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"Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:23:08 AM

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I don't understand "craving" to submit. I can be inspired to submit by the right man but until that happens I'm not longing to find someone to submit to. It's not like craving a delicious slice of New York pizza. Not easy to satisfy in central Pennsylvania, by the way. :)

Am I unusual? Those of you who haven't found someone do you have this gnawing feeling inside you that demands to be satisfied?

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:24:48 AM

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and you are?

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:27:56 AM

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and you are?

My delightful self.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:33:10 AM

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Unlikely I will ever touch a women again - but i always define myself. I half know what you mean.

One cannot make a bit of garbage submit - for they are truly without worth - do you understand that from my desire point of view?

I would therefore deem your less than ordinary and that is not a good place to be now is it.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:42:27 AM

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Why would I care what you "deem"?

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 12:45:21 PM

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You set this one in motion
Now when someone like me ask for the world I wish?

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 1:39:14 PM

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I don't know that I would say I've carried a craving to submit, but I practice (as in, continually try to improve) my submission, with or without a Dominant. Submission isn't bound to the confines of my intimate relationship. If someone does, indeed, have a craving to submit, frankly I would just tell them to go ahead and do it, then. There are a zillion ways to be of service to so many people. Finding sexual arousal in it is the kink part of it, but there are definitely submissive women (and men, I suppose, though I don't know any of them) who are led to a life of service but don't have a dominant partner.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 1:52:12 PM

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It's primal for some.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIac4nKaAy4

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 2:06:56 PM

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When I discovered/realized that I was submissive, I had a really intense need to find a significant other. I could describe it as a craving......
I wanted the whole enchilada .... and I wanted it NOW!!!!!!!

Once that was out of my system, I went back to "normal" mode. I wanted to and enjoyed submitting to my Sir, but it wasn't a craving.

After he died, I didn't have the same intensity of feeling, but did want to meet someone else. But it certainly wasn't like it was the first time.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 2:23:14 PM

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Yeah, I kinda went through sub frenzy early on.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 2:27:32 PM

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with who

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 2:30:30 PM

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5kmCgVhADY

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/3/2017 11:53:12 PM

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Craving is so....craven. :)

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/4/2017 6:50:59 PM

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I'm craving to be able to feel trust for someone to be able to let go everything, as in, getting out of the driver seat and letting him take over and trusting him to drive both of us and get us to our destinations. It's like, I prefer to find a leader to follow, than to lead. But while that leader does not exist yet. I will always be forced to lead.

For me, submission is more about trust than anything else.

And what I am craving for is more for trust than actual submission. With Trust comes submission.

I had a very sobering experience a few days ago. I am generally very open, because I feel like to form meaningful relationships, you gotta be open about your vulnerabilities.

But it is also a test. There are alot of nasty people who will see those vulnerabilities as weaknesses to use against you. Especially dominant men, if they are just about control, and it's a challenge, and they didn't really care about you as a person.

So what I like to do is be open about sensitive spots in my life.

And then test the dominant temper.

And see when he is angry, and loses control of himself, will he used the vulnerabilities in me that I was open with him about against me to hurt me. For me, it is a type of character that I do not like. I would never do that with someone I care about no matter how angry I am. Use what he share with me that was the most private part of his vulnerabilities against him in anger.

Time and time again, they always do. And well, genuine good inside people are hard to find. Most is always just pretending when they are trying to win you over.

I think in my whole life time, only two men passed this test. And both are still my good friends. But unfortunately didn't romantically take off for other reasons.

But I simply do this test to weed out potentially emotionally abusive men. There is alot of them out there. Life's too short to waste time around toxic people.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/9/2017 4:00:12 AM

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I firmly believe in the "primal" comment, as just as nature establishes a predator/prey situation for all things, we all tend to lean toward one side or the other. Some of us have an inherent need to dominate or control, but others are on the opposite end of that spectrum, and need to be used or abused in order to feel some sort of deep inner satisfaction. Is it a true craving?? .... from my own experiences, craving may not be the precise word to describe the burning need, but it comes about as close as possible, as there are no words to accurately describe many of our primal urges & needs.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/9/2017 6:45:47 AM

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When I first discovered there was a whole kinky world that existed outside my tiny boxed in life - I craved experiences... and I jumped in with both feet.

Now, 20 years later and so many experiences behind me I still enjoy new experiences, but they aren't cravings. Mostly it is simply appreciation for all things beautiful. I do, at times get a gypsy like craving to take off and just see what else is out there - but my K keeps me grounded and won't let me toss my camping gear and dog into the car and be a crazy shopping cart homeless lady.

I think we all go through phases in our lives where we crave, then we balance out and sometimes move on to new phases with new cravings and new experiences and learning potential.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/9/2017 8:15:40 AM

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Submissive couple looking for someone for intense sessions. We would like to find a dominate man or men that are hung nicely 8+ for during the daytime or nights after 10 pm through the week.Or be able to set up a gangbang. BBC +++ Sub has toys and loves bondage positions,tit torture, blindfolds,spanked, She is a three hole slut n likes it rough. She is very submissive and can take almost anything dished out,you will not be disappointed. Would be nice to text to set this up quicker if your interested.Looking to set this up for Monday afternoon/ evening will travel for right group.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/9/2017 8:22:28 AM

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*smiles

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/9/2017 2:35:13 PM

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I do not crave submitting, however it feeds a deep need within my fucked up psyche.

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RE: "Craving" to submit. - 7/11/2017 4:19:19 AM

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yes I do have this gnawing feeling inside of me

a craving to submit

I think about it all the time

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