Greta75
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1) What D/s protocols are currently the most important to you? I don't believe in protocols with anybody who I have not accepted as my Master or anybody who calls themselves a dominant. But in a committed D/S relationship with someone. I do love Protocols and rituals. Really really enjoyed that aspect of it. I like the whole, coming home, no clothes beyond a certain area. So the only thing I really like about inspiration from Gorean is all the Positions. There is nothing I love more than just coming home, and stripping and kneeling and wait for further instructions or to be inspected, like everyday, coming home from work. Gives me something to look forward for everyday after work, and can't wait to go home! I never had the no eye contact rule done on me, but I think I would have loved that. I don't think I like the idea to speak in third person though, just because, there are vanilla situations with friends, and I may accidentally slip into third person speech because I am used to that at home or something. With speech, I prefer to keep it normal. 2) If you're a Dom, or Master, what's your current 'typical' approach/method of after care? Not a Dom or a Master. But I don't think aftercare is one size fits all. Once you get to know your sub better, you will understand what she needs from you for aftercare. Some may not even need it. Some need alot of it. 3) For you, how do you view the difference between play scenes and training? When I was in a full time live in D/S relationship for 2.5 years. I religiously adhere to every routine/protocol/rules and really enjoyed following them. Made me feel like a sex slave. On the other hand, training to me is part of play scene. I may adhere to all the rules and abide by all the protocol set by my Master. Doesn't mean it isn't play to me. To me, the ENTIRE D/S relationship is one big full time play, including the training part. I never see it as real, because it's not real. Slavery was consensual. Not real. Not legal in the eyes of our law. My x-dom fortunately, I guess that's why we get along. I think our dynamic is more like, we are in a perpetual play scene by default, until, I tell him, I want my boyfriend back. Then he snaps out of it and we are equals again and usually it is to discuss serious things. Otherwise, I don't believe in disciplinary actions. I like a completely unreasonable Master who punishes you for his own pleasure and fun. You don't have to do anything wrong. You can do everything right and he will still punish you because he wants to and feels like it. That's the dynamic I enjoyed, so this is the way it has to work for me. I have to see it as playing the whole time. I like the feeling of how I can't do anything right to get on his good side. He is perpetually punishing me for anything and everything. But in another words, it just means all the punishments are fun for me to play along. I don't believe in real punishment that actually hurt my feelings. I just associate real punishment with hate. And I don't want to sub under somebody who is hating on me. Ahh just like everything. Finding your Ying to your Yang is challenging. If two people fit, they will just get each other on every level. No verbal communication even needed.
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