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Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 5:13:17 AM   
Whitechocololate


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I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.
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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 5:22:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.

Sounds like an online married wanker to me.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 7:15:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.


That's because he's full of shit and lying. He's just looking for wank fodder.


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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 8:44:34 AM   
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as noirmetal says. Easier said than done but try be a bit more careful. He has wasted how many hundreds/thousand hours of your time?..and that is why you see me, from time to time, go on a rant about liars...

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 8:49:39 AM   
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to the OP

maybe collaring someone you know nothing about would be something to think more deeply about.



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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 9:24:38 AM   
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None of the serious stuff should even come into the discussion until after you've met each other in person many times to ensure you are compatible in a areas. You can't know the person just by chat on line. The other person could be lying about everything.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 11:20:52 AM   
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This is a slave I spent alot of time with and finally decided it was time. He was on his way to come get me when He claims a mistress from there has to approve it because I am a outsider.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 11:38:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

This is a slave I spent alot of time with and finally decided it was time. He was on his way to come get me when He claims a mistress from there has to approve it because I am a outsider.

I'm guessing all of the time you spent with him was online and not in person. Is this the case?

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 12:58:21 PM   
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No we actually spent weekend's together for the last 2 months

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 1:17:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

This is a slave I spent alot of time with and finally decided it was time. He was on his way to come get me when He claims a mistress from there has to approve it because I am a outsider.


I suppose his lie to get out of commitment could have been worse. He could have told you that he was returning video tapes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8coOHhotXY

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 1:25:20 PM   
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If you have to question this, perhaps you hare not ready to own a slave.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/26/2017 2:49:37 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissKatya


quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.


That's because he's full of shit and lying. He's just looking for wank fodder.




This right here to me

Have a good day!



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RE: Owning A Slave - 3/30/2017 7:42:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.


No its not true and its nonsense. He had been leading you on and jerking off and when the time came to meet he made his excuses and broke off contact. Sadly, the overwelming majority of so called male submissives and slaves on all lifestyle websites on the internet do exactly that.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/3/2017 8:02:27 PM   
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While this does sound like an excuse by someone playing mind games and stringing Mistress along, is there any reason why Mistress cannot contact the Mistress in question and confirm the truth of the probationary slave?
If access to the slave's current Mistress is disallowed, then proof of the slave's manipulation will be obvious and Mistress can act as She sees fit, with immediate dismissal a clear option.
Respectfully,
StephanieB51

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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/14/2017 12:51:31 PM   
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While this does sound like an excuse by someone playing mind games and stringing Mistress along, is there any reason why Mistress cannot contact the Mistress in question and confirm the truth of the probationary slave?
If access to the slave's current Mistress is disallowed, then proof of the slave's manipulation will be obvious and Mistress can act as She sees fit, with immediate dismissal a clear option.
Respectfully,
StephanieB51

Seems like an awful lot of nonsense and yuge waste of time, StephanieB51.

Gotta know when to hold them and know when to fold them, etc. for the sake of dignity and self respect.

Welcome to the Boards.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/20/2017 5:52:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

No we actually spent weekend's together for the last 2 months


Thought about Your experience from different angles. Clearly he was afraid of something, so there is possibility:

a) he got cold feet ...

b) he was seeing two different Ladies, and felt you were pushing him into an immediate change of his life that he wasn't ready for.

c) he had a sudden, unexpected change in some other aspect of his personal life (ie: work, family, etc.) and needed more time to sort that out; yet You were not receptive to this need.

d) some combination of all of the above!

Honestly, only he could give You the real honest answer ... but I am thinking there are (were) a number of conflicting feelings and emotions ...

The reason he gave You was an immediate, quick and easy escape.

Which reminds me, after some time has gone by (or now that some time has gone by) without You, he might feel he made a huge, hasty mistake ... and be very receptive to moving forward, now. If You were to offer a second chance!

Did You ever think about sending him an email (or text, or phone call) asking him how he is doing?

For sometimes being the Dominant Mistress means utilizing Your ability to outsmart a slave, no?








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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/20/2017 7:37:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.


It might be true, but it probably is not.

The female slave I currently own (and who has lived with us for over a year now) was under the direction of a Dominant she had sought out as a mentor when we met her online. The called him 'Trainer' and claimed that while they were not in a relationship together, she was under his control, and that it was under his direction that she started looking for Owners to have a relationship with. Due to this she needed his permission before taking certain steps in the 'getting to know us', such as cam, phone, and finally an in person visit.
Yet he was not available to talk to, and all communication went trough her (again because he had directed this, because he wanted her to learn to be more outgoing, and had tried to use him as a proxy to get to know new people in the past.

If somebody had come on the forums and told me that story, I would have said: Red flag, wanker, time waster, run like hell.
Yet she was engaging to talk to, so my husband and I continued to engage her online, convinced it was all utter bullshit, and planned to stop talking to her as soon as it stopped being entertaining.
To our surprise, we soon talked to her on the phone, then saw her on cam, and within the span of two weeks she was talking about coming out for a visit. We picked her up at the airport a few weeks later. Within 2 months from that, she moved in with us, and here we are, a years later...

So while I agree with everybody else that the most likely thing that's happening is that he came up with some lame excuse because he's got cold feet, there's also the fact that you never really know.
It's possible he's got some similar type of arrangement with a local Mistress as my slave did, and feels he needs her permission.

As far my advice is on how to proceed goes:
If you're really interested in him, by all means, keep engaging with him until the cost of dealing with him becomes bigger than the joy/benefit you're getting out of it.
But keep in mind that his story is most likely not true, and thus assume that it's not, and base your feelings, attachments, and dealings with him on that theory, unless and until you're proven wrong.

If he starts to get annoying to deal with, or his story is proven to be false, drop him like a ton of bricks. It's not worth it to start a relationship off on those terms.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/21/2017 5:31:22 PM   
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Good girl, you just gave him his wank fodder.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/21/2017 9:24:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

If somebody had come on the forums and told me that story, I would have said: Red flag, wanker, time waster, run like hell.



Indeed ... as I suggested earlier ...

COMMUNICATE with the other person.

Right now, there is no evidence of .. whatever ... ???? .


< Message edited by seekingOwnertoo -- 4/21/2017 9:30:20 PM >


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RE: Owning A Slave - 4/21/2017 9:28:23 PM   
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Good girl, you just gave him his wank fodder.



Clearly, the OP can move confidently on this thread; and on everything about this thread.

And why not? ???



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