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What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:12:38 PM   
WickedsDesire


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Self explanatory...I am not sure I have ever threaded on this forum ever :)

True story time do you know what my first ever username was?
MasterJamesUK

Was that a good choice or a bad choice? I came to resent it and yet there is no fallacy about it.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:20:12 PM   
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Sanity helps.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:26:05 PM   
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By all means define sanity and why and who it helps DESfip

I will expand further what makes a good Master Person of dominate aspect?

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:34:59 PM   
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Patience.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:48:39 PM   
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Patience for tamaka?

Hells bells another true story from the age of 20-32 I was with someone and we were married the last 3-6 years of that, fuked if I can remember exactly how long we were married, and that ended 13 years ago (FFS 47 work it out) in a amicable divorce – Lucky I know


Do you know what I remember about that tamaka an imperceptible decline..and yet there was over a decade of my patience versus the mad witch bints - valid as I do not like selfish beings - my perspective of course. Would you care to share an example or anyone else?

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 1:59:18 PM   
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Patience for tamaka?

Hells bells another true story from the age of 20-32 I was with someone and we were married the last 3-6 years of that, fuked if I can remember exactly how long we were married, and that ended 13 years ago (FFS 47 work it out) in a amicable divorce – Lucky I know


Do you know what I remember about that tamaka an imperceptible decline..and yet there was over a decade of my patience versus the mad witch bints - valid as I do not like selfish beings - my perspective of course. Would you care to share an example or anyone else?



Well for me, i had been hurt pretty bad by someone so i am not as easily trusting as i used to be. So it takes a while for me to 'warm up' to people now. Also, certain skills i didn't have (ie deep throating) take a while to develop so if Master had wanted a great bj the first time, he would have been very disappointed. It takes patience for a good Master to help their sub/slave to 'become' what they want them to be and to master the skills that they want their sub/slave to have. You need to have patience to continue to teach and train in an encouraging way.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 2:23:55 PM   
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Hurt in what way? Share or not tamaka, or everyone else. I did - my marriage.
But they say my heart is made of stone and I am incapable of being hurt by a mortal women - also true.

Mind you deep throat is rare let me think - two - or to be specific one was truly skilled

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 7/27/2017 6:32:20 PM   
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Oh fuck, that one is really easy: A good Master is one that wants the same sort of relationship dynamic as I do; and is into the same activities I am into.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 8/16/2017 9:28:48 AM   
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Don't call yourself a Master until you've actually mastered something. Whether it be rope, whips, obedience training, or whatever, put real blood, sweat and tears into learning a kinky craft that people can appreciate, respect, and above all trust. Work equally hard on personality: compassion, awareness (including self), humor, dignity, confidence, strength. Learn to block out easily invited negative emotions such as anger, bitterness, coldness, and self-pity.
In a nutshell, be a good self-reliant person with mad kink skillz and you will earn your Master's badge in no time.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 8/16/2017 2:37:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Hurt in what way? Share or not tamaka, or everyone else. I did - my marriage.
But they say my heart is made of stone and I am incapable of being hurt by a mortal women - also true.

Mind you deep throat is rare let me think - two - or to be specific one was truly skilled



Hurt by people who use you to take everything you have in every way and then discard you when you need them to give/help you.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 8/20/2017 10:18:00 AM   
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Patience.


And a good communicator with his eyes, voice, hands and other ways. Yes, patient communication as an art form.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 8/20/2017 10:20:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tamaka


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Hurt in what way? Share or not tamaka, or everyone else. I did - my marriage.
But they say my heart is made of stone and I am incapable of being hurt by a mortal women - also true.

Mind you deep throat is rare let me think - two - or to be specific one was truly skilled



Hurt by people who use you to take everything you have in every way and then discard you when you need them to give/help you.


Many Doms lack a need for a relationship you are looking for. They feel any attention they give you is all that you should expect. Then again...

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/14/2017 10:48:47 PM   
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Compassion.
Benevolence.
Altruism.
Kindness mixed with firmness.
Character.
A hairbrush. :)

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/18/2017 10:41:53 PM   
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There are all kinds of Masters and all kinds of subs and slaves. But what makes the Master good or bad? Tough one, but I'd say these characteristics are common to the good Masters I have known:

* Reliable / Consistent
* Respects your limits (!!!)
* Secure
* Confident
* Mature
* Inspires trust

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/19/2017 7:34:17 AM   
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The submissive that submits to you.

Other than that, you can be a legend in your own mind thinking you're Oz the great and terrible panty dropper, but not all (very few in fact) submissives are going to be all jazzed up over your dynamic and how you helm your life/style.

Sooooo... Until you have in your possession a submissive that is all in, you're a Dominant, master of none.

Jus sayin

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/19/2017 9:17:56 AM   
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quote:

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The submissive that submits to you.

Other than that, you can be a legend in your own mind thinking you're Oz the great and terrible panty dropper, but not all (very few in fact) submissives are going to be all jazzed up over your dynamic and how you helm your life/style.

Sooooo... Until you have in your possession a submissive that is all in, you're a Dominant, master of none.

Jus sayin


Guess who makes the submissive be 'all in'... hint... it's not her.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/19/2017 11:12:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

The submissive that submits to you.

Other than that, you can be a legend in your own mind thinking you're Oz the great and terrible panty dropper, but not all (very few in fact) submissives are going to be all jazzed up over your dynamic and how you helm your life/style.

Sooooo... Until you have in your possession a submissive that is all in, you're a Dominant, master of none.

Jus sayin


Guess who makes the submissive be 'all in'... hint... it's not her.



So, you're just so eager to serve you'd show up, grease up the foremast, cram it up your own ass for our little circumnavigation trip, right?

Hint, you're completely wrong. The submissive, he or she, signs up for the dynamic. When they're shanghaied into a dynamic we hear about it in another section of this forum.

Unless the idea of sailing the seven seas with the foremast of the ship rammed up your ass is your idea of a good time, I sincerely doubt that you will be ALL IN, and no matter how I sugar coat it, it's still a ships mast up your ass.

Jus sayin

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/19/2017 3:36:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: heartlessevil


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

The submissive that submits to you.

Other than that, you can be a legend in your own mind thinking you're Oz the great and terrible panty dropper, but not all (very few in fact) submissives are going to be all jazzed up over your dynamic and how you helm your life/style.

Sooooo... Until you have in your possession a submissive that is all in, you're a Dominant, master of none.

Jus sayin


Guess who makes the submissive be 'all in'... hint... it's not her.



So, you're just so eager to serve you'd show up, grease up the foremast, cram it up your own ass for our little circumnavigation trip, right?

Hint, you're completely wrong. The submissive, he or she, signs up for the dynamic. When they're shanghaied into a dynamic we hear about it in another section of this forum.

Unless the idea of sailing the seven seas with the foremast of the ship rammed up your ass is your idea of a good time, I sincerely doubt that you will be ALL IN, and no matter how I sugar coat it, it's still a ships mast up your ass.

Jus sayin



You evidently have no understanding of what this lifestyle is about.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/20/2017 4:41:53 AM   
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For me, a Good Master is someone who can control me and make me feel happy going along whatever he wants. And his mental maturity need to really feel older than me. It doesn't matter if this guy is 60 or 20. Mental maturity usually doesn't correspond with actual age.

I see this traits in good leaders. Have you ever met someone who you just want to support and go along with him? Because you just have so much respect for his judgement and fairness as a person and you can trust him and his integrity.

I think it boils down alot to temperament and self-control too. Alot of self-proclaim Masters can't even control their own out of wack emotions and temper. That is not gonna inspire anything when I feel I have better control of myself than the "Master" did of himself. How can you trust someone who have no control of himself to take care of your safety?

I need to look up to someone. Not be his mother and take him in rein ya know, dealing with his tantrums.

I agree with ExileTyrant on one thing. Every sub needs a different type of Master who could control her, and suit her. So, a good Master is a Master who is successful in convincing a woman to serve him the way he wants her to and she feels happy doing it. I mean it is necessary she is content doing it or else she wouldn't stick around for long. So that's not an easy task. And that's what makes a good Master if he has succeeded in all that.

It's quite interesting in the context of BDSM, because mutual consent is required. So the Master wants things a certain way, he needs to figure out how to make a modern woman want things his way. This part is the difficult part, that's why ya got many self proclaim masters complaining there are no real subs around.

In real slavery, he just do everything non-consensually, no need to convince anybody. No skills needed really. Just be born at the time and period where they are in power and it's not against the law to take non-consensual slaves.

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RE: What makes a Good Master - 9/20/2017 10:37:12 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: heartlessevil


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

The submissive that submits to you.

Other than that, you can be a legend in your own mind thinking you're Oz the great and terrible panty dropper, but not all (very few in fact) submissives are going to be all jazzed up over your dynamic and how you helm your life/style.

Sooooo... Until you have in your possession a submissive that is all in, you're a Dominant, master of none.

Jus sayin


Guess who makes the submissive be 'all in'... hint... it's not her.



So, you're just so eager to serve you'd show up, grease up the foremast, cram it up your own ass for our little circumnavigation trip, right?

Hint, you're completely wrong. The submissive, he or she, signs up for the dynamic. When they're shanghaied into a dynamic we hear about it in another section of this forum.

Unless the idea of sailing the seven seas with the foremast of the ship rammed up your ass is your idea of a good time, I sincerely doubt that you will be ALL IN, and no matter how I sugar coat it, it's still a ships mast up your ass.

Jus sayin



You evidently have no understanding of what this lifestyle is about.





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