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Good alternatives to CS - 11/6/2016 5:53:33 PM   
mrsincere


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Status: offline 		CS seems to be tapped out for me locally. Any Any trustworthy alternatives?
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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/6/2016 6:26:33 PM   
Wayward5oul


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CS seems to be tapped out for me locally. Any Any trustworthy alternatives?

I've seen this question on here before, several times, and have never seen a good alternative suggested. Pay sites usually suck for the male population. Some others that tried have failed. One of the members here has just launched a new site, but it's only been up a few days and has experienced some problems due to high traffic. She may have that fixed by now, she advertised some good features, but it won't be real useful until lots of people have signed up. I think it's called kinkydating.com.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/6/2016 6:29:43 PM   
mrsincere


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Status: offline 		Cool, I'll check it out. Thanks

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/6/2016 8:44:42 PM   
tamaka


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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/6/2016 9:09:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you're looking to meet people, OKCupid has worked for some. If you want something with forums, fetlife.com.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/7/2016 12:05:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		All forums start out good and then get inundated with the Pro-Dommes, FinDoms, and the usual plethora of gold digging skanks. But ignoring and forgetting about them, everyone has better luck on different forums. Might be geographical or related to preferences and so forth, but I've met some great women here, Fetlife, Craigslist and on and on.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/7/2016 7:26:11 AM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: mrsincere

Cool, I'll check it out. Thanks

I had the words in the wrong order. It's dating kinky, not kinky dating.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/7/2016 6:32:14 PM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		I think there is another forum this one should be under - we do check those other forums you know :)

As someone mentioned OKC its dire always has been always will be and is in essence just about dead - no idea why match paid so much for that. I can now buy used panties, or hookers on it, and 90% of what little mail I have gotten this year are from the usual scam rings. But is has a slightly larger active user base in anyones region than this site - not by much, and most is already attached and just on to hoover up attention

Someone on here started another site a while back (i cant work out who you are on here) I haven't checked in on it in along time - wonders if it still running - overlooking the fact the site layout was far too rich and therefore exceptionally cumbersome. He chose to allow scam financial element on it back then ( i gave you a big long list what to do and not shrugs) and all it did was breed more fukers like that therefore the userbase and reputation will not/did not grow - bit like here eh.

You have fet - should be good but it never has been for a variety of reasons DomStrictMale tickled the surface. Unfortunately the bulk of it is corrupt and morally bankrupt – clique is a fine word. Be it some of the regulars, some of the mods,ct…but in essence the power base in concentrated within that small element, ofetn in wonderful realtionships looking to hoover up more attention and to collect mindless drones to enable/rs

Didn’t know she started a site – I had a quick read at toc about etc – seems fine-sweary words allowed too and a ranty (they used to call those venting forums – wise move) :). Layout wise not got a clue tomorrow is boring Tuesday so will join and look.

IC is defunct most of you will not know what that was.

I think all the sites have been mentioned – need to include fish. And that’s basically all your main ones...and one busy swingers site uk - mainly full of cheaty blokes I might add but the odd wench- lovely couples etc to speak to

Websites – paid ones are typically owned by the same company – ive lost count of what match owned…and there was story about some Scottish based group owning 500 or so and the drones they employed running the usual 100-100 profiles(allegedly)-bonus etc

Point here being all sites should be free. The ones that have been mentioned are fre so continue to support them starting with this one as it’s the longest running free one I know still functioning –with its original ethos- granted they need to wipe out 90% of the userbase and curtail the shenanigans that join and upload guff. Anyway they should all be free – donation systems are fine I favour what people can afford to support them like oh say a paupers pittance,…anyhoos these places still need an optional verification system to curtail the deranged maniacs and those particularly dangerous fukers and the usual scam rings


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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/8/2016 2:41:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DomStrictMale

All forums start out good and then get inundated with the Pro-Dommes, FinDoms, and the usual plethora of gold digging skanks. But ignoring and forgetting about them, everyone has better luck on different forums. Might be geographical or related to preferences and so forth, but I've met some great women here, Fetlife, Craigslist and on and on.


Don't forget the poor pathetic little boys who love to bitch and whine about said dommes. Wouldn't want to leave them out, they are a sensitive group. They might cry.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/8/2016 4:37:06 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Women are rare on here - as one above me kinda says. Yes i've seen many a whiner and most do not have a good point, certainly not from the aspect they are representing themselves.

Which leads us onto a curious mystery why so few women join this site. Its the name of the site if anyone actually wondered...they would be better of calling it bunchofderangedkinkyweirdfukersperveslockemallup. The site name/domain has to be softened.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/8/2016 5:10:33 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

...they would be better of calling it bunchofderangedkinkyweirdfukersperveslockemallup. The site name/domain has to be softened.

I have to confess, I have actually thought this on MANY occasions...however I have been able to weed through and find a few worth talking to, and have even developed some friendships on here. My thoughts are that most men have unrealistic expectations when they come here (from watching too much porn, which is all fantasy). If they lose the fantasy bullshit and get down to WHAT WORKS IN A REAL LIFE RELATIONSHIP (be it romance or just a friendship), they would have more success finding a match. Unfortunately most set themselves up for failure by writing to Dommes hundreds or even thousands of miles away, rather than locals in their own state or province. Then they can receive the rejection they feel they have the right to complain about.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/8/2016 5:58:32 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Try meeting people in real life instead of sitting behind a computer typing one handed. If your social skills are that abysmal that you're not welcome in your local community, then focus on getting them fixed. Which will also be enormously beneficial to you in real life.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/8/2016 7:38:58 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		The local community is an extrapolation of members on sites DEsfip

Then there are people like me

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/13/2016 10:20:01 AM   
Inghammar


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Status: offline 		If your interests are straightforward bondage or impact play, you can probably meet someone who shares those interests who lives close to you. If you have a rare kink then you will likely need to expand your search. I dated locally and had partners who had common kinks and were great people. Bondage and spanking scratched an itch but it wasn't entirely what I was after. If I had settled, I would have likely became resentful toward a person for no other reason than she will never be who I wanted her to be. I did not want a partner who at best would just humor me and whose heart wasn't in it. That's weird and awkward.

I avoided all of that nonsense and found someone in another State. I moved and we've been happy since.

What I am saying is long-distance searches aren't just for bounders who burned out their local community but are sometimes necessary.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 11/13/2016 10:40:09 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		http://www.datingkinky.com/ go there

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 12/1/2016 4:11:23 PM   
Diffident


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Status: offline 		Someone has posted a warning about a site called ifet.com on her blog. What she does say about their privacy policy certainly does look worrying...

https://mistresstissa.wordpress.com/2015/12/03/beware-of-ifet-com/

I wonder how many people would read that stuff before signing up to a site.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 12/1/2016 5:24:46 PM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

The local community is an extrapolation of members on sites DEsfip

Then there are people like me


sweetie, there are no others like you.

'cept for maybe your twin sister.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 12/2/2016 10:28:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DomStrictMale

All forums start out good and then get inundated with the Pro-Dommes, FinDoms, and the usual plethora of gold digging skanks. But ignoring and forgetting about them, everyone has better luck on different forums. Might be geographical or related to preferences and so forth, but I've met some great women here, Fetlife, Craigslist and on and on.

Are fetlife still doing that invite only thing at the moment? That'll be an issue for most.

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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 12/2/2016 10:59:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Diffident

Someone has posted a warning about a site called ifet.com on her blog. What she does say about their privacy policy certainly does look worrying...

https://mistresstissa.wordpress.com/2015/12/03/beware-of-ifet-com/

I wonder how many people would read that stuff before signing up to a site.

It's not dissimilar to many sites - including this one.

And I wonder how many actually read all of this site's ToS before they signed up.
I did. Did you??


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RE: Good alternatives to CS - 12/2/2016 11:35:17 AM   
SnarkDom


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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods

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ORIGINAL: DomStrictMale

All forums start out good and then get inundated with the Pro-Dommes, FinDoms, and the usual plethora of gold digging skanks. But ignoring and forgetting about them, everyone has better luck on different forums. Might be geographical or related to preferences and so forth, but I've met some great women here, Fetlife, Craigslist and on and on.

Are fetlife still doing that invite only thing at the moment? That'll be an issue for most.


They nipped that in the bud pretty quickly after announcing it, because so many people were against it.

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