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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The thing about not wanting to ask him for stuff because then it isn't what he really wants is that this attitude assumes he's a selfish asshole who never wants you to feel good. Whereas if he's at all a decent human being, what you're actually doing is depriving him of the opportunity to feel good about himself for doing things for his partner.

People have impulses and one of those impulses is to do things for people we love.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
I'd actually say that women lack the spatial ability to drive, because their targeting is woefully inferior to ours. Besides, do people who fuck you generally let you talk that much?

According to car insurers though, women pay less than men around here, because they are statistically proven to be safer drivers. Ya know insurers will find any reason to charge the crap out of you. Like for example, First year drivers being most dangerous pays double the premium of a 3 year driver for example.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
I'd actually say that women lack the spatial ability to drive, because their targeting is woefully inferior to ours. Besides, do people who fuck you generally let you talk that much?

According to car insurers though, women pay less than men around here, because they are statistically proven to be safer drivers. Ya know insurers will find any reason to charge the crap out of you. Like for example, First year drivers being most dangerous pays double the premium of a 3 year driver for example.

No, car insurers charge women less because they spend less time on the road and the time they do spend on the road is usually less busy and safer. Women tend to be dropping kids off to school, picking them up from school and running to the grocery store. They don't drive in the dark, in heavy rain or snow or during peak hour anywhere near as often as men do.

So in terms of total accidents, they have less - in terms of accidents per miles driven, they have more. Men are actually safer.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Pain is not my thing i am not a maso, i guess that is why i am not with a sadist.
I can't get past the pain part to get to the pleasure part cause Master does not like to hurt me. I do have to admit i like "funishment" spankings.
I guess the only thng Master does that hurts is he likes to squeeze and bite my nipples. I mean after a while they get a little sore and it hurts more than usual.

Matt's littleone

Have you tried sensation play? It sounds like it really should be something you like.

Basically imagine being blindfolded (and laying on a bed or something) perhaps tied down too, but that's not really needed and having him apply a whole bunch of different things to your skin at different places in order to get reactions. Fur gloves, cold metal chain, candle wax, tracing your skin with a feather, ice cubes, the point of a dull knife making circles around your nipples, the feel of his hand intermittent on and off, a rubber 'sticky' ball being rolled over your skin, basically anything that can cause any kind of sensation in your skin at all, especially if it contrasts with other sensations (hard vs soft, cold vs hot) or if it's in any way strange, or unusual.

It makes for some very amazing, very sensual scenes, that heighten the sensation of your skin and touch so much, that if he fucks you afterwards (without taking the blindfold off first) you end up feeling like you're on another planet.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The thing about not wanting to ask him for stuff because then it isn't what he really wants is that this attitude assumes he's a selfish asshole who never wants you to feel good. Whereas if he's at all a decent human being, what you're actually doing is depriving him of the opportunity to feel good about himself for doing things for his partner.

People have impulses and one of those impulses is to do things for people we love.

That's a really good point. I never looked at it that way before.

It might also tight into why I had a hard time asking him stuff before (though didn't realize on a conscious level) because I pretty much want him to seem to be a selfish asshole.
I've learned enough along the way to realize I really don't want him to be a selfish asshole, but I want to be able to imagine he is. Telling him what I want ruins that image.

Hell, it's why I like Awareness so much. He's pretty much the prototypical 'totally caring and provider driven, but can pull off pretending to be a selfish asshole to the T'.

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The thing about not wanting to ask him for stuff because then it isn't what he really wants is that this attitude assumes he's a selfish asshole who never wants you to feel good. Whereas if he's at all a decent human being, what you're actually doing is depriving him of the opportunity to feel good about himself for doing things for his partner.

People have impulses and one of those impulses is to do things for people we love.

That's a really good point. I never looked at it that way before.

It might also tight into why I had a hard time asking him stuff before (though didn't realize on a conscious level) because I pretty much want him to seem to be a selfish asshole.
I've learned enough along the way to realize I really don't want him to be a selfish asshole, but I want to be able to imagine he is. Telling him what I want ruins that image.

Hell, it's why I like Awareness so much. He's pretty much the prototypical 'totally caring and provider driven, but can pull off pretending to be a selfish asshole to the T'.

You really think he's pretending?

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
Women tend to be dropping kids off to school, picking them up from school and running to the grocery store. They don't drive in the dark, in heavy rain or snow or during peak hour anywhere near as often as men do.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
Women tend to be dropping kids off to school, picking them up from school and running to the grocery store. They don't drive in the dark, in heavy rain or snow or during peak hour anywhere near as often as men do.

In my country, you can be sure dropping off kids and picking up kids are RIGHT in the middle of the craziest peak hour for traffic and be prepared to be stuck in jams for ages and maneuver through chaotic traffic. I don't know how is school possible off peak hours, as people drop kids on the way to work, and then pick up kids when they are coming home from work. That's literally peak hours.

I don't know. You know. My mom does sales, so her job involves driving around to see clients all over Singapore and Malaysia all day, and yes she is also responsible for picking up and dropping off kids, and groceries, she definitely drives way more. My dad's job is just to drive to work, sit in an office and then drive home. Or else, he is always traveling overseas for work.

My mom has gotten into zero accidents. My dad probably more than 20 accidents in his life time. One of it was crashing into a tree and I don't know how that happens!

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ORIGINAL: Diffident

I just wanted to say that the cartoon at the top of the page is great and that I'm stealing it for future use somewhere.

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

Awareness can't handle the cognitive dissonance when facts prove his "women are inferior" broken record wrong.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: Diffident

I just wanted to say that the cartoon at the top of the page is great and that I'm stealing it for future use somewhere.

It's from http://oglaf.com/cumsprite/ he's pretty awesome most weeks.

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

I take pain better when I'm drunk. But that's frowned at round bdsm parts.