You ask..."Why do many pretend to be submissive and then try to make demands or suggestions? I am so annoyed. Some are needy too and do"n't have patience. Where are all the subs who know their place? "
A Dom recently wrote his sign on his Dungeon entrance reads: "LEARN TO OBEY BEFORE YOU COMMAND", its so true!
You are very young, and I'm proud of you coming forth this this great concern and question!!
I'm a Switch and understand both realms to a point ( could use more experience myself)...
Have you a feeling thaI it a Trust Issue from lack of experience is on the front line?
Thats what it is alot, and now you ask them. AND You Must Build TRUST &
DOM/SUB respect. Sub has the power and it comes from happiness, joy, and by all means DESIRE.
Ask questions, demand answers
, BE A GOOD LEADER... Never break their Trust & step outside your negotiations/rules. Subs positively needs to feel at ease with the Dom whose going to submit them to punishment.
1) The Quote: "LEARN TO OBEY BEFORE YOU COMMAND"... it helps you become more proficient, stronger, and learn the power in vulnerability,you can become a better Mistress or Master. help break the cycle of many so called Doms who you can read like a book: their pure expectancy, systematic; lacking productiveness: I'ld act up too to test you or walk-on finding the intelligent creative Dom to fullfill my expectations... (am still looking)
2) COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE!!! ALL SUBMISSIVES ARE DIFFERENT, as are Doms... if you both write down your expectancies, directions, and build your rules.
I wish peace joy and happiness to you & your next Sub.