. As most women have cumming limits where it gets too much. But I enjoy cums more and more as it turns to torture and I enjoy the state where cumming becomes pure unbearable torture. It may even start to hurt. But I love it!

When we find each other, we really enjoy each other. There is no one type of sex that fits all end of the day. We all are turn on by different things.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 9:14:47 AM

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Greta from everything you've said i don't know what kind of sex you are having. Sounds like you just want someone who fucks you with a dildo over and over so you can have multiple orgasms. They make machines that can do that for you.

But I like the feel of a man's skin. And man's hands roaming my body. And I love magic fingers. Plus, have you ever experienced Yoni massage? Machines can't do that!

Anyway, usually the best thing is to be dildo penetrated and have a plug in wand on the clit at the same time. The problem is, when a real dick goes in while I got a wand on my clit, it always make the guy cum instantly, so he can't last. Dildos work better. And I need clitoral stimulation to cum anyway. So penetration alone never does it for me.
Anyway, my sexual sessions are often long and leisure. I don't do short 2 or 3 hours sex. A guy needs to have at least 12 hours to spare me for me to want to have sex with him. And in long sexual sessions, most guys need time to recover in between cums, so dildos can keep it going.

And I don't have sex if I don't have time to have sex too. When I have sex, I don't like to rush, I like to have all day to enjoy it. So I guess none of my sex is ever spontaneous, always scheduled. But I think that's the difference between having a full time live in exclusive man, where it can be spontaneous and having a few different lovers, you make appointment with for sex, where we both need to make time in our calendar and add all the safety bits. Makes it even more unspontaneous. Price of having safe sex. It's not always sexy. Rather clinical, but I think, I just love to cum. So I can make myself cum with or without a man, but I much rather have a man make me cum.

PS: My best sex considers it sex whether he penetrates me with a dildo, his own dick or his fingers. I guess it's definition. I understand most men won't consider it sex, until he actually penetrated me with his penis. But to me, any form of penetration is sex. Remember that rape case where the guy dildo fucked an unconscious woman? It was rape too. It's still penetrative sex. It just doesn't have to always be a real cock.

And in terms of fidelity, I think it is quite clear infidelity happens, even if it's just dildo or finger penetration right?

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 10:19:22 AM

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Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.
Greta, sex with you sounds fucking awful.

It sure does

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 5:42:59 PM

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It's called sexual incompatibility. Sex with alot of people can sound pretty awful to me too! That's why sexual compatibility is sooo important to me. I cannot enjoy sex the normal typical way. Can't do the whole first base, second base, third base order. As obviously I hate first base.
Whatever rocks my girlfriend world in bed can be my nightmarish worst sex and turn me off sex.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 5:54:51 PM

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While I could never do sex the way you do Greta, You seem to have it working for you, you seem to be able to find what you want out of a sexual relationship, yet so many cant.
Im into all the intimacy and kissing, and hot and heavy petting, exchanging body fluids, and oral is a must... I dont get your needs personally but I dont need to:) its not my thang, in anyway, but you are happy with it and that is what really matters.

You wouldnt like my favourite kind of sex....but im happy you are happy with your sexuality(despite our disagreements in other places.)

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 5:59:30 PM

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Even people who like kissing can have difficulty finding people who kiss in a way that they really like.. Oral can be very over rated, since a lot of men think it's great as long as they are down there. Totally makes sense why some one would not like it, even though both are very popular activities to the degree of it's assumed that people do it, enjoy it, etc. But given that we are on a kink site, there are so many activities that people can find compatibility with. Not being compatible in a few ways is not as big of a deal compared to people who are only into a few things and disagree about those things.

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It's called sexual incompatibility. Sex with alot of people can sound pretty awful to me too! That's why sexual compatibility is sooo important to me. I cannot enjoy sex the normal typical way. Can't do the whole first base, second base, third base order. As obviously I hate first base.
Whatever rocks my girlfriend world in bed can be my nightmarish worst sex and turn me off sex.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 6:06:56 PM

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It's called sexual incompatibility.

Actually it was the "disinfecting" thing that turned me off.

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RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes - 10/31/2016 6:12:16 PM

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I was wondering what that meant. Disinfecting toys? Douching? Bathing? Hand Sanitizer?

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It's called sexual incompatibility.

Actually it was the "disinfecting" thing that turned me off.

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