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planff01 -> how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 4:16:21 PM)
How can a master make his slave stop coming on the website after she is posted she is owned and collared by master

Wayward5oul -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 4:19:41 PM)
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stef -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 4:42:38 PM)
Cut off her hands?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 4:59:24 PM)
Tell her not to? I mean isn't that the basics of having a slave, they do what you tell them?

Kaliko -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 5:21:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Tell her not to? I mean isn't that the basics of having a slave, they do what you tell them? This. So, OP, let's assume you have a crappy slave. 1. Set up her computer user profile so that she can't access the site. 2. Change her password to the site. or 3. Prohibit her access to the internet. I'm sure there are more ways to ensure compliance, such as a solid M/s relationship that doesn't cause her to act out behind your back and doesn't cause you to second-guess your strategies, but if it's a question of logistics (and sometimes, that's really all it is), then this doesn't seem like too difficult a problem to solve.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:05:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Tell her not to? I mean isn't that the basics of having a slave, they do what you tell them? So, OP, let's assume you have a crappy slave. Or he's got a slave who follows a more historic path of slavery than the current BDSM one, and doesn't obey commands the Master can't/won't/doesn't enforce. I mean seriously... this definition of 'slave' = 'a person who does what you said just because you said it' is really quite new, and rather odd, considering the historical context of the word...

tamaka -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:12:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Tell her not to? I mean isn't that the basics of having a slave, they do what you tell them? So, OP, let's assume you have a crappy slave. Or he's got a slave who follows a more historic path of slavery than the current BDSM one, and doesn't obey commands the Master can't/won't/doesn't enforce. I mean seriously... this definition of 'slave' = 'a person who does what you said just because you said it' is really quite new, and rather odd, considering the historical context of the word... I guess the only way a Master could enforce something along those lines is to say... If you disobey me and I find out, then you will be released. Then it is up to the slave whether doing such a thing is worth the gamble.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:15:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka I guess the only way a Master could enforce something along those lines is to say... If you disobey me and I find out, then you will be released. Then it is up to the slave whether doing such a thing is worth the gamble. Wow, you lack imagination.

tamaka -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:19:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka I guess the only way a Master could enforce something along those lines is to say... If you disobey me and I find out, then you will be released. Then it is up to the slave whether doing such a thing is worth the gamble. Wow, you lack imagination. Lol. Yes... i have like no domme in me at all...lol I kind of meant like, if he's working and she's at home on the computer. My ex Master would have punished me by beating the shit out of me or some other terrible punishment, but i am not into the punishment dynamic anymore so i don't think like that much anymore

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:30:20 PM)
Yeah, that's a no. We are talking about CONSENSUAL make believe slavery, so yeah, obedience is the SOP. smh

DesFIP -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:36:23 PM)
Most of us are in relationships. We aren't coming here to troll for new partners. So why does it hurt her to read how other people do things and get suggestions or support? More importantly, if she really is inspired by her dom, she won't want to talk with guys on the prowl. If you can't inspire love and devotion, then your problems are far more severe than what sites she reads for fun.q

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:40:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka I guess the only way a Master could enforce something along those lines is to say... If you disobey me and I find out, then you will be released. Then it is up to the slave whether doing such a thing is worth the gamble. Wow, you lack imagination. Lol. Yes... i have like no domme in me at all...lol I kind of meant like, if he's working and she's at home on the computer. My ex Master would have punished me by beating the shit out of me or some other terrible punishment, but i am not into the punishment dynamic anymore so i don't think like that much anymore Kaliko gave some good example on how to enforce it without punishment. You can also set childlocks, etc, on most electronics that will disallow use at certain times when he's not home. There's punishment for disobedience, with various methods of checking up, etc, etc. There's also talking to her and reinforcing the expectation by explaining he's displeased with her, and reexplaining what he wants. Maybe she misunderstood, didn't realize it was important, etc, etc. Saying that the only method he's got of enforcement is to kick her out if she goes online, is like saying that the only method a plantation owner had to enforce obedience was to kill slaves who disobeyed... on their first time. While of course it was true that that was the ultimate power they had, it was hardly the first method they turned to to extract obedience. Likewise, with a disobedient slave, the ultimate trump card is "no in a relationship with her anymore", because that's the ultimate consequence in any relationship, it's the same trump card she's got on him; if you're not happy with your partner's behavior, eventually you'll leave them. However, there's a lot of territory between "not meeting your partner's expectation" (which is what a slave disobeying an order is) and "breaking up with your partner". In my experience relationships where "breaking up" is constantly held over each other's, or one partner's head, the relationship doesn't tend to last long. Usually it makes a lot more sense to try to work on the issue first. Especially seeing that it might be as simple as her wanting more overt displays of his authority.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 8:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Yeah, that's a no. We are talking about CONSENSUAL make believe slavery, so yeah, obedience is the SOP. smh In your relationship maybe. Not in mine. In fact, obedience being SOP is a hard limit for me. I'd never consent to be the slave of somebody who expected me to obey them for no other reason than that they said something.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 9:01:18 PM)
OK babe, define things in whatever weird ass way tickles your cunt.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/24/2017 9:11:52 PM)
It's not a matter of tickling my cunt, it's a matter that in the most common form of BDSM relationship the s-type is expected to obey because they promised they would. I made no such promises, ergo obedience is not SOP in our relationship.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/25/2017 7:04:57 AM)
Whatever.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/25/2017 7:58:23 AM)
Too hard to wrap your head around the fact that I don't do: "You have to do what I said, cause otherwise I'm going to say you're a crappy slave/broke your promise to obey/aren't a real submissive/are just a brat/don't understand consensual slavery"? I don't owe him obedience. If he tells me to do something I have the option to do it, or to tell him to go fuck himself. Neither affects his authority, because his authority isn't based on me guaranteeing obedience. His authority is based on the fact that I acknowledge his right to enforce obedience if he wants to. It basically comes down me not going to the cops if he beats the shit out of me for telling him to fuck off... though of course we both acknowledge that I've got the right to end our D/s dynamic by revoking consent for him to do that. Obedience isn't SOP for me. It's the thing that happens if he makes it happen. If he doesn't bother to make it happen, it probably wont, unless it strikes my fancy. So for him to order me to stay off CollarSpace... yeah, he better put some blocks on my compute in place/take it or internet away, or at the least figure out a way to check up on me so he's got a chance at punishing me for disobedience, because that ain't happening unless he's actually going to bother enforcing it somehow. If it's just a matter of him staying "stay off CollarSpace" and doing nothing else, I can guarantee you that I'll disregard that instruction the very same day.

tamaka -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/25/2017 9:13:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar Too hard to wrap your head around the fact that I don't do: "You have to do what I said, cause otherwise I'm going to say you're a crappy slave/broke your promise to obey/aren't a real submissive/are just a brat/don't understand consensual slavery"? I don't owe him obedience. If he tells me to do something I have the option to do it, or to tell him to go fuck himself. Neither affects his authority, because his authority isn't based on me guaranteeing obedience. His authority is based on the fact that I acknowledge his right to enforce obedience if he wants to. It basically comes down me not going to the cops if he beats the shit out of me for telling him to fuck off... though of course we both acknowledge that I've got the right to end our D/s dynamic by revoking consent for him to do that. Obedience isn't SOP for me. It's the thing that happens if he makes it happen. If he doesn't bother to make it happen, it probably wont, unless it strikes my fancy. So for him to order me to stay off CollarSpace... yeah, he better put some blocks on my compute in place/take it or internet away, or at the least figure out a way to check up on me so he's got a chance at punishing me for disobedience, because that ain't happening unless he's actually going to bother enforcing it somehow. If it's just a matter of him staying "stay off CollarSpace" and doing nothing else, I can guarantee you that I'll disregard that instruction the very same day. So you don't respect him.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/25/2017 9:30:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka So you don't respect him. Where on Earth would you get that? If somebody orders your Master to go get them coffee, and that your Master doesn't, does the fact that he doesn't get coffee for other people reflect the fact that he doesn't respect them, or does it reflect the fact that he's not in an obedience dynamic with other people obligating him to go get coffee for them? You realize that tons of people who respect each other very much don't obey one another, right?

tamaka -> RE: how to keep my slave from coming to the website (8/25/2017 9:36:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka So you don't respect him. Where on Earth would you get that? If somebody orders your Master to go get them coffee, and that your Master doesn't, does the fact that he doesn't get coffee for other people reflect the fact that he doesn't respect them, or does it reflect the fact that he's not in an obedience dynamic with other people obligating him to go get coffee for them? You realize that tons of people who respect each other very much don't obey one another, right? Your example is irrelevant to your situation.

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