You bring up a good point “Be the person other people want to meet”. One of the things I think that has helped me in that area is communication skills. How to communicate with other people.
And, oddly enough, I don't consider that a strong suit of mine in written form. A skill that is highly advantageous on the forums where discussions are taking place. I consider myself fair to midland, though I'm often better in person.
Not a secret to those in the forums, I travel a lot work. That travel encompasses 11 different countries and 9 different languages and I only speak 3 of those languages. I interface with people from upper management to line operators making minimum wage.
I'm glad you mentioned it. Not being a Dr Who fan myself, I didn't intrude on the thread about the subject. However, I have always had the impression that your German was better than you were disclosing on the thread.
One of the skills I learned in my job was how to communicate effectively, regardless of language, country, religion, gender or culture. This is something I am very thankful for and has helped my career immensely. Learning how to listen is just as important as learning how to speak. Realizing different people, different cultures do things differently. Being receptive of that fact and getting the people engaged in what you are doing/want to do makes a world of difference.
I believe you to be right and you and I could probably chew on the subject as it relates to work for days. It's one of the reasons I've done better in certain employment positions than I probably had the right to do so.
This spills over into my personal life and I think it is one of the reasons I find it easy to meet people.
I'm sure it is.
Now, I am going to say something that is based on personal opinion. I think that the atmosphere of the site has changed in the course of the last decade. Back when there were so many more people who were forum participants who were also the people that could be seen at major events and so on, I think it was easier to meet people. They might not all be "partners" or even people that you got a shot to play with, but you could definitely meet them. You'd be at an event. They'd be at an event. Hang out, laugh, find things in common to talk about. Somewhere in there, you made a new friend.
Care to share more of your interview? What do you think are other things the people can do to “Be the person other people want to meet”?
To be honest, the interview I mentioned was my favorite one. I've been in Litterati and other types of print, and I still consider the one that crossed my mind to be the best. Part of it was open floor, so that was exceptionally cool.
So, let me ask you the same thing. What about other people are qualities that make them be the person you'd like to meet?
We've already touched on communication. Not just talking, but listening. Be curious about other people's interests. Find the things you have in common and the areas where you don't agree. That's how conversations happen.
Be fun. (This is one of the qualities I have that make me a good event/party promoter.) Whatever the heck it is, a huge majority of the time, we're going to have fun doing it. We're going to make memories that people talk about for a heck of a long time.
This is going to sound arrogant as hell but in more years than I can count, this is the best way to describe it. Yep, it's dumb, but it's from an old episode of "Friends".
Two of the characters know this person they went to college with that they've nicknamed Gandolf. He's kind of the party wizard that blows into town, makes whatever the people get up to ridiculously fun, and it becomes the best time.
Go places! Go to places you want to learn, places where people congregate, places that are different. It makes anyone a more interesting person.
And, when you do, share. Share memories, stories, and anecdotes.
Do that much, and it's a good place to start.
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