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Being used - 6/24/2017 8:09:00 PM   
tounge00


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Hi to all Mistresses and i thank you in advance for your help.
My question is about my relationship which is basically me being used for money and Dommed by my gf. It started out great but i soon realised that she wasnt joking about her motto "every things ok if you know im always right".

This has turned out to be the way she runs her relationships and we have had a lot of trouble in the past which has always led to me being dumped and eventually crawling back to her to appologise and basically beg for forgiveness even tho the fights start with me just trying to let her know that she has hurt me in some way....this usually meant me being called a sook and told i have mental problems.

It has been 4 years now, last xmas i spent $000s on her and kids and im madly in love with her, she is amazing, 12yrs younger than me and stunningly beautiful. Im pretty sure by this time she knows she has full control over me and has got to a point where she can basically treat me however she likes, which is sometimes really horrible :(

She and her 2 daughters have at times treated me like crap and her daughters regularly refer to me as "mr nobody" and have threatened me...."get outta my way or ill punch you in the face" etc. snatch things from me, even my own things....threaten to film me when upset and post on youtube etc....

Im really not sure what to do because im so in love with her and care so much for her and here kids even tho they treat me so badly. I couldnt imagine life without her.
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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 8:30:49 PM   
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No, I am not a mistress but your problem crosses lines. Time to sit down alone and ask yourself, why you are so in love with her ? It's been my experience that such love it at least partially a two way street. From what you describe, yours is all one way.

If all you ever get is gruff from her and her kids, then you set yourself up for an emotionally barren future. In all of my M/s relationships, they have been very emotional two way affairs. It is my firm belief and I don't know how you've lasted for 4 years but without a deep affection, you'll endure some real and maybe serious mental problems from which there may be no return.

Suck it up, threaten to leave and see how they react. If they even hint that they don't care, then be prepared to do just that.


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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 8:40:57 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tounge00

Hi to all Mistresses and i thank you in advance for your help.
My question is about my relationship which is basically me being used for money and Dommed by my gf. It started out great but i soon realised that she wasnt joking about her motto "every things ok if you know im always right".

This has turned out to be the way she runs her relationships and we have had a lot of trouble in the past which has always led to me being dumped and eventually crawling back to her to appologise and basically beg for forgiveness even tho the fights start with me just trying to let her know that she has hurt me in some way....this usually meant me being called a sook and told i have mental problems.

It has been 4 years now, last xmas i spent $000s on her and kids and im madly in love with her, she is amazing, 12yrs younger than me and stunningly beautiful. Im pretty sure by this time she knows she has full control over me and has got to a point where she can basically treat me however she likes, which is sometimes really horrible :(

She and her 2 daughters have at times treated me like crap and her daughters regularly refer to me as "mr nobody" and have threatened me...."get outta my way or ill punch you in the face" etc. snatch things from me, even my own things....threaten to film me when upset and post on youtube etc....

Im really not sure what to do because im so in love with her and care so much for her and here kids even tho they treat me so badly. I couldnt imagine life without her.



If all you care about is that she is 12 years younger than you and that she is beautiful you deserve all the shit she can give you. Would you be in love with her if she was your age (or God forbid older) and was just average looking but the same person?

Shallow people deserve shallow lives and that's just what you got.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 8:58:06 PM   
tounge00


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I guess i hadnt thought about the age thing but as i said i am in love with her...and who she is.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 9:00:50 PM   
tamaka


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ORIGINAL: tounge00

I guess i hadnt thought about the age thing but as i said i am in love with her...and who she is.


She's a rotten cunt. If you are in love with her, you're an idiot. And a shallow idiot at that. You get what you deserve.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 9:42:05 PM   
tounge00


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yes you are probaly right.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 9:43:23 PM   
tamaka


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tounge00

yes you are probaly right.


There is no 'probably' about it.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 10:21:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: tounge00

I guess i hadnt thought about the age thing but as i said i am in love with her...and who she is.


She's a rotten cunt. If you are in love with her, you're an idiot. And a shallow idiot at that. You get what you deserve.


Ditto.

You're obviously not in love with her because of what a wonderful person she is.
You're 'in love' with her because she's younger, pretty, and you don't think that you'll ever be able to get another woman as young and pretty as her (especially not one who's also nicer).

Seeing that you value "younger and pretty" over "has a nice personality" you're not willing to leave her, because you can't do any better.

So really... you're getting EXACTLY what you're wanting from this relationship: a young and pretty woman, with it not mattering at all what kind of personality she has... so why exactly are you complaining? As long as she's still younger and pretty, she's living up to her side of things, so why are you unhappy?

If it's because you're starting to realize that maybe... just maybe... looks aren't everything, and having a drop dead gorgeous woman is no use if she's a royal cunt, then you should look at reevaluating what it exactly you're looking for in a woman... and you'll find out quite quickly that you CAN do better than her... as long as you're willing to not have the youngest and prettiest woman you could have.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 10:40:47 PM   
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cool.you have the income to find a decent woman instead.

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RE: Being used - 6/24/2017 10:52:55 PM   
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Yeah, that's what we call being cunt struck.

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 12:12:55 AM   
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It's getting awfully deep in here.

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 1:50:29 AM   
tounge00


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Look i really do love her!! and i dont appreciate all the feral language about her, like i sais!!! i do love her for WHO she is! she puts up with my crap from time to time and i have formed close bonds with her and her kids!

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 1:52:08 AM   
tounge00


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and YES Tamaka, i SAID you are right!

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 2:44:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tounge00

Look i really do love her!! and i dont appreciate all the feral language about her, like i sais!!! i do love her for WHO she is! she puts up with my crap from time to time and i have formed close bonds with her and her kids!


Pretty much everyone who bears their soul in any capacity on this forum is going to get shit on and told that they're a loser, etc.
It's not up to me to decide why you're attracted to this woman-- it could be because you were raised in a household where everyone had to make a certain not-so-nice person happy or face terrible consequences, and this is somehow connected to that.

I have to admit, if the kids were being terrible to me on a regular basis, I would be pissed... mostly because nobody should be raising their kids to treat other people like that.
Still, they're not yours, which always makes it a lot harder with discipline, especially if their biological mother isn't going to take your side.

Just because you're in an unequal relationship doesn't mean that you can't stick up for yourself... but honestly, I can't imagine things ever getting better for you.

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 5:14:12 AM   
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i rarely wander off the religious and political section but this one caught my eye---let me add something that no one else has really mentioned yet.

"love" wants the best for the "beloved" and allowing her to treat you the way she does is not consistent with that, but rather in creating a monster of both her and her kids.

you don't "love" her in the noblest sense of the word, rather---you have a pathetic need for her.

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 5:35:48 AM   
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Being submissive is one thing, Being used is another
You my dear are being used.
If you dont like it, leave
If you like it, stay.
If you are being abused, get some outside help to get out of it.
Dont become a statistic.

Caveat, we only have one side of the story.
PS while I get that some in the realm of kink have a familial BDSM aspect, I wouldnt take that from anyones kids. And that is a whole nother subject. Respect for others is what passes for a life lesson or two

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 8:13:19 AM   
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Well sometimes you have to give them a thrashing of their life, then a beating with some pots and pans, and a potato masher, and that funny thing that looks like a big spoon but with holes in it.

Others I set to task cleaning oven, others I put down the muffinium mines so that humanity never see there kind again, others i simply flush down the loo as they were making the place look a bit unkempt, and others I sell on muffinbay – I don’t keep the money for their garbage I just hurl it away.


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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 8:18:47 AM   
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I'm curious to know, How old are the kids ?

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 10:05:16 AM   
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As much as I hate being a contrarian*, I can help with the "why does he love her?" question. He is hopelessly devoted to this woman and takes her abuse because she exists only in his mind.






*JK I love it

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RE: Being used - 6/25/2017 11:48:54 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tounge00



---She and her 2 daughters have at times treated me like crap and her daughters regularly refer to me as "mr nobody" and have threatened me...."get outta my way or ill punch you in the face" etc. snatch things from me, even my own things....threaten to film me when upset and post on youtube etc....


Followed by this,

quote:

...she puts up with my crap from time to time and i have formed close bonds with her and her kids!


So which one is it?

But cool story, bro.


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